OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Monday, February 29

#7543

QUESTION:

How would you react if your T.A asked you out after the term is finished?

13 comments

  1. depends if you liked them

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  2. Wouldn't it be easier to ask them out in a friends sort of way? like, hey I liked this thing we talked about in class, I'd like to discuss it further if you're not busy on (day, time). Let's get coffee?

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    1. Transparent af. They're both adults, just ask them for coffee, skip the thinly-veiled cover story. If your self-esteem is so fragile that being rejected by a virtual stranger will be that much of a blow, you're not ready to contribute to a meaningful relationship anyway.

      OP, as a fellow TA: will you have anymore contact with this person in a professional setting? If not, go for it - your duties as a TA have been fulfilled. If he/she is attracted to you, he/she will say yes. No different than anyone else you'd ask out.

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    2. You gotta go big or go home.

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  3. Are you #7524 and #7527 again? Did it work out for you?

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  4. OP here, yes it's all me. I'm currently still just struggling with how it's not professional to have such feelings currently and am counting down the weeks until I can freely feel such a way.

    I never want to T.A an upper year course again because of this conflict.

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    1. If you feel it's going to get to the point that it would interfere with your ability to be objective with evaluations, then you need to just keep interactions with students purely professional. No personal banter at all. Just be robotic.

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    2. ^Or you know, make sure you check yourself whenever you're marking that one person. No reason to alienate them, the TA's marking isn't even that big of a part of their marks usually.

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    3. ^Can tell you've never read a TA contract before

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    4. ^Believe me, reading the contract would now change my opinion here. I can be subjective towards an assignment no matter who wrote it. Also, I've been a TA twice, though this sort of thing didn't come up.

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    5. Follow the head on your shoulders, not the other one.

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  5. I'd unload my donger into her vagayjay until she's pregnant. Gotta tie them to you.

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  6. Happened to me, lied and said I had a boyfriend. Wasn't interested. It was a bit awkward tbh.

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