OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Saturday, November 21

#7437

QUESTION:

Am I the only one who knows literally no one on campus?
I'm not even sad about it anymore.
I just go to class, then go home and do my thing.
Makes me happy that I don't have to deal with drama or friendships.
UW has finally broken me, and I'm happy in my solitude.
Go Warriors!

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  1. I know a lot of people but don't keep contact with any of them. I say hello if they cross my path and I answer their texts if they text me. I'm sure they are pretty chill people and in other circumstances we would be good friends, but I just don't have time for a social life now.

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  2. I am like this too. I wonder how many other people at UW are the same way.

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  3. really?
    are you really proud you are missing out on enjoying your youth?
    You are going to be old someday and the things you could do at uni won't come around again.
    inb4 drinking, sex

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  4. Wow this is really you shouldn't be proud of. At least your genes won't be passed down tho.

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  5. I am like this too; it's hard to balance social life at UW with studies. I go to school, study, and leave. I grew up here so I have my close friend group and during my co-ops and off-time I have no problem making new friends outside of UW.

    @3: Just because you're like this doesn't mean you're not enjoying your youth. If "enjoying your youth" is the focus of your university career, why did you even decide to come to university? It's a pretty inefficient use of money and time.

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    1. Lmao
      Do you really think school = only studying?
      Also do you really think studying all this time while you are uni is going to give you a better grade than someone with a normal healthy social life? And be honest your not studying all the time while you are at home, I bet you are mostly on YouTube or watching a movie seeing fictional people be social. And you are social but decided people on campus weren't good enough to be your friends? Lol sure buddy I bet you make a ton of friend outside of campus
      You guys are really limiting your own happiness because of few insecurities you can't get over
      If you want regret to be one of your major dominating feeling when you get old I say stay home lol

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    2. @5a. Some people prefer more alone time than others. It's just a preference. There are tons of enjoyable things to do that don't require other people- maybe you're just more extroverted than the other commenters?

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    3. @5b Great
      But most people who are satisfied with their loneliness don't post online how it's so cool they are alone and they are so okay with being alone.
      Also most people who are alone basically replace normal social life with surrogate activity that try to emulate a social life aka (watching tv shows with actors being social, watching movies with actors being social, on the internet or youtube watching people being social)

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    4. @5a +1
      Half a year ago I would have given the same rationalization as 5b.

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    5. 5a,c butt hurt like a kid w a syringe up his ass

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  6. lots of teenage angst here anons

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    1. more like incel virgins who think abnormal behaviour is edge and cool because they see it in the movies and want approve from their internet friends. Even foreveralones on online indian kite racing message boards know being a unsociable shut in is nothing to be proud of.

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    2. ^ Au contraire, I think that in a meta way you think "normal"/conformist behavior is edge and cool because the majority around you is trying to signal "abnormal" behavior. You seem to derive pride from your extroversion and use it to fuel your narcissistic need to feel superior to those around you. Let me take another bowl hit while I feel smart psychanalysing people on the internets

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    3. >normal"/conformist behavior is edge and cool because the majority around you is trying to signal "abnormal" behavior
      So you think if the majority start eating shit I will be against that and my main reason is to be cool and edgy? That doesn't make any sense at all and I didn't even remotely express this in my post. Seriously reread my post and think before posting because I can tell you are a very stupid person.
      > You seem to derive pride from your extroversion and use it to fuel your narcissistic need to feel superior to those around you
      So if a professor corrects you that's him fueling his narcissistic need to feel superior? In what way is someone who tries to hide from the world and decides to be unsociable because of personal insecurities and claim it's normal behaviour have a proper view in life? Oh wait but that's preference right? Viewing a personal fault and shortcomings into an attribute is just a preference.
      But in conclusion your statement basically says correcting someone is automatically narcissistic behaviour. I'm super glad you spend all your time indoors so I will never meet you in real life.
      > Let me take another bowl hit while I feel smart psychanalysing people on the internets
      HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH OH boy lol yep smart HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA

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    4. ^ you sure seem immune to sarcasm, my friend

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    5. Stop trying to save face retard

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    6. ^ feels good to win internet arguments Mr. Social? ;)

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    7. Going for superior tone? let me guess you're too good for this right? Too good to be posting on the internet like I am doing right now but even though you are also doing it. Somehow you are better than me because you have a sarcastic tone like sam hyde and just ABOVE all this internet crap. Yep keep on winning and keep on feeling you are better than me because you are the last one to reply fuckhead.

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    8. ^ These are good points, anon. Thank you for taking me so seriously. I am indeed a hypocrite deriving pleasure from your attention, a lowly internet troll. But sometimes I'm wondering... how can one derive so much meaning from so little context? Are we really having a conversation or are we merely fighting against our own windmills? And more importantly, what is art? What is truth? What is the meaning of life?

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    9. @6c/e/g

      > In what way is someone who tries to hide from the world and decides to be unsociable because of personal insecurities and claim it's normal behaviour have a proper view in life?

      Introversion =/= insecurity, therefore your premise is false. I suggest you read "Quiet" by Susan Cain (if you have time to open a book between two frat keggers...). It deals a lot with common prejudices extroverts have against introverts.

      In the end, just because you act like a bully and call your opponents "incel virgins", "retards" and "fuckheads" doesn't make you right.

      > But in conclusion your statement basically says correcting someone is automatically narcissistic behaviour.

      I don't think you get called out for "correcting", but for being an arrogant prick. I don't know if you are the same person who makes the "heightism" threads (same writing style), but seriously, get over yourself son.

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    10. Unless you are a truly "Introvert (who) prefer solitary to social activities, but do not necessarily fear social encounters like shy people do" than I have no problem but these people who stay indoor 14 hours a day because they are "introverts" or can't go outside because are "introverts". These people aren't introverts but just shy individuals desiring to be social lacking skill to be so.
      Avoiding social interactions or going outside because you assume you're a introvert is basically avoiding people because of some insecurity you have. I never said "Introversion = insecurity" so learn to read.
      And basically you so called "true" introvert replace normal social behaviour with surrogate activity that try to emulate a social life like watching tv shows with actors being social, watching movies with actors being social, on the internet or youtube watching people being social.
      That's not being a introvert

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    11. @6j

      > these people who stay indoor 14 hours a day because they are "introverts" or can't go outside because are "introverts"

      > shy individuals desiring to be social lacking skill to be so

      > Avoiding social interactions or going outside

      > replace normal social behaviour with surrogate activity that try to emulate a social life like watching tv shows with actors being social, watching movies with actors being social, on the internet or youtube watching people being social.

      I don't see OP mentioning any of these things. The only thing he says is that he is happy being alone. You are setting up a strawman here

      So yeah, being the otaku with severe avoidant personality disorder you describe is not merely introversion. This hypothetical dude has a problem indeed. But, again, to quote OP

      > I'm happy in my solitude

      This right here is the main difference between a mental disease and a deviation from the norm. This is why for example homosexuality or being transgender are not considered mental diseases anymore. If OP is happy with his life, who are you to tell him his lifestyle is wrong?

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    12. >I don't see OP mentioning any of these things. The only thing he says is that he is happy being alone. You are setting up a strawman here
      Read
      >Makes me happy that I don't have to deal with drama or friendships.
      It makes him happy he doesn't have to deal with social interactions? He could have said he's happy being alone and doing his thing but he HAD to mention he's happy not having social interactions. That's not a normal response from a normal individual who is happy. It's like a middle class individual who keep on talking about how he's so happy he doesn't have more money and not part of the upper class. That's not a normal response from a happy individual. If he is truly happy he won't even mention about other people being richer or in this case being social. Why even bring that up? It's like he's somewhat embarrassed he doesn't have friends and wants to convince us him lacking any friends is normal. He could have just said "I'm happy doing my thing alone" without mentioning anything about being social. But he couldn't because even he knew something was off about his behaviour so he had to enforce the idea that he's just a cool dude not having friends.
      Also
      >I'm happy in my solitude
      > This right here is the main difference between a mental disease and a deviation from the norm
      Are you kidding me? Are you really saying someone who says they are happy is a proof it's a deviation from the norm and a mental disease? Really? So a pedophile being happy touching kids is okay because he's happy? What about a mass murder who is happy eating people alive? Okay these are extreme examples but what about a individual who is happy being a shopaholic? It's okay right because the individual is happy? What about an individual who watches TV 24/7 or online all day? They are happy so it's okay. Being happy has nothing to do what makes something okay or wrong. I could be happy jerking off all day and watching CSI new york but does that make it right? Does that make me a functioning individual who actually contribute something meaningful to society? What about an individual who keep telling himself it's okay he's alone because he doesn't like drama or friendships not because he enjoy being alone like a true introvert? Is your response really going to be "OH BUT THEY ARE HAPPY THAT"S WHAT COUNTS" really?
      I mean honestly I don't really care about individuals who are introverts and I highly doubt those people are even posting on this site but what's really wrong about this post and the posters are all this individuals who try to defend their abnormal behaviour and lifestyle into something that's okay.

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    13. @6l

      > Are you kidding me? Are you really saying someone who says they are happy is a proof it's a deviation from the norm and a mental disease? Really? So a pedophile being happy touching kids is okay because he's happy? What about a mass murder who is happy eating people alive? Okay these are extreme examples but what about a individual who is happy being a shopaholic? It's okay right because the individual is happy? What about an individual who watches TV 24/7 or online all day? They are happy so it's okay. Being happy has nothing to do what makes something okay or wrong.

      Wow, this is fucking hilarious. At this point, I just think you are trolling. Pedophiles and mass murderers hurt other people, loners in their basement browsing 4chan do not.

      > Being happy has nothing to do what makes something okay or wrong. I could be happy jerking off all day and watching CSI new york but does that make it right? Does that make me a functioning individual who actually contribute something meaningful to society?

      So every individual is obliged to contribute something to society?! According to you? Who are you to shove your moral code down everyone's throat?

      As for the rest, I'm not OP, so i don't assume I know with 100% certainty what his mental state is. Your conclusions are far-fetched and based on your interpretations. IMO it makes no sense to continue this discussion because you can always add new subjective assumptions to strengthen your case and you will always be right. So if you don't care about "actual" introverts, and you keep your hatred towards the caricatures your create in your head, I guess we're cool.

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    14. >Wow, this is fucking hilarious. At this point, I just think you are trolling. Pedophiles and mass murderers hurt other people, loners in their basement browsing 4chan do not.

      My point still stands
      Being happy doesn't prove anything. There are many ways someone can be happy but the end result of being happy doesn't matter it's the action or the process one gets there or even the result of happy doesn't even matter if his actions are admirable. Also I gave two more examples that doesn't involve other individuals getting hurt and I mentioned those were extreme examples, why didn't those get mention? You didn't like them?

      >So every individual is obliged to contribute something to society?! According to you? Who are you to shove your moral code down everyone's throat?

      It's not a moral code, people value others based on what you can do for society and rather or not you can carry your own weight. Being a functioning person in society isn't a moral code but a guarantee you agree upon when you decide to live next to people and not alone in the woods.

      > Your conclusions are far-fetched and based on your interpretations
      Nope
      sorry you have a hard time overcoming your bias and actually thinking outside your introverted mind. It's not my fault you can't understand what you read and just claim anything that you disagree is just far-fetched.
      > add new subjective assumptions to strengthen your case
      So giving examples and proofs to strength my points is just assuming? I'm given reasons and proofs to harden my points, what did you in reply? Just hang on to parts of points and just reply back with "Pedophiles and mass murderers hurt other people" even through I said those were extreme examples and gave two more that only affect the individual but you ignored those reasons because you didn't like. All you did for this whole discussion is cherry picked the ones to rebuttal and totally ignore my overall point.

      > So if you don't care about "actual" introverts, and you keep your hatred towards the caricatures your create in your head, I guess we're cool

      How is it caricatures? OP was proven to be another shy individual who is just ashamed of his loneliness and you didn't prove anything but just keep on hanging onto points rather than give a reply that has a central point. What did you actually say to defend introverts?

      All you said was
      >Introversion =/= insecurity, therefore your premise is false.

      Which was proven wrong because I never said that and you just hanged onto a part of point you didn't like rather than read the whole post.


      >I'm happy in my solitude
      >This right here is the main difference between a mental disease and a deviation from the norm. If OP is happy with his life, who are you to tell him his lifestyle is wrong

      This I proven wrong because happiness has nothing to do with issue.

      >Wow, this is fucking hilarious. At this point, I just think you are trolling. Pedophiles and mass murderers hurt other people, loners in their basement browsing 4chan do not.

      Again hanging onto parts of points without understand what I'm trying to say

      It's like I'm talking to a 10 year old child who keep stopping you when you say something that hurts his feelings. Learn to control your emotions and learn how to interpret what you read and think about the overall message before you get emotional.

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    15. @6n 1/2

      Don't worry dear, my feelings don't get hurt so easily. You gotta tame that God complex of yours, because sincerely you're not that smart, tough and powerful. Yeah, I'm hanging onto some points more than others, but it's not my fault you cannot maintain a straight line of thought and instead you go in all directions piling up loaded statements. It would take me all night to address your posts word by word, and sadly I have a life. But let's try a little bit, then maybe I'll let you have the last word to avoid bruising your ego too much?


      > Being happy doesn't prove anything. There are many ways someone can be happy but the end result of being happy doesn't matter it's the action or the process one gets there or even the result of happy doesn't even matter if his actions are admirable. Also I gave two more examples that doesn't involve other individuals getting hurt and I mentioned those were extreme examples, why didn't those get mention? You didn't like them?

      Your examples are irrelevant. Let's list the examples you gave:
      - A paedophile who is happy molesting children
      - A cannibal murderer who is happy eating his victims
      - A shopaholic who is happy... shopping?? (wtf, is this a thing? is it even an issue if they have the means??)
      - A person addicted to watching TV or being online.

      You use those examples to prove that being happy is not always good. Well congratulations, you have proven that. But that is not what we are discussing here! We are talking about people who don't enjoy social interaction. They are happy with who they are and they don't hurt anyone else. You come and you call them (quote)

      > incel virgins who think abnormal behaviour is edge and cool

      And you insist that introversion is a sort of disease that needs to be fixed. Happiness was brought into this discussion in this context: "introverts are happy with who they are, they do not have a mental issue and therefore there is no point in telling them they should change". Who is hanging onto parts of points here, mate? You brought paedophiles and murderers into this to draw an emotional analogy. If you can't see why these examples don't relate to what we're discussing, you have serious issues.

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      > people value others based on what you can do for society and rather or not you can carry your own weight.

      What about my grandpa in the hospital. He can't carry his own weight anymore, so he has no value? And who says these introverts don't carry their own weight? Again, you use a loaded statement to suggest something completely untrue. I know plenty of hardcore introverts who work in the computer industry for example and who carry their own weight pretty well.

      > Being a functioning person in society isn't a moral code but a guarantee you agree upon when you decide to live next to people and not alone in the woods.

      A "functioning person"? Because, again, you assume introverts are dysfunctional? Sorry I need to hang on this point. I can't address what follows from a false statement. If you're interested in big questions such as "what is good for society", I suggest you take a philosophy class and learn to argue about those issues more rigorously, because, believe me, you are not as smart as you think you are.

      > So giving examples and proofs to strength my points is just assuming? I'm given reasons and proofs to harden my points, what did you in reply? Just hang on to parts of points and just reply back with "Pedophiles and mass murderers hurt other people" even through I said those were extreme examples and gave two more that only affect the individual but you ignored those reasons because you didn't like. All you did for this whole discussion is cherry picked the ones to rebuttal and totally ignore my overall point.

      You weren't on the point to begin with. I never said that happiness is always good (see above). You threw those "extreme examples" in there because it sounded good to draw a parallel between introverts and criminals, then between introverts and sloths, while completely missing the point of why I brought happiness in in the first place.

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      > How is it caricatures? OP was proven...

      Sorry I missed the proven part. You should say "In my opinion, OP..."

      > you didn't prove anything but just keep on hanging onto points rather than give a reply that has a central point. What did you actually say to defend introverts?

      I invite you to re-read my posts, because I'm tired of repeating myself

      > All you said was
      > >Introversion =/= insecurity, therefore your premise is false.

      > Which was proven wrong because I never said that and you just hanged onto a part of point you didn't like rather than read the whole post.

      Now you are just lying. I quote you:

      > In what way is someone who tries to hide from the world and decides to be unsociable because of personal insecurities and claim it's normal behaviour have a proper view in life?

      Someone who is "unsociable" is not necessarily insecure. The fact that you think OP is insecure is your own personal belief (based on "someone who is happy with his life wouldn't mention it" and "actual introverts wouldn't post here"). My point was that a person who is happy with being alone (what OP claims he is, let's give him the benefit of the doubt for a moment) doesn't have a problem, isn't necessarily that way because of insecurities, and doesn't need any fixing.

      > >I'm happy in my solitude
      > >This right here is the main difference between a mental disease and a deviation from the norm. If OP is happy with his life, who are you to tell him his lifestyle is wrong

      > This I proven wrong because happiness has nothing to do with issue.

      Read above. If you think there is another issue, and you are able to prove it objectively, I will be happy to listen to you.

      > It's like I'm talking to a 10 year old child who keep stopping you when you say something that hurts his feelings. Learn to control your emotions and learn how to interpret what you read and think about the overall message before you get emotional.

      Your repeated personal attacks show who is, in fact, emotional in this thread. Now I lost 1h of my life I will never get back and I will let you have your last word if that gives you so much satisfaction.

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    18. >Someone who is "unsociable" is not necessarily insecure. The fact that you think OP is insecure is your own personal belief (based on "someone who is happy with his life wouldn't mention it" and "actual introverts wouldn't post here").

      Sorry that wasn't my defence.
      Try rereading and understand what you read rather than hang on to parts of a sentence you didn't like.

      >My point was that a person who is happy with being alone (what OP claims he is, let's give him the benefit of the doubt for a moment) doesn't have a problem, isn't necessarily that way because of insecurities, and doesn't need any fixing.

      Didn't you read what I wrote? Jesus chirst you are just like a child.

      >Read above. If you think there is another issue, and you are able to prove it objectively, I will be happy to listen to you.

      I already presented the issue and all you can say is "lets see the brighter side, lets just assume" which doesn't even present an issue to discuss or prove. If you have nothing to say than don't post and if you want to prove your point then say more than "he's happy, so what's the problem!!!".

      >Your repeated personal attacks show who is, in fact, emotional in this thread. Now I lost 1h of my life I will never get back and I will let you have your last word if that gives you so much satisfaction.

      It's not a personal attack. If I'm talking to a person who can't read a whole discussion and understand the central point and rather just attack bits and parts of it, I'm basically and literally talking to a child. Maybe you need to be more social to actually understand how to carry on a discussion and learn what to do to prove your point. You need to say more than "lets give him the benefit of the doubt, he said he was happy!!!"
      But as I said before you so called introverts just want to be bias and see your abnormal loneliness and shyness into a deformed attribute and if you can't understand simple points all I can say is have fun in your little room.

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  7. PSA: Don't make introversion an excuse.
    http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/10-things-being-an-introvert-is-not-an-excuse-for/

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    1. > thoughtcatalog.com

      dank reference homie. I mean, it's a notch above buzzfeed, gotta give you credit

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    2. It's true nonetheless.

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  8. I can totally relate to OP. Of the thousands of people I've met in my life there is a great total of 3 I can call friends. They are introverts just like me. We don't expect each other to answer text messages within 5 minutes. We don't have to hang out every day. We don't have to talk if we don't feel like it. We don't play stupid status games. We don't talk behind each other's backs. We don't use each other to further our personal interests. In a perfect world everyone would be like that, and everyone would be my friend. Unfortunately, I prefer the company of inanimate objects to the company of most human beings.

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  9. OP in da heezy
    I only come here on Fridays to destress during a computer lab.
    Didn't think there'd be so much butthurt and fighting lol.
    Like some dude said on another comment section, "...our school spirit is actually a level of apathy most institutions cannot comprehend."
    I feel more like a customer than a member of some student community, but I like it that way.

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    1. learn english between jerk off sessions while you are alone at home.

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    2. Nah, too busy being boss.

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  10. Yeah same, but honestly I'm usually too busy to do things with people anyway. I "meet" a few people every term but never really get to know them or hang out with them. University is just kind of like that I guess, well Waterloo at least.

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