Really? I'd say no. Sounds very petty to me. Especially when people generally have a variety of people on their friends list, ranging from "met once" to "know by name" to "best buds".
I think so. They are, primarily and originally, your ex's friends. They owe allegiance to him/her first and have known them for longer so they're closer than you are to them. Also, if you had a messy break-up, it's also a symbolic gesture to show solidarity to their friend (who they might think is suffering, even if he/she caused the break-up).
This happened to me too. I thought the break up wasnt messy at all and was surprised when one of her friends deleted me. Especially when I didn't even add her to begin with and had very brief contact throughout the entire relationship. What really there me off was this is a person I would say hello to if I saw on the street but now with a very obvious negative stance I don't even know if I should just ignore them or what. Girls are weird man. That's all I know.
I think it depends on context. Have you known them so long that they're as much your friends as your ex's? Before the breakup, did you regularly hang out with them even when your ex wasn't around (for whatever reason)?
And there's the nature of the breakup to consider. How amenable it was or wasn't (was there abuse involved?) can often make a difference, too.
I have had my ex block me. I have also blocked my ex because seeing anything that reminds me of her makes me sad. I think it works the same way for her as well.
Deleted my exes. Deleted ex #1s close friends since they were being very disrespectful towards me. Kept ex #2s nice friends, since they sometimes chat me up amicably, but I deleted his friends who don't talk to me regularly since I don't like staying connected to people I'll never speak to.
Yea, it's very reasonable. They were your acquaintances who knew you through your ex. Now they don't care, or maybe didn't like you. My friends hated my ex, so did my family.
Yes, depending on how close you were to them
ReplyDeleteReally? I'd say no. Sounds very petty to me. Especially when people generally have a variety of people on their friends list, ranging from "met once" to "know by name" to "best buds".
Deletemaybe if they do it right away, but sometimes I just go through and delete people. No ill intent or petty, but a 'i probably won't talk to you again.'
DeleteI think so. They are, primarily and originally, your ex's friends. They owe allegiance to him/her first and have known them for longer so they're closer than you are to them. Also, if you had a messy break-up, it's also a symbolic gesture to show solidarity to their friend (who they might think is suffering, even if he/she caused the break-up).
ReplyDeleteWhat are we, 12?
DeleteWhat, 2a, you mean you don't swear allegiance to your friends, and promise never to let that allegiance be swayed by interlopers or casuals?
Delete(I'm being sarcastic)
This happened to me too. I thought the break up wasnt messy at all and was surprised when one of her friends deleted me. Especially when I didn't even add her to begin with and had very brief contact throughout the entire relationship. What really there me off was this is a person I would say hello to if I saw on the street but now with a very obvious negative stance I don't even know if I should just ignore them or what.
ReplyDeleteGirls are weird man. That's all I know.
I think it depends on context. Have you known them so long that they're as much your friends as your ex's? Before the breakup, did you regularly hang out with them even when your ex wasn't around (for whatever reason)?
ReplyDeleteAnd there's the nature of the breakup to consider. How amenable it was or wasn't (was there abuse involved?) can often make a difference, too.
It's your ex. They were your ex's friends before yours.
ReplyDeleteI have had my ex block me. I have also blocked my ex because seeing anything that reminds me of her makes me sad. I think it works the same way for her as well.
ReplyDeleteOP is talking about their ex's friends.......
DeleteOh shit sorry didnt read, yea I don't know, but unless you are planning on dating her friend, who cares?
DeleteDeleted my exes. Deleted ex #1s close friends since they were being very disrespectful towards me. Kept ex #2s nice friends, since they sometimes chat me up amicably, but I deleted his friends who don't talk to me regularly since I don't like staying connected to people I'll never speak to.
ReplyDeleteYea, it's very reasonable. They were your acquaintances who knew you through your ex. Now they don't care, or maybe didn't like you. My friends hated my ex, so did my family.
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