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Updated on Friday, July 24

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QUESTION:  I'm finding it hard to keep myself motivated and on track with school work, mostly due to mental issues. So I'm getting 60's when I'm definitely smart enough for 80's and 90's. I've gone and gotten tired of the counselling services. Has anyone gone through the same thing? Any advice?

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  1. If you're not getting 80's and 90's then assuming that you're "smart enough" doesn't do you any good. Accept that you're going to have to work for it.

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    1. I am not OP but I am in CS and I got an average in 90s last term and I didn't work hard at all, now I am depressed as fuck and I might get an average in 70s or 60s, so no your statement is not correct.
      If you are getting 60s and you're depressed then you might be able to get 90s

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    2. This is solid advice, you have to first admit that maybe you are not as bright as you think you are and find a way to get them 80s and 90s

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    3. I've never thought I am so bright for getting 90s, you're the one associating 90s with being smart.

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    4. 2c, yes, I associate getting near perfect marks in university with a higher than average intelligence. Its a big world out there full of people who couldn't retain the information necessary if their lives depended on it. It weird that I need to say this.

      As for my original comment, I stand by it completely. Whether you're depressed or not, "I'm definitely smart enough for 80's and 90's" isn't going to get you anywhere.

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    5. @2.d. Ehhhh. To really split hairs it depends on what program you're in for the near-perfect marks. Imo. But yeah, above average intelligence would be correct.

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    6. OP here. I'm assuming I'm smart enough for 90s because I get 90s on individual pieces of work, but I struggle with being motivated enough to keep up with my work... I get the mentality you are trying to get through though; sometimes I do need a reality check so I appreciate it.

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  2. why did you get tired of counselling?

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    1. I didn't feel better talking to my counsellor. they seemed nice but something about it all did not make me more motivated. I just felt like I had to pretend to be okay to another person

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  3. To the replies above, the way you feel can have a lot to do with quality of work. If you're depressed it can affect your grades. Duh.

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  4. Man my girl broke it off with me and it admittedly made me sad and i am still a little depressed about it, but there is no way i am gonna let that get in the way of quality of work. So I dont agree with the statement depression leads to low quality of work. Sure it makes it a little harder, so you just have to try a little harder to repress the depression.

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    1. It doesn't sound like you know what depression is.

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    2. You cant really repress depression.

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    3. Oh go to hell you ignorant asswipe

      Depression is an ILLNESS, a chemical imbalance in the brain, not just SADNESS.

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    4. Ok seriously the fuck depression is not an illness i don't care if it hurts your feelings or if it depresses you (see what i did there). Severe sadness leads to depression, if you are confident enough yourself you can overcome this "depression" and become normal you again.

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    5. @5.d You're so full of shit your eyes are brown.

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    6. Actually my eyes are hazel so yea pretty brown i guess.

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    7. @5.d It has nothing to do with hurting anyone's feelings. Scientists didn't conclude that depression is a physical illness because otherwise it would offend those who have depression. Please read real neuropsychology research and you'll realize how stupid your comment is. Depression is something that is programmed in DNA!

      Severe sadness can lead to depression if the individual is genetically predisposed to have depression. Those who aren't can get over severe sadness because IT IS NOT DEPRESSION. Depression, however, is something that affects the chemical balance in the brain.

      It's like having extremely weak bones. If you accidentally fall, those who have strong bones will have some bruises and continue walking. Those with extremely weak bones will be fucked and would have to get medical help to be able to walk again.

      This is a fact and has been for years. The only reason people don't consider it an illness is because they have no idea that the brain has chemical reactions that control actions and moods.

      Btw I didn't read this on some random website to justify anything. I am studying psychology and read this in research papers and textbooks.

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    8. ^Yep. Too many people like to over-simplify and dumb everything down. - Neuroscience/Genetics major.

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  5. I always say this every time, and I always get negative feedback about it, but here goes.

    I was in this situation. Are you really doing what you want to be doing? Find what you love and find a way to make that into your career. You won't be happy any other way. You aren't dumb and probably not depressed. It's amazing how changing the circumstances in your life to what you REALLY want and not what is just expected of you can dramatically improve your grades, happiness, quality of life etc...

    Long story short...re-evaluate your life.

    Are you who you want to be?
    Are you where you want be?
    Are you on track to any of these things?
    Are the activities you partake in (school, hobbies etc) contributing to those goals?

    You don't have to do what everyone else does, the value of a university education is decreasing. You are hard pressed to find a good job without extra credentials, experience or grad degrees. Don't be afraid to create your own path! Think about life and how precious it really is. You are consciousness experiencing physical life, what do you want out of it? So many people alive today seem to forget this...what a shame that most of us will never really live. That doesn't have to be you.

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    1. Wow, that was so deep! Thank you... that meant a lot. Your words were powerful.

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    2. OP here. I encourage all constructive criticism!!! I will be frank and confess to having gone through a ton of shit in high school so my life is not where I want it to be. It doesn't help that I screwed a bunch up since university. These stresses worsen my mood 100%. I'm joining clubs that's good for my mental and physical health now. Trying sooo hard to trim away toxic relationships and build good ones. Looking towards the future and maybe I'll find out my calling amidst all this life improving. So far, at least I know I don't want the most impressive well paid job I want the one that does the most good and respected. Does that sound like a good plan? ;) Totally praying that I will keep this up and finish this term with a bang. If I can do 1 day I can do 1 week. If I can do 1 term I can finish this degree. If I can do it in college I can do it for life, rite?

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  6. Throwing out my experience because I dont see much concrete advice here...

    My grades dropped due to depression and I could hardly get out of bed most days. What helped for me:
    - Seeing my family doctor, not one of the HS docs
    - Getting referred to a councillor by family doctor, NOT one provided by the school. I personally found that the school's staff were great for dealing with crisises, but outside professionals were better suited to developing long term plans
    - Getting medicated. I know this isn't an option for everyone, but it really helped me. Talk to your doc about medication and seriously think about it.
    - Set up some plans to minimize things are that worsening the depression. For me, talking to my doc about my insomnia and getting a good nights sleep made a huge difference really quickly.

    TLDR: Its an illness, treat it like one. See a decent doctor/health care professional and not one provided by the school.

    Hope that helps!

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    1. +1 You'll succeed imo. :)

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    2. OP: Thank I will try it out! :)

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  7. THis is gonna sound a little mean but... maybe you are depressed because you have realized that you are a little below average and you know there is nothing you can do about it because by now I am guessing you are in 3rd year or something so maybe thats why you are feeling even worse because you know its too late to redeem yourself.

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    1. OP: I'm always down for some tough love but I tend to think that's not the truth? hahah it's so hard being objective when you're evaluating yourself but my problem started before university when I went through a ton of shit. Back then it was getting 91 instead of 98 is all. I still get 90s when I actually keep up with my assignments. I won't lie though there's starting to be a hint of doubt in me and it's not helping my mood.

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