OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Wednesday, May 27

#7211

QUESTION: Is there any point in getting into a relationship in 4A?

I've been seeing this guy for the past three months, but my brain says there's no point since we'll have to make FT job decisions within the next year. I wouldn't want a relationship to be a factor when deciding what I want to do after graduation, but part of me wants to take things further (I mean, who doesn't like the close-company of someone else?).

I wanna figure this out so I don't waste his time.

16 comments

  1. I started dating my current boyfriend that I met when I was in 4A and he in 2A. It's been a few years since then and we're doing great. That said, he is graduating this year and I've been doing a masters since I finished my bachelors, so we've actually been living together near the school. If you'll both be moving far away for work it may turn out differently. I'd still go for it and see where it leads though, you'll never know!

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  2. just do what makes you happy! don't stress over things you can't control now

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  3. If you really like the person, making life decisions with him as a factor feels happy...

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  4. Personal relationships have factored heavily into all of my professional decisions, and I have never once regretted it.

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    1. Love this! If you feel that you are hesitant in making personal relationships over professional, than the person is probably not for you.

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  5. If you're in a great relationship, it's worth it making them a part of your professional decisions. A fantastic partner wouldn't hold you back, you'd grow together and might even end up somewhere you never considered.

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  6. Look closer, you answered this yourself. The fact that you aren't wanting to make these life decisions with him and instead see him as a possible hindrance/obstacle to these decisions indicates that you really aren't that in love with him. Don't be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Part ways, move on, keep the fond memories and hopefully one day you find a love that will make you understand that when you are in love, these things aren't even a question.

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    1. Love doesn't happen instantaneously. A relationship where you don't want to make life decisions together can turn into one in the future.

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    2. 6a, has never been in love

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  7. I had just finished 1B and he had just finished 3B when we started dating. It's been just over three years since then and we're still together. I'm graduating next month and he's finishing up his Master's at Waterloo (I was lucky) - although he is starting his PhD (also at Waterloo) in September. While specifics are vague, we plan to marry whenever he's done his PhD.

    You should be concerned with what is best for you. And what's best for you can include (or exclude) personal relationships. For me, personal relationships are a factor but those people do not want to hold me back, particularly at this time in choosing a law school.

    Love is different for everyone and happens at different paces even in the same relationship (eg. 3 weeks for me, 1.5 years for him). Worry about now, and the things you can control. Most importantly, communicate. You are seeing him now and he may be thinking the same things. Communicate! It is essential and leads to best outcome for both you

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  8. If you're considering a career over a boy, you're not mature enough to date.

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    1. I think being able to prioritize in such a way that you go against society's norms is quite mature.

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  9. Is there a point to living a life?

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    1. well that escalated quite quickly

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