OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Tuesday, February 17

#6912

QUESTION: If someone asks you "how are you" are you suppose to ask the person back?
I usually just say "good" and just shoot my mouth off and say what I need to say.
Not losing sleep over this, but just curious what other people reply to when asked.

23 comments

  1. I usually reply good, doing alright, or doing well if I feel like being pretentious. Then I ask back with "and you?" It's usually the socially accepted practice. Results in less-awkward small talk and sometimes smiles by cute girls.

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  2. I really hate asking "how are you" and being asked this. Like, it's so awkward. What if I'm having a shitty day and you're not someone I want to tell but I respond "not okay" or "been better", then I have to explain why (yes I know the obvious answer is to lie and say fine...) I rather have people ask me "how's it going?" because I'll likely give a more genuine answer. But OP to respond to your question, if I actually care about the person I'll ask "and you?" but if I don't, I'll respond with "fine' and move on with my conversation.

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  3. I always reply with a " I am good, how are you doing today?" or something along these lines

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  4. It is considered polite to say something like "I am good thanks, how are you?". Many consider it rude to not ask back, whether or not you know or care about the person.

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  5. If you just say, "good" with no follow-up, you're going to seem like you're in a bad mood/ a dick.

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  6. why is this even a question? i thought common courtesy was called COMMON courtesy for a reason?? have you also not heard of common sense?

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    1. Some people on here may be from other countries with different cultures and manners and not know our ways.

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    2. Yeah, and they chose to come to our country and are obviously intelligent enough to get into university and learn to speak english, so I don't think it's going too far to think they would learn a little bit about our culture as well, or at least observe the way most other people act.

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    3. fuck off dude I been here 15 years. I always thought I was being nice when I smiled and said "i'm doing good" to cashiers. I always thought I was minding my own business and respecting other people's privacy. I'm so sorry my common sense isn't up to your level. Also why is this always a race thing about different cultures? I met more canadians who act too high and mightily to even acknowledge me as an equal because I look different. You assuming I'm some ignorant FOB just proves my point.

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    4. I'm from an immigrant family too, but my parents always taught me common courtesy from a young age. I guess ignorance is just generational in some families.

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    5. 5c. dat logic doe. by that logic the cashier greeting you and asking how you are doing are they violating your privacy? it's the same shit as when you hold a door open for someone they (should) say thanks, you dont just say nothing because you are worried you will infringe on their privacy. maybe you did think you were being nice and im not judging you but sometimes it benefits to look at life situations from an outside perspective not just your own.

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    6. 6. e They are paid to be nice so they ask but I'm respecting THEIR privacy by not asking. I have more perspective than you by knowing not everyone's lives are happy and full of sunshine. Don't try to twist my thoughts negatively because I'm non-white and I'm different. Maybe it seems rude but my reasons are pure and out of respect. Also how it is infringing other people's privacy when you say thanks when someone holds the door for you? Are you so mad that you threw reason out the window before posting? Don't make a fool out of yourself again by reply back.

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    7. 6.d Ya it sure is common courtesy to bugging other people and force them to tell you about their day while they work 9 hour shifts while they get paid minimum wage. Smiling and saying good is WAY more polite, your parents are fuckin idiots for raising such a dumb noisy asshole.

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    8. 6g, fuck off as if working as a cashier for 9 hours is really hard and terrible work. if you cant be pleasant while doing that you've got fucking bigger problems in your life.

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    9. 6g. when cashiers are paid to provide a SERVICE (whether minimum wage or not, they accepted the job on their own free will) they should provide that service. cashiers are not paid just to ring up your groceries. having been one in the past the training definitely includes being friendly and courteous to customers as well as being helpful. being approachable and personable is part of the job because nobody wants to go into a store and be treated rudely or else they will be less likely to come back.

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    10. 6c/f You are going out of your way trying to prove you weren't being rude yet you're being incredibly insulting and rude through this whole thread, you should maybe think about that a little before lashing out again. I'm sorry if you've been discriminated against in your life but 6e said nothing whatsoever about race and you were the one who brought it back to that, so maybe you need to consider that not everyone is trying to discriminate against you, some of them are just trying to give you a different perspective on things.

      I wish more people didn't think in terms of race :( We're all just people, can we please treat each other that way?

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  7. i feel like canada is getting less polite. not sure if its the american influence, influx of immigrants or what

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    1. Maybe global warming if effecting the maple syrup somehow.

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    2. I think most waterloo students are pieces of racist fucks because they assume and they they make an ASS out of U and ME.

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    3. I would say a big problem stems from entitled immigrants who think Canada should cater to them instead of trying to integrate into society.

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  8. ITT: chinese immigrants

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  9. this website honestly makes me wish people couldn't buy a citizenship

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  10. Good God. All of these comments just make me lose faith in humanity.
    1. Yeah sometimes it's a polite thing to ask back how are you but really depends on circumstance and no one really cares that much if you don't.
    2. Yes there are sometimes cultural differences in social norms but that is no reason to make huge angry statements or assumptions on either side. There are rude people no matter where you come from, that has nothing to do with race.

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