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Updated on Thursday, February 5

#6863

QUESTION: Is cheating the norm now? I feel everyone I know either cheats on their spouse or has been cheated on. I am a decently pretty girl (definitely not gorgeous or anything special) and I've gotten cheated on quite a bit, it's a really shitty feeling.

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  1. You know the wrong kind of people. Get new friends.

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    1. good people cheat to

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    2. How does that make sense? If you cheat on your partner, you are a shitty person.

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    3. Not 1a, not justifying it, but 1a is right. Good people do things sometimes, it's human. Judging someone's character based on one moral transgression is a little short sighted.

      But if it happens a lot with everyone you know it could very well be the people.

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    4. ^Granted, good people do bad things sometimes, but groups of dudes all fistbumping about cheating on their girlfriends with randoms on a night out are not good people.

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  2. I used to think it was rare and only huge assholes did it. Then, I lived with a few guys for a couple months while on co-op and they were all trying to cheat on their girlfriends because they were long distance. Not sure about how common it is without long distance though but one of them said that they are pretty sure over half of guys cheat- not sure how right he is though.

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  3. Slightly unrelated, but I honestly don't understand the appeal of cheating. If you feel the need to cheat, doesn't that signify that there is something very wrong with your relationship on a basic level? And if you're unsatisfied with your relationship, then why are you in it?

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    1. In a word? Sex. Access to sex on the regular will keep guys in a relationship while they explore elsewhere.

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  4. I slept with 2 girls who were cheating. I didn't know they were or else I would not have done it. One I hadn't seen for a couple years, and didn't know her relationship status, and one told me she broke up with her bf because we were on co-op, but hadn't.

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  5. Only know 1 friend who cheated. He was really drunk and we were all pretty disappointed in him. I wouldn't say its the norm.

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    1. wow your a good person my friends egg guys on to cheat

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    2. @ 5a - Why do they do that? I'm curious cause I've never heard any of my friends push a friend to cheat and we'd be much more in line with what 5 and his friends did. If you want to sleep around, that's cool, but why have a girlfriend while you're trying?

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    3. 5.a, If this isn't sarcasm then I think you need some new friends..

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    4. A here, If some attractive girl comes up to my friend ( I don't do this) they tell him to go for it, even if he has a gf as drunk enjoyments shouldn't count,

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  6. Cheating is a disgusting thing to do. If you feel the need to cheat you should not be in a relationship in the first place.

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  7. Guys, if you're reading this and you're thinking of cheating, fix your relationship with the girl or let her go. She'll be hurt but she doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

    Same for the other gender/any relationship.

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  8. Guess it is
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08JRDC4-kug

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  9. girls cheat too ya little sluts. @7

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    1. Hey, did you read the part about the other gender.

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  10. It seems to be the norm out here. Most of the guys I know advocate sleeping with more than one girl and try to shame me in doing the same. It's an idiotic way to be since they're all heartbroken when it happens to them.

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  11. Pro tip: date guys with good, healthy relationships with their mothers (..according to some psychologist.. there was a study I read a while ago). They make better husbands on average etc

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    1. This can be a preselection process but there's so much more to what makes a good husband.

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  12. Cheating has always been the norm. Monogamy is unnatural (at least for males, from an evolutionary perspective), and with modern medicine there are less barriers to sleeping around.

    Personally I don't cheat, but I wish I could bring myself to as my girlfriend, who I love, really doesn't satisfy my sexual desires.

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    1. Maybe bring it up and talk about it? I'm thinking the feeling may be mutual...

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    2. wow 12 sounds like a real gem, why don't you actually talk to your GF about your sexual desires instead of posting anonymously about you "wishing you could"

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    3. I bring it up and talk about it regularly, nothing ever changes. I know I'll get flak here and be called a pussy, but whatever, I'm happy with my choices.

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    4. If you do bring it up lots and she ignores it/doesn't think its important then I'd say you've got it rough. Sex is important and there's nothing shittier than being constantly snubbed by the person you'd think you wouldn't even have to convince and beg for it. I held on when I was in this situation and it only ended up making things worse when we finally broke up.

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  13. I think its more about the kind of relationships people are in at this stage in life. Cheating isn't all that surprising if the reason for your relationship is guilt-free regular sex. Everyone is taught that sex outside relationships makes girls sluts so they are willing to get into a relationship just to avoid that. The end result is guys are willing to risk the relationship because they're getting all the same things from the cheating. If you're in a relationship that goes beyond that there's a LOT more to lose and cheating doesn't make sense (at least to me anyway).

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