Updated on Sunday, December 7
QUESTION: Does anyone still think about there EX's? My Ex and I dated for about
four years, and while we ended on pretty bad terms and I do not think
about them in the sense I wish I was still with them. I find myself
constantly wondering what they are up to (and mind you we broke up about
three years ago). Is this weird? Does anyone keep in contact with your
EX?
i think keeping in contact with your ex is pretty normal unless you guys ended in a really really shitty terms
ReplyDeleteNo, it's not.
DeleteKeeping in touch with exes is not the not the norm.
DeleteAs the dumper it's unfair to continue to contact the dumpee.
As the dumpee it's plain unhealthy to continue to contact the dumper.
For those who ended things amicably and can continue to maintain a friendship - kudos to you.
OP a part of you will likely always wonder what your ex is up to and how their life turned out. When a thought comes into your head, notice it but don't start creeping as a response. Wish them well in your head and try to move onto your next thought. It takes practice.
At least once every other month, I might wonder what (at least) one of them are up to, what they're doing with their life, things like that. I think it's normal.
ReplyDeleteOP, your story sounds EXACTLY like my ex's situation... :/
ReplyDeleteI think about my one ex every day. Its been three years. I don't think about how awesome she was, or how I miss her, I think about how one day she randomly accused me of rape. I don't know what I did to make her so pissed off. Her birthday was half a year away, and no important dates were around that time. It was going great until that day. She tried to get all my friends to turn against me, but luckily they all saw through her bullshit. I just can't stop thinking about what it could have turned into if she went to the police. It was my word vs her word, and I know as a guy I would be instantly guilty. I also can't stop thinking about what I may have done to make her do it.
ReplyDeleteWell, maybe I do miss her a bit. Or maybe more than a bit. I thought she had a chance at being the one. Of all my ex's she is the one I most want to be with, but at the same time least want to see again. How do I make this stop? I haven't been able to fully trust/commit to anyone since.
Do I keep in contact with my ex?
ReplyDeleteHell no. It ended shittily for me, and I still don't like thinking about it.
Do I think about her still?
Unfortunately, yeah. But I guess that's the fallout from shoring up with someone you care about. If things go south, then it's like ripping off skin with a lemon zester.
If I get particularly down, I self-medicate with whiskey and shitty pop-punk music. Such as it is, I guess.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vYAM17lLtKk
you sound cool. I recently broke up with someone too and i think your medication would work on me....misery loves company??
DeletePop-punk fans are a rare breed...
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ReplyDeleteit's understandable to still think and wonder about someone who was such a big part of your life for such a long time. In my opinion, when you have loved someone no matter how badly it ends, there is a little piece of you that will always love them. and that's okay. it's not weak or wrong to give a piece of your love to another person, in fact i think it's the strongest thing a person can do.
ReplyDeleteThis. I like this :)
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