Updated on Saturday, December 6
QUESTION: How do introverts make friends? I made a group of friends here through a religious thing but since then I've realized religion isn't my thing so I just have less things in common with them. I know ppl say to join clubs, but through going to religious things in the past I find it's just so draining having to introduce myself to so many new ppl. And stuff I like to do like reading, lifting, baking and watching tv aren't really sociable activities. Are there even clubs for those
>And stuff I like to do like reading, lifting, baking and watching tv
ReplyDeleteI want to be friends with you! I'm pretty sure there's a baking (well, cooking) club, and the gyms are pretty much a lifting club.
you sound cool
ReplyDeleteI made the same mistake with the religious thing. Once I stopped going to the religious club meetings, that was the end of having those people as friends. I don't really have an answer for you though on how to meet people elsewhere. Maybe you'll be able to make some friends in smaller upper year classes. (Talk to people!)
ReplyDeleteI feel you man. I'm lucky enough to still have hs friends in town, but I'm pretty heavily introverted. I don't think I've actually had a conversation in the past three days aside from buying food.
ReplyDeletei didn't make any new friends since coming to university. i basically stick to a few old ones and they are the only ones i talk to. i tried going out socializing but that has applied too much pressure on myself that i felt so uncomfortable so i stopped. now i just stop trying to make new friends and just keep the few old ones close.
ReplyDeleteI was able to make friends by living with randoms. It's the luck of the draw I guess, but I ended up getting along really well with my roommates.
ReplyDeleteI'm introverted as heck, I enjoy lifting too and most of my friends I met in the gym. (A few of my friends are ones I study with.)
ReplyDeleteMake the effort and go the extra mile. It's not like you have to constantly do this though. Make the effort often enough that you make friends that you know will be okay with not hanging out with them all the time. Works for me at least.
ReplyDeleteFake it till you make it. I consider myself to be somewhat introverted (or used to be until about halfway through 1st year.
ReplyDeleteStart pretending you're outgoing and extroverted. Eventually some of it will become natural.
^ Has actually worked for me. Honestly, its a bit of work trying to make sure the conversation keeps on going and that you're giving all your attention (sometimes, I'd rather just sit in a corner and watch).
DeleteHowever, you really get to meet a lot of people this way. In the end, when you finally find some close friends, you don't have to fake it anymore and eventually you're comfortable enough to start acting like yourself.
I dunno, really... I'm an ambivert, so I kind of end up in this awkward middle position where I feel really drained by my extrovert friends and really demanding of my introvert friends.
ReplyDeleteOne tip I have for you... you probably have a circle of acquaintances right now. One of the best ways to make new friends is to reach out to the edges, try to get to know someone better you only know in passing but isn't a complete stranger. Less stress of having to put yourself out there and you'll often already share mutual interests because you share the same friends circle.
Well, for starters, there is a club for lifting.
ReplyDeleteOther than that, I'm afraid that you're going to have to put yourself out there unless you're content with just praying for some magical friends to show up.