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Updated on Tuesday, November 11

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QUESTION: I want to get my nipples pierced but my fiance said he'll break up with me because I will have a hard time breast feeding our kids. What do I do?

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  1. pierce something else

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  2. Don't get your nipples pierced?

    Also know that they can be taken out and you should be able to breastfeed.

    But like why would you want to......?

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  3. Pierce one nipple?
    There..problem solved.

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    1. Without going into too much detail: that wouldn't work when it comes to nursing. Trust me.

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  4. Don't get your nipples pierced?

    I mean I get the impression the reason your fiance gave is a little BS, he probably (and rightly) thinks they look trashy.

    If you really want some hardware there, you could just get some clamps.

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  5. IMO if you want them, get them.. but maybe wait until after your kid is done nursing.

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  6. up to you. I would do it if I wanted to.

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  7. Take a Swedish Penis Enlarger and re-engineer it to become a battery powered vacuum milking machine. Then when you want milk just hook that bad boy up to a tit and get 'er done. Just put a grate in it in case it rips that nip ring right off.

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    1. +1 works like a charm

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    2. Or you could just buy a milk pump...

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  8. I took mine out. Wish I never got it. It just gets in the way of everything. Got caught on clothings/sheets etc and if you aren't careful it gets infected due to being pulled on all the time

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  9. I'd say you have bigger issues: such as a fiance who'd break up with you because you won't be able to breastfeed your future kids...
    :-O

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    1. I think there is a difference between "not be able to breastfeed" and "choose not be able to breastfeed".

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    2. Ok fine. It's still her body though, and if he'd break up with her over something like that, there are other issues going on besides "choosing not to breastfeed." I breastfed both of my kids, and I don't regret it, but it was still my choice, and no one else'.
      I feel like he's being manipulative, but perhaps I'm reading too much into what she wrote.

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  10. no one should tell you what to do with your body

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  11. Break up with him. If boob jewelry is a tipping point in your relationship, it's already on the rocks. Might as well make it sooner than later, BEFORE you breed.

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  12. to all who think she should break up with him,

    breast-feeding leads to healthy children, all of you must have been breast-fed! it is important to be on the same page. her fiancé has the right have his view and it is very important. how can you be with someone who in your opinion is endangering your future child's well being.

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    1. You don't have to breast feed, some women aren't even able to. You can buy baby formula that contains all the same nutrients, it's just very expensive. Also you can remove the piercing and not have a problem.

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    2. I refused to breast feed as a baby, so I was formula-fed, and I turned out pretty damn fantastic tbh.

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    3. While I agree with you, it's still ultimately the woman's choice when it comes down to it. Breastfeeding takes a lot of commitment which some women aren't able to give for different reasons. Also, some women CAN'T breast-freed.

      Being a new mother is hard enough, and judgmental attitudes such as yours don't help.

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  13. Strange question really. The fiance is thinking about the baby while OP is just thinking about herself.

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  14. The real question is why the hell would you get a nipple piercing, they look disgusting as fuck. Not to mention the inconvenience of them getting caught on clothes or bedsheet, and in your case unable to breastfeed.

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  15. i've had both my nipples pierced for the last two years. i've never had a problem with them getting caught on stuff, and they've only ever gotten infected once, and it was very minor. I got it done because i think they're pretty, i've never really thought they look trashy at all. if anything, i think they're a really discrete, sexy piercing, because the only people who ever see it are the ones you choose to show it to.
    before i got mine i did a lot of research into possible side effects, particularly for breast feeding. what i found was that you actually can breastfeed with them in, but it's a bad idea because they're more likely to hold bacteria from things like sweating. and also because babies don't really take into account how much more sensitive they make your nipples, and i'd imagine it would really hurt to have them mauled like that all the time.
    here's my advice; if you plan on having/breastfeeding a baby in the next year or two, don't bother. they take about 6-8 months to fully heal, and believe me, you don't wanna be messing with them in that time. and if you're gonna be breast feeding right after they heal, and have to take them out, then it was a waste of time, and you may as well wait a while until you don't have anything like that going on anymore. if, however, you and your fiancee plan on waiting to have children for the next 3 to 5 years, i'd go right ahead. you can always have them re-pierced afterwards if you really loved them too.

    as for the whole fiancee not liking them thing... my question would be why? if you take out the breastfeeding aspect of things, is it just a personal preference? is it something you've always wanted to do, but haven't because of him?
    what it boils down to is this: yes its your body, but being in a happy relationship sometimes means compromising on things. if his reasons behind not wanting you to get them stem simply from wanting the best for your future children then that is understandable. but if it's because he thinks it makes you 'look like a slut', then that's an unfair way to look at a minor piercing whose entire purpose would be to make you feel beautiful.

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    1. I wouldn't recommend leaving them in if you're breastfeeding. Breast-feeding for the first time can be incredibly excruciating. Also, some women get mastitis very easily. As well, as 15 mentioned, babies can get very "rough" especially once they start teething.

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  16. Honestly, your fiance sounds like an asshole.

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  17. I don't get why you want them pierced. Your fiance is the only one who's gonna see your nipples anyway and he's against the idea. Seems pointless to me but why try to understand woman logic, probably the same ones saying you should definitely dump him. Obviously your serious relationship is already doomed based on the two sentences you wrote. Listen to us anonymous internet folks, we know best what you should do with your life.

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  18. I'd dump your ass honestly if you just thought about yourself and nobody else. It's not a good indicator that you wouldn't sacrifice something superficial such as a piercing for the well-being of a future child. I'd dump you in an instant OP.

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