OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Saturday, November 8

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QUESTION: I got really drunk last night and kissed a stranger. Should i tell my boyfriend? We have been together for 3+ years. The kiss didn't mean anything

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  1. You should know your own boyfriend better than we do.

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  2. Yes you should tell him. If it really was a drunken mistake, he should understand.

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      Being honest is key here, OP.

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  3. You shouldn't be kissing other strangers in a monogamous relationship. You know that fair and well and it's not fair to your boyfriend. Harsh, yeah. But I'd probably dump my boyfriend right then and there if he told me he kissed another girl, even if he was drunk. I've been cheated on before, so I have zero tolerance for any minor or major infidelity. If it had happened once, then how do I know that it won't happen again?

    While my moral compass is pointing to the fact that yes, you should owe it to your boyfriend of 3+ years the truth, it also depends on yourself. How would you react if he told you that he kissed another girl while intoxicated? On the other hand, three years is a long time if both of you are going to be in it for the long run. If the guilt you feel is minor because you know it didn't mean anything and that its NOT going to ever happen again, then it's not going to do you or him a favour if you end up telling him.

    In addition, if you managed to still remember your name while you were drunk that night, then you should've remembered you had a boyfriend. Would you be able to still trust yourself after this incident to keep your lips off another stranger while intoxicated? If it didn't mean anything, then you shouldn't have been kissing another stranger in the first place. You should re-evaluate your relationship based on this incident.

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    1. ^Holy shit balls. Don't mess with this girl.

      Look, OP: we are all human and make mistakes sometimes.
      Be honest with him, apologize, and move on. If a small kiss blows up your relationship, then it probably wasn't based on a solid foundation to begin with. Cuz lets face it, there are bigger problems in the world than a regretful stranger kiss.

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  4. Hell naw nigga, just play it cool and never tell a soul. make sure every other blabber mouth keeps theirs shut

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  5. If you know it won't happen ever again and it didn't mean anything, then don't tell him. 3 years is a long time. You've invested too much time in this relationship. Just live with the guilt and make sure it doesn't happen again

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  7. Wow.
    All the fucking girls in this thread telling you to keep quiet. And thats why I've given up on dating, fucking women can't be trusted.

    Why do none of you understand she cheated? What stops her from getting so drunk she doesnt realize she is sucking a dick?

    You have no respect for your relationship, and you don't love your boyfriend (otherwise, this wouldnt have happened). Tell him so you break up and he stops wasting his time with you.

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    1. Holy shit, the fallacies.

      You can still love your boyfriend and have something like this happen. Love doesn't constitute unequivocal commitment - otherwise we wouldn't have so many instances of cheating.

      As a guy, definitely agree that it's a moral decision you make whether to keep quiet based on the reasons people stated above. That being said - keeping quiet is a lot harder to do than you may think. Also - guilt is a shitty feeling to have and can lead to suspicion on your end. I personally couldn't keep quiet out of sheer guilt but it's really up to you.

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    2. Wow. I feel bad for you, someone must have really hurt you to make you have such a negative view on women and relationships.

      P.S. I replied here earlier saying she should tell him. And I am a girl.

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    3. 8) Yeah what an asshole she is. And the rest of the people telling her to keep quiet.

      8a)"Love doesn't constitute unequivocal commitment." WTF?

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  8. Monogamy is not natural. Stop feeling ashamed for being human.
    Also, telling him is selfish and will make him feel jealous for nothing.

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    1. I agree. Don't tell. Hit the gym if/when guilt strikes. I used to "run" off my indiscretions until I realized (and worked up the courage to tell potential partners) that monogamish is the way to go for me.

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  9. Definitely tell your boyfriend. Lies ALWAYS come around to bite you in the ass later. Plus, telling the truth may make your relationship stronger. Wouldn't you rather have your boyfriend confess that he drunkingly kissed another girl, which didn't mean anything versus you finding out through somebody else?

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    1. I've lied about a ton of shit that's never bit me in the ass. Did I make those scratches on the coffee table? Nah Mom, I think that was the cat, or my sister with the guitar.

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  10. Let's try looking at this from another perspective and take it up a notch......

    I got really drunk last night and had sex with a stranger. The sex meant nothing and I don't remember it. Should I tell her? I think the answer is obvious.

    Or no wait.. Yeah I'll keep quiet because that's just the real me. Monogamy is a bitch. Fuck that shit. I'll treat her like a dummy for the rest of my life. WHAT A GRREEAT IDEA. When she does the same to me.. Ima really give it to her real good..like I'm completely innocent...Yeah..flawless logic...Totally deserve a cookie.. MHM

    ^My tribute to people who said NO.

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  11. WHERE WERE YOUR FRIENDS? You shouldn't be getting drunk alone without anyone there to watch you. Especially if you have a significant other. You should really tell him. He may dump you, but hey you learn from it and move on.

    Personally if my boyfriend did that to me, I'm dumping him. Just because I know our relationship will never be the same. The trust won't be there and I'm going to be miserable. No matter how long we've been together

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    1. Why the fuck does it matter where her friends were? This person is an adult who made adult decisions to drink. If she really needs to depend on other people to take care of her and make sure she doesn't do anything wrong, that's fucked up and she needs to grow the fuck up. No one else is responsible for your actions.

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  12. Be honest and tell him. If it's like a peck kiss or making out sucking face makes a huge difference though.

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  13. we all make mistakes OP. don't tell him. it won't help either of you

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      so what if we all make mistakes? Would you want someone to make this "mistake" on you? The answer is most likely no, so be a decent human being and encourage OP to be an honest and genuine human being. Sooner or later the truth comes out and your boyfriend will find out OP.

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    2. If it was one kiss I'd rather not know about it. It would just make me anxious as the guy in the relationship. If its going to end fine, but if its not going to happen again I don't want to know.

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    3. Beta as fuck. Grow some balls.

      You'd stay with a cheating whore? You're a fucking pussy.

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  14. If you're asking if you should or should not tell on omgUW you're obviously feeling guilty. If you're feeling guilty, it means you have done something wrong - aka...you should tell your boyfriend. People need to stop acting childish and justifying "just a kiss". It's all cheating.

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  15. I tripped, fell, my dick landed in this other girl, tried to get up, fell again, kept tripping until I came inside her. Should I tell my gf?

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    1. Might want to tie your shoe laces

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  16. Wow, people on here are insecure as fuck. If you're more than a dick/pussy to your SO, who the fuck cares if they kiss someone else while drunk?

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  17. Tell him. There's a chance he'll find out from someone else, and then any trust you have will be destroyed forever.

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