QUESTION: Is it possible for two people who are mutually attracted to each other (physically) to be just friends? Especially if they both know it just isn't possible for them to be in a relationship?
Yes. But you need to be open about your feelings to one another constantly, almost as if you are in a relationship, and you need to be willing to say "Hanging out with you like this does not work for me; sorry"
Yup. A friend and I were physically attracted to each other - spent a few evenings talking about it, where he eventually said he was completely attracted to a mutual friend of ours. Nothing had ever really happened before, so we were able to put down a "friendship line", and knew we'd never be more than friends.
That was over 3 years ago. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend I've been dating for 2.5 years; he's been dating our mutual friend for 3 years. And we're still friends (but were never close friends, so just want to point that out)
yeah. he's a super close friend of mine. i (and everyone else thought) he liked me and eventually i started having feelings for him too. we both talked about it but we couldn't be in a relationship...at least not at this time (personal reasons). we're still really good friends and it never got awkward between us and i think we're on the same page.
Yes. But you need to be open about your feelings to one another constantly, almost as if you are in a relationship, and you need to be willing to say "Hanging out with you like this does not work for me; sorry"
ReplyDeleteyeah, duh.
ReplyDeleteWhy is it not possible for them to be in a relationship?
ReplyDeletemaybe because they're far apart?
DeleteYup. A friend and I were physically attracted to each other - spent a few evenings talking about it, where he eventually said he was completely attracted to a mutual friend of ours. Nothing had ever really happened before, so we were able to put down a "friendship line", and knew we'd never be more than friends.
ReplyDeleteThat was over 3 years ago. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend I've been dating for 2.5 years; he's been dating our mutual friend for 3 years. And we're still friends (but were never close friends, so just want to point that out)
So yes, it's possible, but communication is key.
yeah. he's a super close friend of mine. i (and everyone else thought) he liked me and eventually i started having feelings for him too. we both talked about it but we couldn't be in a relationship...at least not at this time (personal reasons). we're still really good friends and it never got awkward between us and i think we're on the same page.
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