OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Wednesday, October 15

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QUESTION: How do you find someone for a serious relationship?

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  1. Judging by my friends relationships.. find someone with similar interests, or more importantly, a similar personality.

    As a prerequisite they probably need to be roughly the same attractiveness, come from the same socio-economic bracket, and have similar levels of education.

    So I guess I'd try joining clubs/teams and going to events you're interested in. Apparently people have a lot of success with online dating, but thats not a very romantic story to tell your kids :/

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    1. I agreed with you until the part about online dating. You'd give up someone who's perfectly compatible with you (who you otherwise wouldn't find) just because you want a cuter story to tell your kids? Really?!

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    2. I wouldn't give up on someone who's perfectly compatible if I happened to meet them online, but I don't think I'd seek it out online.

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  2. You approach people in their everyday environment. You get to know them as an individual.

    Stop turning to mediums full of desperate people, and pick ones who have attractive lifestyles. The only reason to look online is if you are too socially inept (or closeted by only associating with friends etc.) to discover people within your environment.

    Basically, the person you're looking for is closer than you think, you just don't know them well enough to actually appreciate their personality.

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    1. Extremely good point, we need to all take this to heart. I delayed the dating of my first girlfriend for half a year because I wouldn't let myself think of her as anything more than a friend.

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  3. I'm right here! :)

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    1. I didn't know "serious relationship" was interchangeable with "one night stand" thanks for clearing that up for me.

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    2. I just rick roll any girl that likes me on tinder, no way I'm hooking up with anyone I meet there. If I met the same person at the bar or coffee shop, it would be a different story.

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  5. Take them home from a party, fuck em, then obsess over them for days until it gets weird.

    Wait, fuck, I'm still single

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    1. I feel you brother bear

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    2. If you actually want a relationship, why are you looking for that in hookups from parties?

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  6. There are some things you don't "look for". It will happen when everything is just right.

    Always talk to new people, never hesitate, try new things and smile. Talk less, listen more. Never be desperate... when you're happy with who you are, when you love yourself and don't mind being alone well then that's when you can expect for someone else to want to enter your life.

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  7. The way to find a serious relationship is to stop looking. Any relationship I have been in has always occurred right after I stopped caring about being single, and having fun instead.

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  8. I put a banana in my pocket and use it as a pickup line.

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  9. http://i.imgur.com/tIs7CxV.jpg

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  10. Stop looking for a serious relationship.

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  11. It's not straightforward. There isn't a guaranteed way to make it happen and have a good outcome.

    I would suggest thinking about the people you already know, and evaluating the people you meet as to what their character is. Are they reliable? Do their actions match their words? How do they spend their time? How well do they treat the people around them? Do they make you laugh? Can you have a good conversation with them? Is there anything about them that would be a deal-breaker?

    If you observe carefully, and over a period of time, you can get a feel for how a person thinks, and what they do in a variety of contexts.

    Then, if you like them, you can ask them out, and see what happens. I think it is better to ask and get an answer then to wonder.

    I also think that physical attraction can grow over time, so if it isn't initially there, that isn't necessarily a problem. It's more important who the person is day-to-day.

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