OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Wednesday, October 15

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QUESTION: Should I give my bf access to my facebook account?

21 comments

  1. No. If his trust issues are that strong there's something wrong.

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  2. If you are asking an anonymous forum, No as you obviously are insecure about it.

    In a real relationship though you probably know each other's bank details, personal info etc., I would expect to be able to share social network accounts without fear of misuse is trivial.

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    1. Jeez have some privacy, I have been in a relationship for 4 years and I have never given my boyfriend my bank detail or social media passwords ... seems really unhealthy you should have some privacy

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    2. ^Not everyone is in the same point in their relationship as you. If you're in a serious long-term relationship, then there is no such thing as privacy. Bank accounts, social networking, it doesn't matter. If you're in a serious relationship, there is no "yours" and "mine", just "ours". And if giving that up makes you nervous, then you are in a different place than your significant other.

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  3. Never. It's important to remain autonomous and for there to be enough trust that you don't need to do this. To me is suggests he is either insecure or domineering if he outright asked you to do this.

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  4. Are you serious lol? I wouldn't even let my girlfriend use my laptop or phone. I have a special settings locked down for her or anyone else.

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  5. My boyfriend and I know eachothers passwords for everything... its not like we really go on there looking for things but there have been times when he's wanted me to check his email, log into a game for him etc. I think part of a relationship is trust in the way that you know they have your information and will keep it safe, and not abuse the power that comes with that.

    I think saying "no" or "id never do that" is just as childish as forcing someone to give you that information.

    The bottom line is, even if your partner knows your password they should respect your privacy, and even if they don't you shouldn't have anything to hide. And if you do, maybe you aren't ready for an honest relationship.

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    1. Exactly. If you're comfortable with it, than it's fine. If not, then don't do it.

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    2. Sorry 7, that's weird. Its not that I wouldn't trust my SO, its just that the only reason they'd ever know it is to do untrusting things. There is literally no other reason.

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    3. 7c then you should re-evaluate your relationship if your significant other would only do shady things with sensitive information. It's not that hard, theres something wrong there if that is such a compulsion.

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    4. 7 nailed it. Unfortunately some people are clingy and will go through your entire Facebook message history, internet history and downloads. So make sure they understand privacy or enjoy your lack of it and be prepared to go insane when you have no where to be alone.

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    5. While this makes sense, I wouldn't necessarily trust that their curiosity would never get the better of them. Also, it's all well and good to say you shouldn't have anything to hide, but I have private conversations that may contain other people's secrets, not just mine.

      There's nothing wrong with sharing passwords, but if your SO is asking or pressuring you to give them your password, that's a bad sign and they probably don't trust you or have control or insecurity issues.

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  6. Ultimately this depends on the reason. I think if he's asking for it/pressuring you to give it to him you should be asking yourself why. If it's because he doesn't trust you, then there is a bigger problem there (especially if he is asking for yours without offering to give you access to his Facebook in return).

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  7. No, even if I was married to someone for 40 years, and completely trusting/honest, I would not give them my password. I have given girlfriends my password to my phone, which does have my facebook auto login, but I always have my phone on me, and it was common courtesy to not read messages or anything. I didn't have anything to hide, but there had to be some private matters.

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  8. no, that's fucking weird, unless you WANT to give it to him so he can check something for you or whatever. but if it's because he needs to know what you're doing at all times, run far away from that guy.

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  9. do you have something to hide?

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  10. It is entirely dependent on the type of relationship you have.

    I have been with my s/o for 8 years. So he knows my passwords, I know his (social media, email...we share our bank account/visa). BUT that did not happen right away and was not the outcome of mistrust, suspicion, or threats.

    We know each others passwords because at some point, one of us had to check the other's email for them, or he was in a pinch and needed info from a private message on facebook and didn't have access to the internet where he was, so he called me and had me check.

    We don't log into each others accounts just to check up on the other person. (we live together - I could simply go on his computer and his accounts are auto-logged on - same with mine- so even if didn't have one of my passwords, he could still get to it. We bluntly ask if we see the other looking at something odd. Example: He was looking at some slutty girls on facebook. I asked what he was up to. He told me he was looking at some random slutty girl fan page. I said, ok cool. It is that simple.

    Honestly...if you guys doubt each other at all or if you feel pressured, don't do it.

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