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QUESTION: Interesting question: whats your average before getting into a relationship, and average after getting into a relationship?

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  1. Doesn't change, grade before laid is my motto.

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  2. Don't have exact numbers but mine was actually higher after getting into a relationship, possibly due to having someone to motivate me/lean on/talk things through with when I was really stressed.

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  3. My grades didn't change. But I wasn't extremely invested in either of my relationships.

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  4. For reference, I also put my grades ahead of a lot of things and focus on school a lot even when in a relationship but...

    I see little correlation with my grades. (I'm in regular stream btw)
    They went up after first year, and then up slightly more in 2B after getting into a relationship midway through 2A. Had problems w/ bf in 3A, grades dipped, but then we broke up at the end of 3A and my 3B marks were great (probably throwing myself into school). The rest remains to be seen.

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  5. Depends on who I'm with. My ex was a really bad influence. He was a complacent slacker with no direction, he also wanted sex multiple times a day, and a fight ensued every time I said no. My average was about 67 throughout this relationship (this was throughout 1A/1B, and I came into university with a 96 average). Then I broke up with him, focused on school, and met a really ambitious and intelligent guy. Through a miracle, my average is now 88 - and my current boyfriend is really motivational when it comes to school. As long as you don't become too invested in the wrong person, it's pretty easy to do well in school while maintaining a relationship.

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    1. >it's pretty easy to do well in school while maintaining a relationship

      It's hard to do well in some majors regardless of your relationship status.

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    2. 5a I don't think that was the point of this question at all

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  6. Never had an issue keeping up when I was *in* a relationship with somebody, though I would always dip in the aftermath of breakups.

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  7. If you ask questions like these, the answer is that you're not ready for a relationship.

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    1. I dont care about relationships, infact thats not even my point, I just want to see a trend and see if my hypothesis is right

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    2. Testing a hypothesis by asking a question on this site is not very scientific.

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    3. well i am not gonna go through the trouble of compiling proper stats by asking a random segment of population all over the world to account for cultural imbalances either

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    4. @7b +1

      @7a, piggybacking on what 7b said, you would also be presuming that all relationships are the same, when in fact they are each uniquely different, sooo good luck with that

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  8. Did well in first and second year with 80-83. Started dating my manipulative ex in third year and my average was 73-75. I later cut him off completely and had 83-86 in my final year. Looking back I wouldn't say the grade drop was completely due to him as I did feel my third year courses were difficult, but at the same time I was really surprised at how much I improved when he was gone.

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    1. what do girls even mean by "manipulative"?

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    2. @8a - It's the same for either gender. Someone who is manipulative will play your emotions and weaknesses to get what they want until you figure out what they're doing and dump their sorry asses. Often these folks will play victim to get your attention/sympathy/support, they can also be shit disturbers to hold your focus. They come in many different forms and are usually good at deceit. Another tactic of these loathsome people is to make you feel guilty or ashamed in order to control your behaviour. Thanks for the first hand knowledge mom, I still wish I had enough balls to send you my therapy bill.

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    3. ^ Spot on definition. My ex was manipulative - he acted like an innocent victim with "bad luck in life". Feeling bad for him, I would pay for everything and take care of him when he was feeling sick (which was almost all the time)

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    4. This is 8. 8b is right on and I couldn't say it any better myself. He pretended to be in danger or sick a lot so I would give him my money and "save" him, and blamed me for his troubles whenever I refused. I felt dumb and powerless around him.

      8c, it sounds like we're talking about the same guy. o.o

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    5. I think I might be manipulative...

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  9. Grades was always pretty good, did not change after relationship (that I am very invested in). I'm in a competitive program as well. Getting into a relationship doesn't mean you don't have time to do anything else. I also spent fairly little time on school work in general so I don't know if that has anything to do with it.

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  10. I've been in a relationship since grade 10. Average was 80 in high school Average is 85-90ish now.

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  11. K well 10 you're basically married :P

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