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QUESTION: 22 year old guys: would you see an issue with dating a 18 year old girl who is awesome?
Everyone else: opinion?

51 comments

  1. I'm a 22 year old guy. 18 is personally too young for me, mostly because I'm graduating soon and plan to move away from this area. I also find most 18 year olds pretty immature, though I won't generalize you into that group.

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  2. I started dating my boyfriend when he was 23 and I was 18. It was kind of fun being paraded around as "jail bait," oddly enough. It made his friends all envious.

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  3. My brother's 22 and his girlfriend is 18.

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  4. I dont see anything wrong about that...?

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  5. Nothing wrong with it if its consensual

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  6. clearly you can't get anyone older/better so go for it

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    1. Older/better is some sort of oxymoron

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    2. You are so transparently jealous.

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  7. You suck and someone needs to beat the living shit out of you.

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    1. God forbid two adults get into a relationship

      The fuck is wrong with you?

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    2. Said #8 as they slowly masturbated and cried themselves to sleep while listening to Moonlight Sonata.

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  8. The young ones always fuck better, and since they are so immature you never feel bad when the inevitably leave for the "university experience" (aka lots of strange cock).

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    1. Young ones always fuck better?
      Yeah if you like fucking starfishes and only the head of your cock sucked...

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    2. ^ this. maybe 9 is just used to fucking passed out drunk chicks.

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  9. 18? y so old, im into 14 personally.
    (Anonymous)

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  10. Age/2 + 8 is the formula, lower bound is 18.

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  11. I'm 18 and dating a 22yr old guy and we've never had a problem... just sucks because now it's long distance :/

    I think it really just depends on the maturity of the individual participants and how they feel... can't really generalize.

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    1. +1: I feel ya. It totally depends on the maturity.

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  12. My boyfriend and I started dating when I was 18 and he was 22. We've nearly made it to 5 years together and I never really felt the age difference whatsoever.. He got a full-time job before me, but that's about it.

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  13. my bf and i started dating when i was 16 and he was 20. never was a big deal

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  14. ^ The three chicks above have some serious daddy issues.

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    1. Or you have problems with people dating older guys/girls. Get over it. As long as they are happy and the age gap isn't super significant, it's all good

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  15. 24 here.... Nope. The maturity gap is too big. Her 6 year outlook? Finishing school, moving out for the first time. Buying alcohol legally. My 6 year outlook? Mortgage, car, marriage.

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    1. When I was 17 I dated a 24 year old. Now I'm 20 dating a 28 year old. To whoever said the chicks had daddy issues for a FOUR year gap: seriously? 4 years is all it takes for you to look down on a girl for wanting older guys? Everybody knows guys are less mature (on average) than women of equal age. I have been considered (by people other than myself) mature for my age since I was 12. In response to reply #16, maybe I'm different here compared to other girls roughly my age since if I found the right guy and could afford it I'd be totally down for getting married and moving in together before I finish school. I think I would have done well in the 60s...

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  16. Op here. From what people have said I'm going with it, just not going to expect anything too serious for a bit until I get to know her and her maturity level.

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  17. I'm 20 and my boyfriend's 24. We started dating when I was 18 and he was 22. I've always been told I act more mature than most university students, and when we first started going out he kept forgetting that I wasn't legal and couldn't drink. Now it's still going well. Honestly, going out with him was a pretty great decision.

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  18. When I was 18 I was an immature kid who thought he was mature. Now I'm 22 in professional school where the average age is 24 and most of the people I associate with are 23-27. 18 is definitely too young. Gain some life experience and perspective.

    I actually had a 21 year old tell me I was too old recently because I was no longer in undergrad.

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    1. Speak for yourself. Every pair is different. My relationship with my older boyfriend works because he is a little immature for his age and I am mature for my age.

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    2. LOL "When I was 18 I was an immature kid who thought he was mature. Now I'm 22 and I think I'm mature"

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    3. 19 b. nailed it. You sound pretty immature 19.

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  19. The big thing to consider is less your age and more the place at which you are in your life. The first fellow that I ever saw was 25 and I was 18. He'd been out of school so long that he couldn't understand my commitments and he had a bit of a "been there, done that", condescending attitude toward it. Plus, he had already bought a house and a car, which - at the time - seemed like a big deal. All of this experience made me feel like I had done nothing worthwhile, which was a real kick to the self esteem. All in all, it was a really bad relationship.

    However, I started dating my current boyfriend when he was 23 and I was almost 19, and the difference was striking. When we started dating, my boyfriend was working part-time and was about to go back to school. He also lived with his parents and drove a rust bucket. These things, coupled with his occasionally immature attitude, had us on an equal playing field, and as he develops and moves on to better things in life, so do I. Now I'm doing my MA and he's working full-time at a great job, we have a great place together, and things are awesome.

    tl;dr Figuring out at what point you both are in life is a super important step in deciding whether to date someone older or younger.

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    1. I don't know if that is really fair in our situation. I have known what cars I am going to buy when, what my house is going to be like (more location and property than interior), where I am going to do masters and phd, where I am going to work, and for how long, and more since I was 18. Most people I know my age don't know what they are going to do next year when they graduate.

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    2. @20a That is useful for entering into a relationship with an older person because you will at least have an idea about whether you will be around or not in the future. My only thought here is that planning is not equivalent to doing, and you can't see how your plans will turn out in advance. Also, just planning doesn't let you see the world through the eyes of someone older. You're not already making a mortgage or big car payment, so you don't have to worry about working as much or paying for big household or car repairs. You're likely not in a permanent job if you're working so you don't know what it's like to feel stuck in a position and like you have to work in order to not lose your house/car.

      Plus, because you are not at this point in your life, you are likely not able to contribute financially to your older partner's goals and that can make you feel a little useless at times. I've been there and it made me feel so guilty.

      Anyway, just a thought.

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  20. There's an official way to answer this question:

    (22 / 2) + 7 = 18

    Yeah, you're good.

    The 20-year-old dating the 16-year-old is officially creepy though.

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    1. i'm the 16 year old who dated a 20 year old. i'm now 20 and he's 24 and we're still together. like i said, it's not a big deal and it never was.

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    2. Believe me 21a, it really is a big deal and says a lot about the guy when you date someone still in high school. At 20 he was basically "dating" a child. imo, everything is fine as long as both people are adults, but 16 is too young to date someone who can be finishing post-secondary soon.

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    3. ^lol what? This site gives some shitty advice.

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  21. @21 I agree. I hope women reading this page understand if you were 16 and dating some 20 year old, none of you were mature. He was just some creep and you were just a very immature and vulnerable teenage girl. People really get health class twisted. When they say girls mature faster than boys its physically and nothing else. To all the ladies out there that have date older men, they are not more mature and neither are you (specifically the couples in the 16,20 relm). Truthfully, I feel like guys who date women much younger than them (2+) are immature and thirsty.

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    1. Actually, studies have shown that girls often mature faster mentally and emotionally as well. Newcastle did a study that points to this.

      http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201312/scientists-identify-why-girls-often-mature-faster-boys

      http://healthland.time.com/2013/12/19/why-girls-brains-mature-faster-than-boys-brains/

      http://www.education.com/reference/article/Ref_Boys_Girls/

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    2. Also, having a gap of more than 2 years is perfectly normal. Think of all of the people that you would have to eliminate from your dating pool just because they happen to be 3 years older or younger than you. What a perfectly ridiculous way to eliminate some great prospects.

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  22. OP again, just wanted to say that I didn't know how old she was until I tried to take her to a bar. I just never asked, I knew she was younger than me, just didnt realize by how much.

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  23. i'm 22 and my boyfriend is 18 (19 next week), we were 21 and 18 when we started going out

    there's some conflict bc different life stages (he's still figuring out what he wants to do with my life, and i'm thinking about graduating/long term jobs) but that's literally it

    he's more mature than me in a lot of other areas

    we make it work

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    1. assuming you are a girl: I think this is the only post that is reverse of the original situation.

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  24. Dated a girl a decade my junior. Felt good.

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    1. how old were you/her?

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    2. 29 and 19. She's an awesome person for sure. I get hit on by 18 to 20 year olds almost daily though so I just go along with it. Must be something in the water.

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  25. I am a 20 year old girl and attracted to older guys between the range of 25-30 years old.

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  26. 16 is my favourite age.

    - 21 year old male

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  27. Depends if when the 22 year old male is dating the 18 year old after she's started university/college. I would say, fine. I'd say it's even better if it's near the end of her first year (and she's still 18 and you 22) because she's gone through the first year of university, seen what it's like, and has potentially and hopefully matured from highschool.

    Before she's started university/college... that's going to be a bit of a problem if she isn't going to the same one as you (meaning not a UW student), but not a major one if you make it work (and she maintains interest in you while you're apart).

    That said, I started dating my boyfriend when I was 18 and he was 22, at the end of my first year. Only met him at the start of the winter term because he was on exchange for the fall. It is now my fourth year, he is doing his second year of his Master's at UW, and we are still dating.

    Age won't be an issue anymore once the girl is 20. From personal experience, the age difference isn't a huge deal if you two are a good fit, personality wise. Still, it is good to be aware of the other person's age - it just becomes less of an issue as you both get older.

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