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Updated on Tuesday, August 19

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QUESTION: What's a normal age to get married at? I have a friend who just got engaged at 21 and I can't help but think it's a huge mistake.

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  1. 21 seems extremely early..

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  2. Eh, getting engaged is different from getting married.

    It is earlier than average, but it is not unheard of.

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  3. mind your own business OP

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    1. Mind my business? He's my childhood best friend and I was asked to be a best man. I have some business might not be a lot but I have business.

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  4. Everyone in my family (3 aunts, 2 uncles, parents, 2 sets of grandparents) were all engaged before 22. They are all still married to their partners. Age has nothing to do with it, it's entirely maturity and views on marriage. I got engaged at 22, am 23 now, and am getting married in 2 years when finances are more stable.

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    1. I don't understand why you would get engaged in the first place when finances were not stable.

      That is the worst thing you can do.

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  5. As Barney Stinson said, don't think about marriage til you're 30.

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  6. 21 is pretty normal actually. Yes, many people wait until later in life now-days, but if you think about our grandparent's generation, a lot of them were married around that age. I'm only twenty and a number of the people I went to high school with are already married or engaged. I think it has more to do with maturity level than age. If your friend believes he's ready to be married then you should support him.

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  7. I agree that 21 seems really early (I'm 22 and I couldn't imagine getting married now!) but it depends on your friend's relationship. If it's a mature and loving relationship and you're only worried about them because of the age thing, then I see no problem with it. But if you think it's a huge mistake because of other concrete reasons (e.g., your friend's not mentally ready for such a huge commitment or you don't think the two of them are a good match), then yes, marriage may be a huge mistake.

    Nothing you can really do about it though.

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  8. I don't think there is a "normal" age to get married at, because people get married whenever they fucking feel like it.

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  9. Very much depends on relationship & maturity. For me, being in school I wouldn't want to that early, and even my oldest sibling (27) isn't thinking about that yet. However I have cousins who got married at ages 19 and 20 and now are happy with two to three kids each at ages 24 and 26. To each his/her own.

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  10. My parents alway said wait till /at least/ your late 20s because you change so much before then. The two of them might be perfect now but that doesn't mean they will be in a decade, at which point you'd have to divide a decade's worth of accumulated property.

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  11. I agree 21 is early too, but I have a few high school friends that got married or engaged this past year - most of them have graduated university or college now, so it's reasonable. Also, most have been in the relationship for at least 2-3 years. But yes, it still seems really early for me, too. As a student all we can worry about is getting some decent marks and co-op jobs and somehow juggling a relationship - how can anyone think about marriage?! lol even the couple I know who's been together for 5 years won't be getting engaged until next year or later..

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