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Updated on Sunday, August 10

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QUESTION: Do you guys go into relationships expecting them to last forever? I feel like my bf and I know that it's not going to last but we're still together. Is this normal?

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  1. That's the stupidest thing ever. Break up nigga

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    1. you don't have to want to be together forever. You can just enjoy the ride.

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    2. She'll be enjoying lots of rides

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  2. Your bf probably thinks its going to last forever. Thats how men are, you know, loyal.

    Girls aren't loyal because you know you can get new cock easy any day of the week, and thats why you think its going to end. Thats normal though, every girl is like that so dont worry about it.

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    1. I really hope your apostrophe key is broken.

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    2. Troll. She said BOTH she and her boyfriend know it won't last.

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    3. No, she said she "feels like" they know, and we all know that girls feelings rarely reflect the reality of the situation.

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  3. I think you guys should break up. If you know it's not going to last, it's obvious you're not into it anymore (or you were maybe never into it?).

    I've had two relationships where I knew pretty early on that it wasn't going to last forever/I wouldn't be totally happy if I stayed with the person forever. You should follow that gut feeling. There's no point wasting anymore time when you (and your current SO) could be spending the time with a better matched partner.

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    1. It depends on the reason. If you can't see yourself staying with that person because you don't really like them, then breaking up is probably a good idea.

      However, if it's due to other circumstances(long distance/co-op is common for our age), you might as well enjoy your time together for the time being.

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    2. What if the reason is they don't love you as much as you love them?

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  4. Or if you are enjoying the good times together don't break it up

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  5. When I get into a relationship with someone, my reasoning is so that I can find a life partner in order to achieve my family-related goals (have a successful marriage, raise children, etc.). I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone who didn't have the same long-term plan - I narrow this down by dating before getting into a relationship. Naturally, a few people I've dated have been duds (at least for me), and I haven't progressed to a relationship with them, but others have made it to a relationship.

    I don't see anything wrong with you being in a relationship with someone and knowing it probably won't last. It wouldn't work for me, as I don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't want to spend their life with me as a couple. However, if you want to live in the moment (something that I don't often do) and have a great time with someone who won't be in your life forever, that is your prerogative. Have a wonderful time and achieve what you want to! It's not for others to say.

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  6. My ex and I were in the same situation and obviously we break up eventually. You should enjoy it while it lasts, don't worry about the future too much.

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  7. You've reached the beginning of the end, my friend. My ex confessed similar feelings to me and a few months later we broke up. It was a messy break up too.

    Stop thinking that you guys won't last together, because our thoughts influence our actions. This idea will stick with you and sooner or later you're not going to want to be with him any longer. You need to -want- to be in a relationship with him. If there's something missing from the relationship, talk to him about it. You started the relationship for a reason, find that reason.

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  8. If you go into a relationship expecting it to last forever, you're only setting yourself up to be disappointed. Why put expectations on your relationship from the get-go like that? Just play it out, see what happens, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, and that's ok!

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  9. If you're not into it, then you're not into it. There's no point in prolonging it because it will only build the bad feelings.

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  10. I feel like you shouldn't build up expectations either way with relationships (ie go into it thinking "we're going to last forever!" or "we're going to break up eventually"). That's just me though, I don't want to try to live up to expectations

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  11. every relationship teaches you things. you learn about yourself, about the kind of person you do and don't want to be with, how to be a good partner, etc...
    if you two are enjoying each other but know that you won't get married/stay together forever, then that's really not the end of the world. someone can be right for you during one stage of your life, and not during another.
    just do whatever makes you and your partner happy :)

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  12. i think it's important to make sure you are on the same page so that you don't break his heart in 2 years, if it happens that you are just projecting and he actually thinks this is forever. imagine how much that would hurt a person. you don't want to be the cause of that.

    but no, you don't need to think it's forever at the ripe old age of like 17-24 or however old you are. it is normal to not be practically engaged yet.

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