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Updated on Saturday, August 9

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QUESTION: From my own experiences, relationships tend to bring out the best & worst in people. I had a horrible breakup when I was in my first year of university (dated a guy all through high school), this being over five years ago (currently in graduate school). One night after a while since when we broke up he had called me while he was angry, and proceeded to finish our conversation by stating how he hoped one of my parents died of their cancer (one of my parents had cancer at this time). Although this was a long time ago, this will always stick with me for how disgusting people can be to try to hurt you. I have not spoken to this person for over four year and will never, even if I ever receive an apology. Not trying to be a sad story, I was just curious if anyone had ever lost their temper and had said something they severely regret to someone they deeply care about. Why is it while were angry (and I'm guilty of this) do we try to hurt people by targeting their weakest spots?

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  1. http://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/2d18xi/eli5_why_do_we_feel_the_urge_to_destroy_things/

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  2. sometimes people are just assholes

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  3. I can't count how many times someone has said something while they are angry that "they didn't mean", never have understood this

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  4. "Why is it while we're angry do we try to hurt people by targeting their weakest spots?"
    What are you new? If you're guilty of it you know it feels good to do it at the time. What the hell answer are you looking for? "Why do you still do it if you know it causes problems?" because you care more about the present than the ramifications of the future. Did this really need to be spelled out for you?

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    1. ^someone here has anger issues

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  5. ^ u mad that he/she is mad?

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  6. ^ that escalated quickly -___-

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  7. Why do people say things they don't mean, the big question lol

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  8. Hate to say it but "Trust no one" seems to be the order of the day these days.

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  9. who the fuck cares

    oh look, another person who has a view of life from inside their bubble

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  10. Yeah, obviously a lot of people have done similar things too. It's not just with a partner too but with other people who are close to you like your parents. I get angry with my family really easily. I guess it's because these people are so close to us, we don't put any sort barrier or filter between them and what we say.

    Hope your parent is well by the way.

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  11. I have said something that, by all accounts, I should not have in retrospect. I was angry, but I did not lose my temper. I don't lose my temper when I get angry, I get colder and colder. Good for me in that I can control the conversation. Bad for my now-ex. I also do not regret saying what I said. I knew what the ramifications would be even at the time. It was calculated, and achieved its intended purpose. I'm not proud of it, nor am I ashamed. It just went down that way.

    Why did I do it, or why would I do it again? Because I will only take your shit up to a certain level, no matter how close you are to me. Cross that line and I will fucking cut you.

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