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QUESTION: Anyone here dealt with premature ejaculation before? Whenever i have sex with my bf he either cums before he sticks it in or immediately ejaculates within 2 minutes max. Is this normal?

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  1. I think that premature ejaculation is normal - if he hasnt been sexually active for that long (this was also something that happened with my bf). I would suggest he should try to masturbate a few hours or whatever before you guys have sex.I think that should help and also practice holding it in might help.

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  2. Yes, this is normal. An often-cited number is 30% of men suffer from premature ejaculation and it disproportionately affects young men. For some guys it's a psychological thing which may just resolve as you get to know each other better and he becomes more confident, but for others it can be some deep-seated psychological shit. For others it's a purely physiological response that can be overcome through training (you can find out more on this through Google) and/or the use of certain drugs or topical sprays. Remember, as much as it bothers you, it probably bothers him a thousand times more and making him feel ashamed will probably only make it worse. Get him to see a doctor or do research on the problem on the internet.

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  3. Guys are usually way more sensitive the first round, and I've found that they last much longer (too long?!) after the initial one. So go for multiple rounds! :)

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  4. Not abnormal, it sucks for girls that they require so much work to get off (just physiologically). Guys just need friction

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  5. normal if he's asian

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  6. I usually don't last more than 30 seconds. I just ensure my partner gets off before PiV starts; that's just common courtesy.

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  7. Ohhhh yea, I am guilty of this, but my gf doesnt mind, or does but doesn't complain...

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  8. Invest in a cock ring

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  9. Yeah, just have him get you off before penetration, works for me and my gf.

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  10. I'm afraid not. My ex and I had the OPPOSITE issue! Eventually, it all came down to nerves and it went away on its' own. Sounds like it might be the same thing with you guys!

    Maybe try to look into using condoms that can desensitize him. If you are using them, then as 1 said, have your boyfriend masturbate a few hours before sex. It's all about desensitization.

    This sort of thing is very normal. Either premature or delayed (which was my case) ejaculation happens to the best of us guys, especially we are just starting out our sex life. Just don't forget to be supportive of him and don't show that you have a huge problem with it. This issue is probably more hard for him than it is for you, and he might feel even more ashamed of it if you are feeling bad, too.

    Good luck!

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  11. It comes with inexperience. Just have sex whenever you can and you'll notice a dramatic change in a couple of months.

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  12. A reason for premature ejaculation has been linked with porn and masturbation. As masturbation is a private thing that is usually done quickly, it is easy to become accustomed to ejaculating quickly. Unfortunately, this (obviously) can have negative repercussions on your sex life. I would recommend taking time to enjoy masturbation when he has the chance, this could help him to be able to "hold off" more so during sex. Also, enjoy foreplay! Sex is not solely based on penetration. Best of luck!

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