Updated on Friday, July 4
QUESTION: How to people here
make good friends? I don't think I've gone out to eat with a friend
since last December, and I just want to meet someone who's always down
to do the same things as me. I've tried joining clubs many times, but it
seems like people always join clubs with their friends and just talk to
them, which makes it hard for me to approach people. I've also tried
going to a few parties, but I only ever seem to get approached by guys
looking for a one night stand. I just don't know what to do anymore and
it sucks never waking up to text messages and rarely being able to go to
restaurants since I'd feel like a loser if I sat there and ordered
something alone.
What are you interested in? :)
ReplyDeleteYeah, list the things about yourself that you think would be important to someone who's be your friend so people have something to go by.
ReplyDeleteI'd be interested in getting to know you! what are you interested in (I'm a girl.)
ReplyDeleteI have the exact same problem as you!
ReplyDeleteI'm the same way. (I'm a girl as well) People always tell you to join clubs but everyone in them already has their own group of friends there. It's hard to make lasting friends :/
ReplyDeleteSometimes with clubs there is an unspoken / unwritten "probationary period" that new members are put through by the older ones.
ReplyDeleteI find the best way around that is to simply keep showing up to club events and whenever possible jumping into conversations that I can contribute to.
Eventually people figure you out and sort of "accept" you into the group.
I have been through this a few times with some of my hobbies, and as soon as you set-up a small base of mutual respect building off of it is trivial.