OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Friday, July 4

#6754

QUESTION: How to people here make good friends? I don't think I've gone out to eat with a friend since last December, and I just want to meet someone who's always down to do the same things as me. I've tried joining clubs many times, but it seems like people always join clubs with their friends and just talk to them, which makes it hard for me to approach people. I've also tried going to a few parties, but I only ever seem to get approached by guys looking for a one night stand. I just don't know what to do anymore and it sucks never waking up to text messages and rarely being able to go to restaurants since I'd feel like a loser if I sat there and ordered something alone.

6 comments

  1. What are you interested in? :)

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  2. Yeah, list the things about yourself that you think would be important to someone who's be your friend so people have something to go by.

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  3. I'd be interested in getting to know you! what are you interested in (I'm a girl.)

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  4. I have the exact same problem as you!

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  5. I'm the same way. (I'm a girl as well) People always tell you to join clubs but everyone in them already has their own group of friends there. It's hard to make lasting friends :/

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  6. Sometimes with clubs there is an unspoken / unwritten "probationary period" that new members are put through by the older ones.

    I find the best way around that is to simply keep showing up to club events and whenever possible jumping into conversations that I can contribute to.

    Eventually people figure you out and sort of "accept" you into the group.

    I have been through this a few times with some of my hobbies, and as soon as you set-up a small base of mutual respect building off of it is trivial.

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