Shouldn't, if she does, then she isn't worth it. She can't expect you to not go try to make friends you could have for the rest of your life. If it is because she wants you to go see her every weekend because she isn't local, then its different. Make her come here every other weekend, or just say you are busy. You are allowed to have a social life too. This is why I don't have a girlfriend.
Casually dating is fine IMO. Being in a committed relationship in first year? Probably not the best idea, though I've heard worse.
Unless you're talking about an out of town/highschool girlfriend. In that case, you should probably just break up at the end of summer - it'll save you having to break up over thanksgiving of your first year, which is what happens to probably 90% of highschool relationships in the first year of uni.
Everyone in the thread seems to assume that OP is a nice guy trying to have some innocent fun while his girlfriend is overly needy and controlling. The way I interpreted it, OP doesn't want the very fact that he has a girlfriend to ruin his 'fun' (whatever that entails). Was that a stretch?
I'm going to answer yes to this. Naturally when you're in a relationship, you just want to spend time with your S/O, so subconsciously you'll exert more effort in making things work with her, and focus way less on making new friends, etc.
I entered first year being single, and I was honestly so glad I did. I know I got to meet a lot more people than I would've had if I was still in a relationship at the time. Also, a lot of my friends had girlfriends/boyfriends when they entered University, and a lot of them didn't work out, and for sure didn't meet as many people because of it. BUT I do know some couples that made things work, but even then they for sure didn't make as many friends as they would've had. It's all about what you prioritize, and what you find important really.
if you're thinking like that, your girlfriend doesn't deserve you OP.
ReplyDeleteShouldn't, if she does, then she isn't worth it. She can't expect you to not go try to make friends you could have for the rest of your life. If it is because she wants you to go see her every weekend because she isn't local, then its different. Make her come here every other weekend, or just say you are busy. You are allowed to have a social life too. This is why I don't have a girlfriend.
ReplyDeleteCasually dating is fine IMO. Being in a committed relationship in first year? Probably not the best idea, though I've heard worse.
ReplyDeleteUnless you're talking about an out of town/highschool girlfriend. In that case, you should probably just break up at the end of summer - it'll save you having to break up over thanksgiving of your first year, which is what happens to probably 90% of highschool relationships in the first year of uni.
If its long distance. Break up now.
ReplyDeleteI dated someone who I thought was the love of my life. Long distance, and I regret it, I could have been and done so much more if I didn't date him
We lasted 3 years, 1 year in HS, 2 years in university. No body cheated, amicable breakup.
You don't even know who you are right now yourself, so how can you know for sure that you want someone else?
Yes. Dump her.
ReplyDeleteShe'll just slow you down.
If she's living in the same city, then yes, definitely. If it's long distance then no.
ReplyDelete-Source: myself, local in undergrad, long distance in grad school.
You should ask her this and let her dump you. Problem solved!
ReplyDeleteCan OMGUW get a relationship/sex section? I vaguely remember mods hinting at it..
ReplyDeleteEveryone in the thread seems to assume that OP is a nice guy trying to have some innocent fun while his girlfriend is overly needy and controlling. The way I interpreted it, OP doesn't want the very fact that he has a girlfriend to ruin his 'fun' (whatever that entails). Was that a stretch?
ReplyDeleteof course
ReplyDeletebecause she will take up more of your time than a regular friend would
DROP HER IMMEDIATELY
ReplyDeleteIt'll be hard to explain all the dick sucking you do, so I'd dump her. Just my 2 cents :)
ReplyDeleteNaw, You wanna have a i cheated story
ReplyDeleteI'm going to answer yes to this. Naturally when you're in a relationship, you just want to spend time with your S/O, so subconsciously you'll exert more effort in making things work with her, and focus way less on making new friends, etc.
ReplyDeleteI entered first year being single, and I was honestly so glad I did. I know I got to meet a lot more people than I would've had if I was still in a relationship at the time. Also, a lot of my friends had girlfriends/boyfriends when they entered University, and a lot of them didn't work out, and for sure didn't meet as many people because of it. BUT I do know some couples that made things work, but even then they for sure didn't make as many friends as they would've had. It's all about what you prioritize, and what you find important really.