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QUESTION: How would you feel and what would you do if your bf or gf tells you that they think your body isn't really that attractive?

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  1. I would go to the gym.

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  2. It depends. If you don't have an ideal body but you're still active and live a healthy life, I would leave my significant other. If my body was the result of unhealthy lifestyle choices, I would go to the gym.

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  3. Someone told me this about my face and said I have a great body (actually, they just said average, not unattractive). I felt awful but then I asked them what specifically I could change. They gave me advice and told me that most people who are really attractive work hard at it and that they know that I could be really attractive if I wanted to but I have no reason to because it's not that important. So, I took their tips to be a bit more attractive and also realized that I shouldn't worry too much about it because it doesn't really mean much if it's just "fake" things like make up, hair and clothes that would make me more attractive which is true in my case at least.

    Body is a bit easier though because you just need to work out and eat healthy which you should be doing anyway.

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    1. Holy fuck. Does all the punctuation on your keyboard not work?

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    2. All of the punctuation marks on my keyboard work. That's why you can see all of those commas, periods, apostrophes, quotation marks and parentheses.

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    3. Are you sure about that, 3b?

      >They gave me advice and told me that most people who are really attractive work hard at it and that they know that I could be really attractive if I wanted to but I have no reason to because it's not that important.

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    4. I don't think there need to be any commas in that sentence. You don't need to put a comma before 'and' and 'but'.

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    5. ^ I'm not 3a but I have to agree her sentences are kind of run on. Punctuation includes periods too.

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    6. @3d: There are multiple independent clauses in that sentence, all of which would make perfectly fine sentences on their own.

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    7. All of you shut. the. fuck. up.

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    8. @3f: I agree that they would make perfectly fine sentences on their own but they don't need to be their own sentences if I want to connect them.

      @3e: They're not run on sentences because I use conjunctions to connect them. I think you're just using the term run on sentence because I have a long sentence that could be divided into multiple sentences.

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  4. I would agree, and I don't know what I would do about it.
    Going to the gym is good as part of a healthy lifestyle but I don't see how doing so would correct my major problem areas.

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  5. Probably pretty crappy, but the chances are if they are saying something they would be willing to help you change that.

    Have a chat, get them to show you the ropes at whatever they do to stay in shape, or if you are both out of shape do something together.

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  6. I think, when you love someone, it doesn't matter what they look like. For instance, my partner doesn't look like Brad Pitt or Ryan Gosling, but he isn't unattractive either. But I still find him insanely sexy because of the emotional connection we share. And this attraction was strengthened as we dated - it wasn't there when we first met.

    So if my partner told me that he didn't find my body attractive, I would question where his head is at in the relationship. Because if you really love someone, the love will make them more attractive to you, and will also increase your concern for your partner's feelings to carefully word remarks about their body to avoid hurting them.

    Now...if I had gained significant weight or had other changes to my body that caused health concerns, I would hope he would say something but find a better way of phrasing it than "unattractive".

    I say all this because ultimately, we all age, and our bodies change. We won't have smokin' early 20's bodies forever and eventually the relationship needs to become more than just physical attraction if it is ever going to last.

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  7. you should feel fucking motivated for a lifestyle change, cry about it in the squat rack

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  8. I would start going to the gym and become the hottest ex they ever had.

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    1. Me too.

      I would break their heart and have no mercy

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  9. feel: bad
    do: have a conversation with the s/o

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  10. If we're strictly talking about the body and you are either: fat, or super skinny, then most people will not like your body unless it's a fetish of some sort. You can work on those things. Face though, nope, you should get out of there.

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  11. I'd just get a new boyfriend. I think I have a pretty nice body, and if he's thick enough to drop a sex drive killing bomb like that..well, good riddance.

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  12. So embarrassing that at a uni of genrrally intelligent people all everyone can think of is "if they dont like your body, you must be fat, go to the gym". Jesus. There are loads of reasons not to be attracted to someone and if your S.O. thinks your body doesnt meet some objective bullshit standard drop them. But if they personally find sth off about you, and you dont want to change it (ex. Keeping body hair, gaining tons of muscle (which personally id dislike)) then they can deal with it or you can break up. If you changed sth because you stopped caring as much, but did originally do sth, they have evry right to have preferences and its fair ether way to address it.

    Just depends where theyre comig from (ie. Youre fat, change vs. You used to shave your bits and now you dont, i miss that)

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  13. It all depends... is your bf or gf into animals? or not?

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