I would sleep with some of them, but I also appreciate them as friends. Usually there is a reason I don't make a move. 1) They have a boyfriend (who is more often than not already my friend) 2) They're too central to my friend group. If things go wrong it will make things awkward. 3) Not confident that they would reciprocate
Think about it? Yes, every single on at at least one point.
Actually want to pursue it? No, friends are friends and crossing that line is very often a bad decision.
There are situations where friends become more than friends, but I would bet it is far less common than friendships ending because one person let their infatuation take over.
No. This is a stupid sexist myth. Not all men are raging sex monsters that want to fuck everything (female, because anyone who's not a heterosexual doesn't fit into this dialogue).
First of all, everyone has a sex drive somewhere in the range of asexual to hypersexual. I've had friends all over the spectrum. Guarantee your asexual friends don't want to bone you. The hypersexual ones probably want to bone everyone and the people in the middle are a tossup.
I have plenty of friends I'm not attracted to. I have a few that I am attracted to. Given that we're friends, I see no point in making a move on them, because there are far more important things in life than sex.
Anyone touting the "all men want to fuck any woman they ever meet unless she's hideous" are full of it. This only serves to objectify women and give excuses for treating them as second class human beings ("would only pay attention to this female to get laid, can't possibly think of any other reason why"). This is wrong and it's dehumanizing, so can we just kill this idea right now?
Honestly, it's also dehumanizing men to a degree, depicting them as mindless animals that cannot ever be interested in a woman without having sexual thoughts about her. It makes people not view them as potential rape victims, for example.
To be fair, people are constantly being "dehumanized" in every way. But it's a strong word with a negative connotation so it gets people riled up anyway.
I'm only friends with a girl until we fuck or its clear we are never going to fuck, and any guy who says he does otherwise is either lying or too fucking beta to get out of the friendzone.
I'm a girl and I want to have sex with all of my *good looking* male friends. Don't think it's that much different for guys and girls in this particular situation- if you hang out with someone relatively often and you find them attractive, you're probably going to want to sleep with them unless your sex drive isn't very high (although you might decide not to pursue it for various reasons)
My theory is that people just think girls don't want sex as much because we're "pickier". By "pickier", I mean it's less often that a girl will find her male friend attractive (because guys aren't forced to care about their appearance as much), but when she does, I think she will want to sleep with him as much as a guy would want to sleep with an attractive female friend.
I've thought about it before. Most friends I wouldn't, because it would make things weird, especially if they were really central to the friend group. Others I've more just wanted to date, but for the same reason as before, I avoid it because of the chance that things wouldn't work out; I really do value the friendships I have over anything, so it's not worth the risk to me.
i'd love to fuck my female friends, or any hot female stranger for that matter
And thinking about sleeping with a family member is perfectly normal. Lots of guys have sexual fantasies about their sisters or their moms (if they have the MILF look)
meh
ReplyDeleteOnly the good looking ones
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DeleteI would sleep with some of them, but I also appreciate them as friends. Usually there is a reason I don't make a move.
ReplyDelete1) They have a boyfriend (who is more often than not already my friend)
2) They're too central to my friend group. If things go wrong it will make things awkward.
3) Not confident that they would reciprocate
All guys in the history of the universe of course.
ReplyDeleteThink about it? Yes, every single on at at least one point.
ReplyDeleteActually want to pursue it? No, friends are friends and crossing that line is very often a bad decision.
There are situations where friends become more than friends, but I would bet it is far less common than friendships ending because one person let their infatuation take over.
You are right, asexual and homosexual men do not exist.
DeleteNo. This is a stupid sexist myth. Not all men are raging sex monsters that want to fuck everything (female, because anyone who's not a heterosexual doesn't fit into this dialogue).
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, everyone has a sex drive somewhere in the range of asexual to hypersexual. I've had friends all over the spectrum. Guarantee your asexual friends don't want to bone you. The hypersexual ones probably want to bone everyone and the people in the middle are a tossup.
I have plenty of friends I'm not attracted to. I have a few that I am attracted to. Given that we're friends, I see no point in making a move on them, because there are far more important things in life than sex.
Anyone touting the "all men want to fuck any woman they ever meet unless she's hideous" are full of it. This only serves to objectify women and give excuses for treating them as second class human beings ("would only pay attention to this female to get laid, can't possibly think of any other reason why"). This is wrong and it's dehumanizing, so can we just kill this idea right now?
+1
DeleteSure it's dehumanizing, but if the shoe fits...
Delete6b: are you implying it's okay to treat people like they're not people because you're sexually attracted to them?
Delete6c: Sure, let's go with that.
DeleteHonestly, it's also dehumanizing men to a degree, depicting them as mindless animals that cannot ever be interested in a woman without having sexual thoughts about her. It makes people not view them as potential rape victims, for example.
DeleteTo be fair, people are constantly being "dehumanized" in every way. But it's a strong word with a negative connotation so it gets people riled up anyway.
DeleteSo many fucking pussies in this thread.
ReplyDeleteThe answer is, of course, YES.
I'm only friends with a girl until we fuck or its clear we are never going to fuck, and any guy who says he does otherwise is either lying or too fucking beta to get out of the friendzone.
LOL Not sure if you're serious
DeleteExactly.. hell i am even ok with being in the friend zone only if i know if i have given it a shot. otherwise its just pussy behaviour
Delete7 can't get laid unless he pays for it.
DeleteI'm a girl and I want to have sex with all of my *good looking* male friends. Don't think it's that much different for guys and girls in this particular situation- if you hang out with someone relatively often and you find them attractive, you're probably going to want to sleep with them unless your sex drive isn't very high (although you might decide not to pursue it for various reasons)
ReplyDeleteMy theory is that people just think girls don't want sex as much because we're "pickier". By "pickier", I mean it's less often that a girl will find her male friend attractive (because guys aren't forced to care about their appearance as much), but when she does, I think she will want to sleep with him as much as a guy would want to sleep with an attractive female friend.
yes
ReplyDeletefantasized? yes
ReplyDeletewould definitely act on it if given the chance? not so much
I've thought about it before. Most friends I wouldn't, because it would make things weird, especially if they were really central to the friend group. Others I've more just wanted to date, but for the same reason as before, I avoid it because of the chance that things wouldn't work out; I really do value the friendships I have over anything, so it's not worth the risk to me.
ReplyDeleteNot really, I am more than happy with my girlfriend, cuz she gives me whatever I want ;)
ReplyDeleteUnless of course there is potential for a threesome.
No, I don't think so. I have male friends that I grew up with and I'm pretty sure we find it equally gross at the thought of ever sleeping together
ReplyDeleteIts like thinking about sleeping with a family member
+1,
DeleteOffer to jack off one of your guy friends sometime. I think their answer might surprise you.
DeleteAgree with 13b. A girls' perspective is different from a dudes'.
Deletetheir answer would be "wtf. what drugs are you on"
Deleteand then proceed to slap me
I say this with 100% certainty
I would feel very awkward if a girl just asked me this out of nowhere.
Deletei'd love to fuck my female friends, or any hot female stranger for that matter
DeleteAnd thinking about sleeping with a family member is perfectly normal. Lots of guys have sexual fantasies about their sisters or their moms (if they have the MILF look)
13f...I'm sorry to break this to you but...no
DeleteNo.
ReplyDeleteseriously... I've said this before... but it all depends... if they are into animals.. or not?
ReplyDeleteas a F with guy friends, I find it disturbing to think that all they want to do is sleep with me.....
ReplyDeleteDon't flatter yourself. It's not ALL they want to do but they've probably considered it as a 'what if' scenario if you're attractive.
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