QUESTION: Is it normal to be a 23 year old virgin? I've been staying healthy and maintaining an active lifestyle. The only relationship I had never got serious so I'm still waiting for the right guy. But most girls have already had their first time by now, no?
Yes. You're not going to die because you're a virgin.
ReplyDeletemeh
ReplyDeleteanother 23 year old virgin checking in.
ReplyDeleteit's only abnormal if you make it abnormal.
It's perfectly normal, OP! I'm a guy, but I never lost my virginity until last year at 20. Just go at your pace and don't rush! Everything will fall into place!
ReplyDelete23 year old male virgin. I'm the "sex-after-marriage" type... so yeah. Waiting for the right girl to come along.
ReplyDeleteFemale virgin here. Turning 23 in a month. Don't pressure yourself to do anything you're not ready to do. Surround yourself with good, positive people too if it helps keep negative thoughts away
ReplyDeleteAnother 23 year old female virgin. I'm trying very hard to have sex without lowering my standards about who I have sex with. It's very frustrating for me, but I know it doesn't have to be if I choose to prioritize other things.
ReplyDeletethis is the problem, everybody wants to get with beautiful people and ignores the other 90% of the population. I'm sure you think you deserve a prince just like I do.
DeleteThis is grim.. price charming isn't real
DeleteYeah, Price Charming isn't real gurrrl.
DeleteCome on gurrrrrrrrrrrrrrrl
DeleteEveryone has their own pace.
ReplyDeleteThat being said it might be time to sit down and examine your past relationships / lack of relationships. This does not mean you did something wrong, it is just that you may have a need / issue that requires more attention than you are currently addressing to it.
Is it weird that I'm abstaining from sex only because I feel like I'm really ugly... ?
ReplyDelete50 year old virgin here
ReplyDeletei gained magic powers through abstinence
O.O Teach me your ways, oh mighty wizard.
DeleteYou're no fun and the men you want won't pursue you. You're going to settle for a loser, 20% of men are fucking 80% of women. If you aren't doing the chasing, enjoy the bottom of the barrel. Nobody enjoys a shitty lay, if you do somehow manage to land a decent guy - he's seen far better in bed and you'll probably fuck it up
ReplyDeleteclock's ticking women welcome to life
Fuck off. It is not the primary purpose of women in life to please men sexually.
Delete11... just fuck off please.....
DeleteNice, you sound like the type of who guy spends his 20s doing the bar scene, then when the 30s hit you find out some random chick is pregnant with your kid, and live the rest of your life wondering where you went wrong.
Delete11 here :). There's nothing wrong with going out you antisocial idiots, get your head out of CS for once. 11.C you're talking out of your ass, the 30's are better to us than our 20's. We age well, we're financially stable, climb the social ladder. Welcome to life. We get better and better while women have their looks fade and their pool of available INTERESTED men decreases year by year. Clock's ticking. Welcome to the 20%. Don't take my word for it, try going for a guy that's highly sought after and find out for yourself. The alternative is to settle for a beta
DeleteI'm just answering OP's question truthfully you delirious idiots. She's waiting for the right guy as a 23 year old virgin. Has no sex or relationship experience. That's literally no social, intimate or sexual value for the "right guy" which I'm assuming is well educated, attractive, compassionate, fit, rich. Pussy is easy to come by ladies, the right guy isnt coming to you while you sit on your ass getting uglier with each passing year
There are some guys who want a trophy but most guys who are secure about themselves only care about the girl being attractive beyond a certain threshold and the rest is about compatibility, convenience, personality etc. So girls, even if your looks fade in your 30s, most women in their 30s are still good looking enough for great guys to be interested in pursuing a relationship as long as she's fun, interesting or whatever. Of course, that's probably obvious to most of you but just posting this for the more insecure girls who took 11d too seriously.
DeleteDon't worry 11.
DeleteJust as we did, one day these guys will realize the truth of the current sexual environment. You know, as I do, they won't believe until they experience it themselves.
I only hope they unplug before its too late.
@11: op never said she was waiting for marriage or something, she said she just hasn't been in any serious relationships. Why don't you go on and drown in the privilege and entitlement that's apparently dripping from your pores.
Delete11 if you like sex and having fun so much maybe you should do a gangbang scene and post it on xvideos
Delete11 here, ^ I like to show the pictures off to new girls I'm seeing. It drives them nuts with jealousy haha. Snapchat makes it soo easy
DeleteStatistically, virgins live longer.
ReplyDeleteAlso you will be happier because you don't need to deal with unreasonable partners.
Thats because virgins don't get STDs, which if you're smart about sex, is completely irrelevant. Sex is actually very healthy. Its great exercise and really increases your mood.
DeleteDo people even have STDs that can't be treated these days?
Delete12b, you go to university here?
DeleteReally? I thought you only get stuff like herpes which isn't a big deal or other things that can be treated with some drugs but are not as common. Am I wrong? Like, it's very unlikely to get AIDs or something like that, right?
Delete@OP: I've had sex with either of my two long-term boyfriends, the first at the age of 18. I've always found it incredibly painful and unsatisfying (later being sexually assaulted along with the really lousy sexual experience I had didn't exactly help), so every time I sleep with a new guy I may as well be a virgin.
ReplyDeleteBut it's okay! The people that matter won't care. And I can please myself better than any guy can anyways, so why bother. Don't fret too much about it, things will work out eventually.
A moment of silence for someone who's never had good sex
Delete>And I can please myself better than any guy can anyways, so why bother.
DeleteI'm not sure if you should be entering relationships with that kind of mindset...
^ I don't need to be in a relationship is my point. If one happens and it's good, then great. Otherwise, who cares. I'm not actively looking.
Delete27 year old male virgin here. It's abnormal in the sense that it is not average, to be a virgin this old. But only in that sense.
ReplyDeleteDamn dude.. I hope you're waiting for marriage
DeleteI would stop focusing on whether or not anyone around you has had sex or not. You'll do it whenever it feels right, or never if that feels right. Don't let social pressures prevent you from doing your thang.
ReplyDeleteSame, but I'm not expecting a "prince" like someone above mentioned. Of course waiting for perfection is unrealistic but I want to be ready for the right person. As long as you're healthy and happy you shouldn't worry.
ReplyDeleteI'm 4 years older than you and still waiting too. Nothing to feel bad about.
ReplyDeleteI'm 4 years older than you and still waiting too. Nothing to feel bad about.
ReplyDeleteHiya OP
ReplyDeleteMale, 22, definite virgin. I do not think that it is abnormal, unless you are hanging out with the type of people like #11, then they may make you feel guilty for no real reason. The way I see it, things will fall into place.
If you are really worried about it, despite the encouragement and evidence you are not alone on this page, then go out and do what you enjoy! There are lots of great people, you just have to know where to find them!
See, its because you guys say thing like "things will fall into place", that pisses me off.
DeleteHow about you take control of your life instead of getting mad at people like 11?
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DeleteIt is, although, have you never even made out with a girl? That would be just a little sad
ReplyDeleteUmmm, why would she make out with a girl? It sounds like she's into dudes.
Delete^ Because all girls are bisexual. Hasn't porn taught you anything?
Delete"Hasn't porn taught you anything?"
DeleteAnon... /)_-
It's good that you're waiting for the right guy. I lost my virginity at 18 and I was no better for it. I mean, it was a big transition going from "sex is scary and super important" to "people have sex, I have sex and that's cool" and I'm glad that I have that mindset now. However, I wish that I had waited since I gave it up to the first guy that seemed to like me. At the time (and even after we parted ways) it didn't bother me but now that I'm with my current boyfriend of two years - whom I love so much and who is the real deal - I wish that I had lost it to him instead.
ReplyDeleteYou wouldn't have been the person you are to end up with your boyfriend in the first place. Seriously girls, what's stopping you insecure idiots from understanding that men are attracted to confident, sexy women. Not the timid virgins you once were
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