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Updated on Friday, July 18

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QUESTION: Anyone have experience making a relationship with a depressed boyfriend successful? We just recently started dating and I'm trying not to make it about me.

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  1. For me, it was the opposite. My first girlfriend was depressed and we had lived together while going to school. Two words: Never again.

    It takes a lot of will, strength and care to love someone with depression. Like anything in life, YMMV. If you can do it, I wish you the best of luck and happiness! It sure wasn't for me, but if you can do it, go ahead.

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  2. Definitely possible! My current bf has had issues with depression, and things were really difficult when we first started dating. Now we've been happily dating for many years and he's doing much, much better :)

    I know it's hard to not make it about yourself when I'm sure you're sacrificing a lot - I felt that way too at times. But I'm certain that your guy realizes everything that you do for him, even if it doesn't seem like it. Work with him to get the help he needs and push him if he needs it, just take it slow. I found that it if things were bothering me, it helped to make a mental note and bring it up later on when he was feeling better, so we could talk about it without making him feel worse.

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  3. We tried to make it work.... been together a really long time till I kicked his ass out after he decided he's way of dealing with depression was sleeping with other women. Note the plural.

    Having known other couples who were able to make it work, i recommend counselling for your guy. It's not fair to him or you if you are the therapist in the relationship.

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