OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Friday, June 20

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QUESTION: I met a guy a few months ago when we were working on a project together. I've asked him to hang out with me five or six times and he's always said yes. When we meet up we usually end up talking for hours. He seems to like spending time with me. Once or twice I've noticed him standing closer to me than a friend would and one day out of the blue he hugged me. Yet, he never asks me to hang out and he never texts me first. But, when I text him he usually texts back within a few minutes. He's somewhat reserved and sometimes a little shy, so I don't expect him to be too forward. He's also got a busy work schedule. I'm getting mixed signals though. When I'm with him I think it's only a matter of time before we move beyond friendship, but afterwards it becomes less a matter of when and more a matter of if. It seems to me that if he really does like me he would make an effort to text me or to ask me to hang out. Common sense tells me to walk away now, but I've made up my mind not to give up on him until the end of summer.To me, he's the kind of guy I've been looking for for years. Am I crazy? Should I just be walking away right now?

8 comments

  1. No, what do you gain by walking away? From your description, he seems like a fairly decent guy, albeit a bit unsure of how to express himself. And if he is reserved, then hugging you must have taken a lot of effort. I can say that from experience.

    Ask him if you want to go out. What's the worse that can happen? He'll say no, and you can finally know for sure before walking away, which you were going to do anyway. And if he says yes, well... :D

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  2. Make a move. It doesn't always have to be the guy. Break those social standards!

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  3. maybe he's shy? It's the 21st century girls can make the first move. Don't regret it when a girl who takes more initiative scoops him up.

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  4. FUCKING HAVE SEX WITH HIM ALREADY.

    You clearly want this to be something more, fucking do it. He has been waiting long enough, and he is getting impatient.

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  5. Yeah he has no idea how to make a move. Don't hold it against him. Maybe he doesn't want to offend you. Go for it and see what happens. Bet you'll be pleased. Let us know!

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  6. He likes you, but he doesn't know you're into him. Guys are dense. If he's giving you mixed signals, give him ... un-mixed signals, if you know what I mean.

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  7. If any shy people are reading these comments, don't take them as an endorsement of your (lack of) actions. We're encouraging this girl to act boldly and explicitly ask him out, because she posted an ASK. But shy people you too should try taking initiative. It can be frustrating to always make the first move, as I'm sure the OP can attest.

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  8. These comments are actually all spot on. Let us cherish this moment.

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