QUESTION: It seems like I have been single for so long that my friends are more interested in finding someone for me to date than I am. Ugh... Is it possible to become asexual out of sheer frustration in dating?
I don't think being frustrated with dating can change your sexuality, That's not really how it works. Can you elaborate on what you're frustrated about?
What's wrong with being single in your late teens/early twenties? You're not asexual.....you just don't want to date right now. Who the fucks wants to constantly date non-stop when they're in their early 20s? It's exhausting and totally unnecessary. Now's the time to focus on school, friends and your single, hot-blooded social life.
I can't tell you how much I love your reply! Everyone is so stressed out about dating that when they are finally dating, they miss not enjoying singlehood more.
There are enough things to stress about in university, dating shouldn't be one of them ... when it happens, it happens!
As someone from ASK #6685, (2 here!), I can't agree with this post enough! I don't even want to think about dating women right now. All I want to do now is focus on improving myself and being my own leader.
OP, there is nothing wrong w/ you. You aren't asexual, you just don't want to date and Christ, that is okay. In fact, I actually commend you for admitting that.
If it helps, I was actually hounded on by a friend of mine recently who wanted me to date a mutual friend of ours. There was just a couple of problems with that.
1. I just got out of a 1 year and 6 month relationship with a girl who had a few mental illnesses and a garbage truck full of baggage. Think I want to go back into the dating game after all of that? Yeah! Right!
2. I am not attractive to this friend in the slightest. For God's sake, the girl looks like she's in her late 20s/early 30s!
3. This friend of ours also has a few mental health issues, as well. I had already ridden that roller coaster with my ex for a year and 6 months and I don't need to go back on it, again!
Despite that, I have heard that this friend of mine has a big crush on me, and I've been trying my best to show that I am not in the least bit interested.
OP, you are fine. Just tell your friends to fuck off.
As someone who is asexual, I can say, no, you're probably not. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction or desire to have sex. By the sounds of it, this is something you still want, but it might just be difficult to get or not a priority at the moment. While sexuality can be fluid, I am inclined to say no on this one.
OP here. The thing is, my sex drive used to be really high. I think perhaps it's more about lacking an emotional connection with people I have tried to date and it has been frustrating because I don't even care to hook up for the sake of hooking up. It's not appealing to me at all anymore. I think I'm just frustrated because it has been such a long time since I have connected with someone on an emotional level that I'm starting to feel broken.
I don't think being frustrated with dating can change your sexuality, That's not really how it works. Can you elaborate on what you're frustrated about?
ReplyDeleteIf you're sexually frustrated and/or frustrated about dating you're not asexual.
ReplyDeletehad a similar problem a while ago
ReplyDeletei'm not asexual (in fact, i have a high sex drive), but i don't connect emotionally
that could be your problem too
What's wrong with being single in your late teens/early twenties? You're not asexual.....you just don't want to date right now. Who the fucks wants to constantly date non-stop when they're in their early 20s? It's exhausting and totally unnecessary. Now's the time to focus on school, friends and your single, hot-blooded social life.
ReplyDeleteI can't tell you how much I love your reply! Everyone is so stressed out about dating that when they are finally dating, they miss not enjoying singlehood more.
DeleteThere are enough things to stress about in university, dating shouldn't be one of them ... when it happens, it happens!
+2
DeleteAs someone from ASK #6685, (2 here!), I can't agree with this post enough! I don't even want to think about dating women right now. All I want to do now is focus on improving myself and being my own leader.
OP, there is nothing wrong w/ you. You aren't asexual, you just don't want to date and Christ, that is okay. In fact, I actually commend you for admitting that.
If it helps, I was actually hounded on by a friend of mine recently who wanted me to date a mutual friend of ours. There was just a couple of problems with that.
1. I just got out of a 1 year and 6 month relationship with a girl who had a few mental illnesses and a garbage truck full of baggage. Think I want to go back into the dating game after all of that? Yeah! Right!
2. I am not attractive to this friend in the slightest. For God's sake, the girl looks like she's in her late 20s/early 30s!
3. This friend of ours also has a few mental health issues, as well. I had already ridden that roller coaster with my ex for a year and 6 months and I don't need to go back on it, again!
Despite that, I have heard that this friend of mine has a big crush on me, and I've been trying my best to show that I am not in the least bit interested.
OP, you are fine. Just tell your friends to fuck off.
^ I would have gone with "airport full of baggage", but point taken.
DeleteOP Here. I'm actually 26.. soooo I've been through those fun single years.. I'm over it.
DeleteAs someone who is asexual, I can say, no, you're probably not. Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction or desire to have sex. By the sounds of it, this is something you still want, but it might just be difficult to get or not a priority at the moment. While sexuality can be fluid, I am inclined to say no on this one.
ReplyDeleteOP here. The thing is, my sex drive used to be really high. I think perhaps it's more about lacking an emotional connection with people I have tried to date and it has been frustrating because I don't even care to hook up for the sake of hooking up. It's not appealing to me at all anymore. I think I'm just frustrated because it has been such a long time since I have connected with someone on an emotional level that I'm starting to feel broken.
Deletewow OP you took the words right out of my mouth
Deletei'm also 26