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QUESTION: is it bad that my boyfriend didn't go to my convocation?

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  1. Well, did you want him to? If he knew it was important to you and didn't come, maybe that's not so nice. But in my case, I straight out told him not to come because it would have been really inconvenient. I didn't go to his either.

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  2. Are you kidding OP I'm not even going to my own fuck going to someone else's

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  3. Its not bad. But you should just be happy about your exp. from uni. I never went to my ex gfs prom, nor did she attend mine. It was a long distance relationship so we understood, well she kinda made a big deal out of it. I didnt have the liberty as she did. AS for grad convocation, my current gf finished undergrad exactly a year ago, and i couldn't attend, again due to long distance. I graduate next year.... and I don;t expect her to attend mine, because i know it would be costly, and tough to plan out. So.... dont be sad, just smile and go with whoeveer that comes.

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  4. he's cheating on you and doesn't love you, obviously

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  5. dump him then go have copious amounts of rebound sex at phil's. see you there :)

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  6. It really depends on the situation. Mine was in Los Angeles all week for E3 so there was no way that he could make it. It was a little sad but it`s something that he looks forward to every year and it`s not like the convocation ceremony is an equal trade in terms of excitement. Plus, he can always come to the convocation ceremony for my Masters next year. :)

    tldr; If he had a good reason (other important plans, school work, etc.), I think it`s cool. If he just didn`t go because he didn`t feel like it, that`s kind of selfish.

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    1. Oh man I had trouble reading your comment. No offense to you, my brain just isn't working. I was so confused about your convocation being in LA, and why you graduate every year (and why your bf would look forward to it).

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    2. @7a Acid's a crazy drug.

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  7. It depends on how you set expectations and how long you were dating. If you didn't make it clear you wanted him there he may not have thought it was important to you and you wanted to spend it with your family. If you kept asking him to go and he didn't then thats an issue but you would already know that.

    Just talk to him. You know. Communicate.... find out why he didn't go and decide for yourself if it was a good or bad reason. And make sure he knows in future if you do or don't want him at those events.

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  8. If it's bothering you it's bad.

    Mine didn't come to mine, but he came for pictures after. It was more of a our-parents-don't-know issue. I was sad he didn't get me flowers though, but he's poor so I'm being understanding.

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  9. If he spent the day getting high/drinking/sleeping, then maybe its time you are done. But if he lives further away, had to work, or any number of other excuses, then its ok. Convocation can be a huge deal for your parents too. He might have just wanted to let them be with you alone for the day.

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