QUESTION: Okay, ladies, once you've exchanged numbers with a guy, is there some sort of texting foreplay period that has to happen before you'll actually hang out? Or are you just down to hang out? I don't get it.
It somewhat depends on both how we exchanged numbers/how attracted I am to him. If I gave him my number without having much a conversation beforehand, then a bit of texting "foreplay" is probably best before suggesting a hang out. If my number was given in a "let's hang out sometime" sort of way then it's much more obvious.
Make plans to hang out before getting the number, makes things ez pz "Let's get coffee in a few days" "Sure ^_^" "Cool ill text you, what's your phone #?" Then you just text them to arrange the meet, too much texting will probably just fuck things up before hand
Sometimes I give the guy my number because he keeps asking and I'm bad at saying no, especially if we've talked a bit already. In those cases I'd probably never respond if he messages. Seriously how do you reject without seeming like a bitch?
I've used "Sorry, but I usually don't like to give out my number". Thought it was stupid but it works- either they say " okay, that's fine" or "come on, I won't bother you" to which I respond "Sorry, I can't". I used to hate when guys I wasn't attracted to approached me but now that I have a way of saying no without making it too awkward, it's not so bad.
It somewhat depends on both how we exchanged numbers/how attracted I am to him. If I gave him my number without having much a conversation beforehand, then a bit of texting "foreplay" is probably best before suggesting a hang out.
ReplyDeleteIf my number was given in a "let's hang out sometime" sort of way then it's much more obvious.
step 1: make plans
ReplyDeletestep 2: if they decline, move on - if not, make follow-up plans after event occurs
Lol, 'texting foreplay' made my day
ReplyDeleteMake plans to hang out before getting the number, makes things ez pz
ReplyDelete"Let's get coffee in a few days"
"Sure ^_^"
"Cool ill text you, what's your phone #?"
Then you just text them to arrange the meet, too much texting will probably just fuck things up before hand
Sometimes I give the guy my number because he keeps asking and I'm bad at saying no, especially if we've talked a bit already. In those cases I'd probably never respond if he messages. Seriously how do you reject without seeming like a bitch?
ReplyDeleteI've used "Sorry, but I usually don't like to give out my number". Thought it was stupid but it works- either they say " okay, that's fine" or "come on, I won't bother you" to which I respond "Sorry, I can't". I used to hate when guys I wasn't attracted to approached me but now that I have a way of saying no without making it too awkward, it's not so bad.
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