Could you move past
it if a significant other cheated on you? I think I'd be fine with it
as long as the other person was nothing more to them than a sex toy that
happened to have a pulse
No, because people cheat for a reason. Perfectly happy couples where everyone's emotional/physical needs are met have no incentive to go outside the relation. Why risk something so good?
Despite the popular belief that some girls are sluts or some guys are dickheads, people don't tend to make it their life's mission to hurt someone else for no reason. If it's gotten to the point where someone has the incentive to cheat, then there are much more deep rooted issues. So at that point it's likely not salvageable.
It's human nature to fear breaking up, and breaking up for no apparent reason. It's too sudden of a change, and people usually let unhappiness build up.
Either things change, or....
It's easier to gradually shift your focus to someone else, and break-up only when they "cheat" or has someone else lined up as a sure thing
^ I don't think you understand my post, or you're just not too bright. My gf cheated on me so now she's just side meat. I really don't understand how I'm not getting any? It's actually plentiful if anything.
I agree with 1, to a point. Cheating does usually mean theres a deeper problem. however, i do think that with proper communication that can be worked through. it would be really hard to gain back that trust, but not impossible.
Only the weak take back a cheater. You really that worried that you'll never get laid again that you'll let your SO fuck around just so you can get some? What the fuck?
My dad had a kid by another woman when I was a baby (me and my mother were living in a different country at the time). They apparently worked it out since they've been together with no other problems (to my knowledge) for the following 18 years.
From that I would take that it is ~possible~ for it to work out. I don't know if I would personally make the same choice my mom did though. And I'll admit that they probably stayed together at least partly for the sake of the kids and because they come from a traditional background where divorce is really rare.
No, because people cheat for a reason. Perfectly happy couples where everyone's emotional/physical needs are met have no incentive to go outside the relation. Why risk something so good?
ReplyDeleteDespite the popular belief that some girls are sluts or some guys are dickheads, people don't tend to make it their life's mission to hurt someone else for no reason. If it's gotten to the point where someone has the incentive to cheat, then there are much more deep rooted issues. So at that point it's likely not salvageable.
It's human nature to fear breaking up, and breaking up for no apparent reason. It's too sudden of a change, and people usually let unhappiness build up.
DeleteEither things change, or....
It's easier to gradually shift your focus to someone else, and break-up only when they "cheat" or has someone else lined up as a sure thing
Nope. Tried it twice. Just using my current gf as a fuck toy till someone better comes alongs. Sluts will be sluts so just treat em like they are.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are sterile
DeleteOnly dickheads who can't get any talk like that
Delete^ I don't think you understand my post, or you're just not too bright. My gf cheated on me so now she's just side meat. I really don't understand how I'm not getting any? It's actually plentiful if anything.
DeleteI agree with 1, to a point. Cheating does usually mean theres a deeper problem. however, i do think that with proper communication that can be worked through. it would be really hard to gain back that trust, but not impossible.
ReplyDeleteOnly the weak take back a cheater. You really that worried that you'll never get laid again that you'll let your SO fuck around just so you can get some? What the fuck?
ReplyDeleteNope.
ReplyDeleteI tried once, it was a mistake. I should have left her right then.
ReplyDeletedepends on what your idea of sex is
ReplyDeleteas in, if you really think committing to one person and only one person sexually is a tenet of commitment to a relationship
Until you've discussed it with your partner, it's probably safest to behave as if they don't want you having sex with other people.
DeleteIf you have discussed it and it turns out everybody is okay with it _nobody is cheating, and that isn't the point of this thread_.
No.
ReplyDeleteNo, once a cheater always a cheater.
ReplyDeleteMy dad had a kid by another woman when I was a baby (me and my mother were living in a different country at the time). They apparently worked it out since they've been together with no other problems (to my knowledge) for the following 18 years.
ReplyDeleteFrom that I would take that it is ~possible~ for it to work out. I don't know if I would personally make the same choice my mom did though. And I'll admit that they probably stayed together at least partly for the sake of the kids and because they come from a traditional background where divorce is really rare.