Am incorrect in
saying that it seems guys are much more open to the idea of dating a
girl who is bisexual than girls being open to the idea of dating a guy
who is bisexual? In general there seems to be some serious double
standard on the issue. Any thoughts? State gender. (I'm male and
bisexual)
I would love it if my boy was bisexual. I am bi (female) and we check out girls together all the time. But we can't check out boys together.
ReplyDeleteIt's because society in general is way more accepting of female homosexuality and affection than male homosexuality and affection. Lesbians = hot, Gay men = gross. (Not my opinion, but its how many see it.)
ReplyDeleteSee that's sad! I have the same problem (and I think there are many guys out there with some level of curiosity, since sexuality (i believe) is a spectrum)... Im also a male who is bisexual, but nobody knows because I feel like it would close a lot of doors on future girls I meet and im interested in.
DeleteReally? I've never encountered any obstacles. What exactly do you hear them say or see them do that shows they aren't open to it?
ReplyDeleteI cant speak for person who originally posted the question, but when I approach girls that im attracted to, we hit it off, and when I tell them I'm bisexual they dont want anything to do with me anymore. (male and in the same situation)
Delete3 here. That is so strange. I never had that problem. At least, not that I noticed. Maybe I am not being perceptive enough, but as far as I could tell, I've still repeatedly hooked up with a girl after she was fully aware of my orientation.
DeleteI can see it from the health standpoint. I.E. Recreational sex in the male homosexual community opens you up more to the chances of contracting HIV/AIDS than in the heterosexual community. With that, a woman might shy away due to the chance of the guy possibly having HIV (and not knowing it).
ReplyDeleteOn another tangent, I can see some shying away because they think you're a bottom (which society seems to generally view as gross) with the thinking that you might not enjoy sex as much as them / would leave for a male top.
It's bad on both sides, as I see it. Bisexual women aren't taken as seriously because they are seen as being in a "young girl experimenting phase" and will revert to being straight after, and is generally hot to straight guys and want to use this to their advantage in some gross way. Bisexual men aren't taken seriously because they are seen as being in a "transitionary stage to later announcing being gay", and that intimidates straight girls into not wanting to date them.
ReplyDelete2 here, you hit the nail on the head.
DeleteThat's what I think too. I feel like it's a safe haven for people who haven't fully committed / are not sure about their sexual orientation phase.
DeleteSeriously 5b? You think they just do that out of confusion? Reread what 5 said and you'll see he/she is actually saying bisexual people are PERCEIVED that way.
Delete5 here, what it boils down to is that the general public that is attracted exclusively to one gender has a lacking understanding of how it would feel to be attracted to multiple, and try to label it in a way that they can understand. Which results in putting bisexual people into boxes of heterosexual or homosexual, based on what they think is a good enough reason to label them as such, It just so happens that females have a hard time proving that they're "gay enough" to be legitimately interested in other females, whereas males have a hard time proving they are "straight enough" (this problem happens just as much in the LGBTQ community as it does elsewhere, and is known as bi-erasure)
DeleteCan I just say, 5.b, your way of thinking can be quite disrespectful to some. Some people ARE bisexual, not as a phase, but they just are. It's not nice to trivialize their sexual orientation.
ReplyDeleteSome people don't believe in such distinctions. Their way of thinking should be respected too.
DeleteOkay 6.a. but with all due respect, they are wrong. The truth is the truth, regardless of what you believe in.
DeleteNope, 6a, it should not. Their RIGHT to think that way should be respected. The actual thinking can be derided to hell and back (as it should be).
DeleteAIDS
ReplyDeleteI'm a bisexual male and I can assure you I can and do quite well with women. It has never been a problem.
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