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Updated on Tuesday, April 22

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QUESTION:
Is it a good idea to get back together with an ex ..who wants to break up with their current girlfriend to come back to you? I was the one who broke up with him and he did want us to get back together. I did too, but I was being stubborn then. He got into another relationhip about 2 months later. He said they had been friends while we were together. I asked him if he loves her and he said he does, but he's not "in love" with her. But he said he'll need time to break up with her, that it wouldn't happen the next day or anything like that. He wants us to meet in two weeks to talk about getting back together. I still love him but would I be making a mistake by getting back together with him?

14 comments

  1. It seems like you already know the answer to your question. There's a reason why it didn't work out for you guys in the first place. If you think that problem (the reason why you guys broke up) will pop up again in the future, then I advise you not to get back together. If both of you solved the problem, then perhaps it's more okay... but even then are you guys getting back together because you're lonely? or because you both actually love each other, and see each other in the long term? Truthfully, it doesn't matter what advice anyone gives you, because you will probably be stubborn and be persistent with your feelings anyway :P Just remember that there's plenty of fish in the sea!

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    1. +1
      also, an ex is an ex for a reason.

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    2. +1 best advise yet. I could use it too. Thanks 1

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    3. 1 here. Thanks for finding my advice useful! Good luck :)

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  2. This is a phenomenal idea. You will definitely not regret this in the future. It is also a good idea to yell the N-bomb in downtown Detroit.

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    1. I like how you don't use the actual word even though you're anonymous on the internet. +1 for being a good person.

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    2. Writing "N-bomb" instead of "nigger" makes someone a good person?? They mean the same thing!!

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    3. Shut up 2b you're a nigger.

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  3. If you're in a dead end relationship, recognize it, move on and never look back. ): It takes time to get over someone that was so close to you, and it's so easy to want to go back to the comfort and familiarity. The best thing you can do is to stay away from seeing or speaking to the person so much. Yeah, you may not feel happy and it'll feel quite lonely for a while, but you'll learn to be happy alone again. Ultimately, it's your choice. Surely you're remembering all the good things that happened in the relationship, but remember the bad too, they're the reason why your relationship fell apart the first time.

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  4. NOPE. Don't do it. You'll think you want to get back together, but I can promise you it's not a good idea. Cut all ties and move on, no matter how hard.

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  5. At this point take it slooooooow. It sounds like it's been a while since you guys broke up, so as long as you've given yourself a chance to get over him, then go for it! Just make sure you want him back for the right reasons, and not because you're feeling lonely or nostalgic. Whatever caused your relationship to fall apart in the first place should be dealt with. If he's willing to break up with his current girlfriend for you that says a lot about THAT relationship and he's probably doing her a favour as well. But don't get back together right away. Meet up, talk about it, and spend at least a few weeks just hanging out with each other before you commit to a romantic relationship, just in case old issues re-surface. Good luck!

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  6. I've done it, and it was a bad idea. Nothing changed. Sex was great for a few weeks then everything was back to as before

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