OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Friday, April 18

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QUESTION: What's your opinion on dating sites or apps? (ie Tinder and OKcupid)

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  1. I use tinder regularly but not for dating. I dont think I would use tinder if I was looking for something serious. I'm female if it matters.

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    1. Lol Tinder is a game, I don't take it seriously, but some girls lead others on....male

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    2. 1 here- I agree, tinder is a game. Which is why it shouldn't be taken seriously. I'm all about just having fun.

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  2. I'm a guy

    Have been on tinder ~ 4 weeks and I've hooked up/ met with a bunch from it. No matter what they say, anywhere, they will always want something more. Even if it's "just for fun", "just a game", "looking for a hookup". Once you break that barrier and get to know the girl.. you're bound to get the talk eventually

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  3. Tinder and other dating apps are everything that is wrong with today's society. If you can't find a partner on your own then you probably shouldn't have anyone in your life in the first place.

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    1. lolwut... sorry for increasing my options in hopes of finding a suitable partner for myself not available in my immediate environment. Life of an attractive engineer & mathie

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    2. Actually, narrow-minded people like you are what's wrong with today's society.

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    3. sounds like you're butthurt as hell dude.

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    4. EXACTLY. There is no passion in finding a girl online. Maybe for hookups its okay. But for the love of my life, I want to meet her naturally and keep it special

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    5. bls, show us the true path to enlightenment

      HUAHUAHUAHUA

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  4. I've been on tinder since I ended my 4 year relationship just over a month ago and I've had nothing but bad experiences... Yes the guys can be cute, but most of them will literally message me just asking what I want or if I want to hook up.... Really? :S I know I've been locked down for 4 years but is this really what guys are like now?
    Lol I even tried hanging out with a couple of the nicer ones after some longer conversations through text and they turned out to be complete douchebags and the moment I got there I could tell all they wanted was to hook up... When I obviously didn't... Then one of them even called me awkward.
    After a 4 year emotionally abusive relationship I decided tinder is not for me lol.
    It's for sluts and assholes who would like to consensually hookup with someone they don't know.

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    1. Tinder is the hookup app. If you're looking for a more positive experience try okCupid

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    2. Lol ^okCupid is garbage. PoF is way better.

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    3. that's what most people use tinder for, if you aren't looking for that don't go on tinder, it's common sense wtf

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    4. Don't act all offended if people on a hook-up app want to hook up. People aren't sluts/assholes just because they want to hook up. Also, what's wrong with sluts?

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    5. whats wrong with asking what you want?? they're just literally trying to know what you are looking for so that nobody is wasting time on people who want different things (eg hookup vs relationship vs FWB). tinder is for hooking up btw don't bother if you aren't into that.

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  5. If you're trying to date tinder boys you're gonna have a bad tome. But I resent you saying its for sluts. I definitely don't consider myself a slut cause I want someone to keep me company at night.

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    1. you're a slut

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    2. 6 you're the definition of a slut. Good luck finding a future husband who want's a slut.

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    3. Wow easy there 6a and 6b, how does that make her a slut?

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    4. ^ If she can't be happy single she isn't material for marriage that's for sure.

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    5. who cares, it's the 21st century people can be whatever they want, what is so bad about 'slut' really?

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    6. +1, 6e. I don't see whats wrong with what 6 said.

      If I (a guy) said the same thing nobody would batt an eye.

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    7. 6f: Typically that's called man-whore. And I see it the same both ways.

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    8. Hellooooo STI galore.

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  6. Not trying to date anyone at all, just got out of a long relationship so wanted to see what some of my friends were doing and like I said it's not my thing so I stopped.
    And yes but sorry that's kind of what I consider to be slutty... I also know men who are like this. I had one guy 'friend' from school say to me "well if you don't want to come over to hang out I guess it's time for me to find a booty call" and he said he was also just out of a relationship and didn't want a hookup just company.. Are people that pathetic that they'll give up your bodies for some company? (Or he's a liar I don't trust men) Whatever not my problem haha :) I'll wait it out for someone genuine to come around. I'm no prude but I'm not just having sex with any guy I find on an app, in my opinion it's slutty...

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    1. lol look at you, all self righteous. You didn't know sex was a regular part of growing up? While you wasted your time in a hopeless relationship, the rest of us grew up and become comfortable with our sexuality. I would never be seriously interested in a girl without a sexual connection. Waiting for sex is pointless and boring. It kills the passion, creates expectations, and completely postpones discovering your partner intimately. Your relationship sucked because you suck. Enjoy your shitty relationships hahaha grow up babygirl you aren't anything we haven't seen before

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    2. "Are people that pathetic that they'll give up your bodies for some company?"

      Ummm... I think you're misunderstanding. They *want* to give up their bodies- "company" is just a euphemism.

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  7. @7a I'm not trying to be self righteous just stating my opinion. Again, like always with this site, people feel the need to throw out personal attacks.
    I am comfortable with my sexuality and didn't need to have casual sex (the definition of a slut) do to so. Saying my relationship sucked because I suck is nothing more than ridiculous and heartless and I won't have someone put me down like that anymore. You have the right to your opinion & I have the right to mine. Take care :)

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    1. I don't understand why you're slut shaming though? Who are you to define what a slut is? goodness. Some women just enjoy sex. Period. Do we have to literally demean anybody who does enjoy sex?
      Should I demean you and call you a prude?
      tinder may be a ridiculous app, but you have no right to throw words that is meant to belittle those who don't adhere to YOUR social construct and morals.
      You're one of the reasons why girls grow up unable to accept and experience new things. Reason why women are unable to be as sexually active as men. Why women feel like they are less than man.
      Fuck.
      If YOU don't like it, don't do it, don't force your opinions and demolish everything that women have been trying to build (equality) because yo ass can't keep her mouth shut about opinions that don't matter.

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    2. +1 8a!

      'I'm not trying to be self righteous'

      *judges others highly for something she disagrees with

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    3. @8a I'm going to have to agree with 8, you ARE a slut.
      I just wouldn't attach negative connotation to it. If you're comfortable with it then all the power to you! Nothing wrong with being slutty, but please do call it what it is.

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    4. Oh 8a, you're the reason the world hates feminists. You take what "women have been trying to build" twist it in your own benefit to justify fucking 100 guys and then you chirp about it being alright because guys do it too.
      What women have been "working for" (equality as you've stated) has little to do with being able to have sex as often as men and more to do with much grander things

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    5. Fuck you 8d. I'm not 8a but you are a hypocritical bitch.

      She's not going out and fucking 100 guys. But if she wanted to, who gives a fuck?

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    6. Lol 8a it's called freedom of speech. And feminism is not about fucking around as many guys as you want. Don't belittle feminism into something trivial like that.

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    7. 8f: 8a didn't say anything about feminism, learn how to read

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    8. 8.g Clearly 8a was implying feminism.

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    1. Can people please reply to what they're referring to. Are you +1'ing 8d? I assume this is the girl who is calling people slutty since you've done this 3 times already.

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    2. ^ You're retarded. 9 was posted at an earlier time than 8d. I'm guessing it refers to 8a and that the poster meant to hit reply but fucked up. Strong logic fail.

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    3. That was surprisingly aggressive... That's exactly why I asked her to reply under the correct comment- because I wasn't sure which one was being referred to.

      A logical fail is when you draw an incorrect conclusion by making a mistake in piecing information together, not when you draw an incorrect conclusion (or, in this case, ask a question) by missing an important piece of information (which is what happened here with the time). I think you're confused about what logic means.

      It's also not a strong fail because most people don't look at the time.

      Still wanna know what's being +1ed.

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  9. I can define a slut.

    Based on how butthurt you are, it's you.

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    1. Shit you probably look like Smeagol. You custy ass bitch

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    2. @10 Butthurt in more ways than one, nomsayin?

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  10. Ive dated my tinder boy for a year now!

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  11. 5 here again, glad some people agreed with me. I wasn't slut shaming her just stating my opinion. I actually didn't even direct the comments at that person. & I wasn't trying to define a slut I actually looked it up and the definition is "a girl who has casual sex with many men" .... Isn't that tinder?
    All the power to you for being slutty but you ARE a slut!! Haha it's the girls who claim they ARENT that bother me... 8c and 8d have it perfectly right! Men or women doing this to eachother isn't right in my opinion. The point I was trying to make is; where did the men go that actually take women on dates and get to know them maybe even DATE them before they have sex with them? ... (Answer: in the past) at least it seems lol.

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    1. I'm the slut that has been the brunt of a lot of the comments in this thread and I feel it necessary to clear up a few things. First of all, I don't sleep with the guys who just open with lines like "let's hook up". I do get to know them first before anything happens. Second, you're assuming that every time I want someone to keep me company its a different guy. This isn't true. Many times I have hooked up with the same guy multiple times over the span of a month or more.

      I'm perfectly comfortable with the way I choose to operate my sexual life. Not all of my hookups come from tinder. Do we have issue with people that hookup after meeting at a bar? It's no different in my opinion.

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    2. k but where can I find you 12.a ?

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    3. You can find me on Tinder if you would be so lucky.

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    4. @12 Some people can have sex without taking it as seriously as you. Some people get too emotionally involved. Not sure why you think it's necessarily a bad thing to enjoy casual sex. It's just a compatibility thing.

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    5. "Are people that pathetic that they'll give up your bodies for some company? (Or he's a liar I don't trust men) Whatever not my problem haha :)" ..... "I'm no prude but I'm not just having sex with any guy I find on an app, in my opinion it's slutty... "

      Are you fucking retarded? How the hell is that not slut-shaming?

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  12. sloots gonna sloot

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  13. Why are people so needy for sex and relationships? Are you that desperate for attention? I think we all need to focus on school and if relationships happen, whether they be one night stands or something long-term, then it's a natural occurrence, instead of being forced.

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    1. You need to remember that some people are less attractive, while others don't know how to interact with the opposite gender without it being a pick-up (mostly guys for the second one)

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    2. You're also forgetting that sex is awesome.

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    3. As for relationships: You're not as young as you think. You probably want to be with the person you marry a couple years before you tie the knot. University is the perfect time to get looking

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  14. In a perfect world everyone would have exactly as much or as little sex as they wanted and be completely ignorant of how much others are having.

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    1. perfect world online, da best

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  15. Why so much hate on this thread?!

    I say do what you wanna do! Not my scene, personally, but I have friends who use them. I certainly wouldn't call them sluts, just people looking for love. There are lots of great people out there, we shouldn't try to lump everyone into the same category.

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  16. The only people who are slut shaming and spewing hate are prudes, and those who can't get any and won't ever get any. If you can't get your dick wet you shoudn't judge others for being able to

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    1. By calling other people names and assuming things about them (i.e that they can't get laid...lol) you are essentially perpetuating the same problem that causes slut shaming. Try a different approach.

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  17. Wow, people. Who honestly gives a flying fuck over who's sleeping around and who's a slut or not. Whatever happened to just living the life you want to live w/o any judgments?

    As long as you wrap it up, (STDs are NOT like Pokemon. Don't catch 'em all!), and take as many precautions as you can over birth control, just go and have fun! I have nothing against you.

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    1. ^ Because no one wants to date the town bicycle?

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  18. Male here. I'm going to speak in general here (I know there are exceptions), so don't get upset with what I'm about to say. The problem with online dating sites is the ridiculously lopsided male-female ratio, and the subsequent bombardment of messages women receive from guys looking for an easy lay. The resulting flattery raises a woman's perceived value (a 5/10 immediately becomes an 8/10 in her mind) and drives her expectations through the roof. All of the sudden a potential mate has to look like Brad Pitt, command a room like George Clooney, and make $10k a month.

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    1. ^ This guy has it right. I find way too many girls on there that won't give me the time of day, but I find lots of girls in person who are hotter and easier. The problem is you have to go through a lot of girls in person to find someone with similar interests.

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    2. I'm a girl & I disagree. Sure a lot of boys message me, but it doesn't warp my self esteem in any way. I know all they want is a hookup, & it doesn't raise my standards in any way.

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    3. So 20b, you're saying if you received 20 messages, you wouldn't go for the best looking one?

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    4. 20b: "I know all they want is a hookup," and "it doesn't raise my standards in any way." Case closed, my point is proven.

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    5. 20.d here, I meant for the second quote to be "it doesn't warp my self-esteem in any way."

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  19. Female here.

    Online dating sites and apps will always have a variety of people looking for different things (ie. a hook up, casual dating, a long term relationship, etc.)...but aside from that, it's a great way to meet new people who you may not regularly bump into. This is especially a common way for people to meet if you start working or if you hang around the same people. It also gives people who are too busy to go out to find someone a chance to do it on their own schedule.

    Anyways, I met my current bf on an online dating site. I actually signed up for one due to my curiosity. It is true that there are way more males than females on those sites. I got messaged daily. On the other hand, my bf said he was on it for a year where he messaged hundreds of girls before he met me. And out of those hundreds of messages he sent, only a small percentage of girls replied back.

    In my opinion, it's a great way to meet new people but sometimes it takes more time to find someone (depending on what you're looking for/if you're picky and have high expectations).

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    1. Messaged "hundreds?" Strong high standards lol

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  20. I'm a girl here. I don't use Tinder or any other social dating sites.

    I don't have anything against people who want to have casual sex or hookups.
    But I do have a problem with these websites. They strip down the whole process to 'how hot are you?' & 'do you want a one night stand?' Plus it's usually for people who are socially awkward.

    I would rather be seduced the old fashioned way.

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    1. Hey gurl, you got a purty mouth. You wanna come get drunk by the lake?

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    2. (You're welcome)

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    3. Yees I love women like you ;)

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  21. Tinder takes the fun out of the chase.

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    1. Ah, but that's only if you can catch and keep so easily.

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  22. I would just say its another way to meet people. It just depends on your intentions and how you would approach the app. If you're looking for a hook-up with no strings attached, then this is probably anyone's best bet.

    For those trying to find meaningful and long-term relationships, you're better off joining clubs or engaging in some sort of social activities where there are no expectations. Just people with the same interests as you. That being said, there are usually anomalies in every situation.

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  23. no surprise here SLOOTS GON' SLOOT

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  24. I met my current partner on Okcupid. I actually kind of like the online dating thing because it sort of enforces messaging people and getting to know them a bit before going on a date (I don't think this really applies to Tinder, but I've never used it). If there aren't that many folks that interest you in your extended friend group, then I think online dating can be a good option. I did ignore a lot of people on the dating site and in turn got ignored a fair bit when I messaged people, so you have to not invest too much in the process.

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  25. I wonder how many of y'all girls would be proud enough to admit to your sleeping around and defensive behaviour if this site wasn't anonymous.

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    1. Girl or guy, sleeping around a lot puts you into a lot of risk of transmitting STIs. So it's not something to be proud of either way.

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  26. Male.
    I use Tinder, I don't expect every girl to want to hook up, start dating, or even respond. I don't care what I get, new friend, casual sex, or girlfriend. Its just a fun game with the possibility of meeting some awesome people.

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