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Updated on Friday, April 18

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QUESTION: I need new friends but I don't drink.
I feel so alone because everyone just goes out drinking to socialize.
Any ideas?

19 comments

  1. start drinking.

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  2. Me too! If you're super lonely, I can just post a one time use email id here and we can be friends :)

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  3. I also don't drink and yes it sucks for social reasons

    Lots of people are into board games nowadays though. Try to find those social groups.

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  4. There's nothing stopping you from going out with them but not drinking. What I don't understand is why more people don't do this.. I have a large group of friends that comes to the bar but won't order alcohol, and no one minds. If you're worried about taking a seat without getting anything, get food.

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    1. Hanging out at bars with drunk people while you are sober is boring as shit.

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    2. Its like going to a football game and not watching football for the sole reason of socializing with others.

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    3. How is it boring as shit? I always do that and it's fun. (I guess maybe my friends don't get really drunk, just a few drinks?)

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    4. Agree with 4a, I don't drink and when I do go out with my friends who do I end up annoyed and wish I hadn't gone.
      It gets uncomfortable and occasionally lame. What drunk people find amusing a sober person usually won't, and when people are drunk their red lines blur and it just ends up being a mess.

      That's been my experience anyway. Not a great time.

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    5. There's also the situation that when people know you don't drink, they don't invite you out. I mean, "why would he want to go out when he doesn't drink?"..

      It's sad how alcohol controls our society as it does..

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    6. I think it depends on the type of situation. If you're going out to a bar and just casually drinking, it's fun for people who don't drink because they don't have to sit there while you're getting shit-faced. If the entire purpose is to go out and get shit-faced, then people who don't drink might not have a great time. Also I get the opinion that some people who don't drink assume people who do drink will 'pressure' them once in the situation. Which sometimes does happen, although very rarely in my experience. (I'm more of a causal drinker and will go through periods where I don't drink because it just makes me sleepy and sad).

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    7. 4 here: all these responses assume that the group of people was going to the bar to get piss drunk. I guess that's pretty common in university, but there are plenty of groups of people that don't have such goals. I go out to drink and socialize. If I'm falling out of my chair drunk, I can't hold a conversation, I won't enjoy what I'm drinking, and I'll kill my liver.

      My point is, I go out drinking 2-3 nights a week minimum usually, but will drink 1-2 drinks each night. I get drunk maybe once a month. So the situations in which I go drinking, it's perfectly fine for people who don't drink to tag along. I appreciate it's a bit awkward to go to a bar when you don't drink by yourself, but this is why my group of people varies our venues...

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    8. ^Its because they don't drink.

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  5. I need new friends TO drink with

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  6. Join clubs at school, volunteer, etc. If you can't drink for religious/medical reasons, don't feel forced to fit into the North American "let's get piss drunk" peer-pressure complex (yes, I have coined a term). If you're simply scared to try.....don't be, alcohol in moderation is one of life's best gifts (and when in excess, a treat when you're feeling down LOL). Don't start with scotch or vodka....try a Heineken or some lager on tap. Who knows, you might like it ;)

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