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Updated on Friday, April 18

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QUESTION: Would you stay with your significant other if you two could not have sex?

30 comments

  1. Personally, I would only stay if he's willing to wait for marriage.

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  2. Could not why?

    If it's because he wants to wait until marriage, then no. I'm a strong believer that sex is important for a relationship and chemistry. And I like sex. Also, if he's not able to for some physical reason, it would probably put too much stress on our relationship for it to work out.

    With that being said, if I was in a long term relationship and then something traumatic happened (paralysis or something) that wouldn't make me break up with them. I guess it depends.

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  3. Only if we were waiting til marriage. But there are lots of things you can do that aren't strictly "sex" but basically just as good.

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  4. Sadly, hell to the no. Unless it was something traumatic like 3 explained, I would not do it.

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  5. Is he gay? I mean, apparently gay guys dating women is a thing. I get that it can be hard coming to terms with things, but dear jebus.

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  6. YES. I was dating this beautiful girl in first year and we never engaged in sex because she was devout in terms of religion.

    We broke up because of other reasons, and let me tell you I never loved anyone as much as I loved her

    Male

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    1. you didn't even fuck her, but you loved her? jesus christ

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    2. Is sex=love fore you? If so that is sad. We used to make out and stuff, and we were really passionate about each other.

      Was it the ideal situation for ME? No because I loved the idea of having sex with her, but our breakup had nothing to do with it.

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  7. Not a chance. I love sex too much.
    Female

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  8. As an asexual person, I can answer this in the affirmative. That would be great.

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    1. Tell me more about being asexual. I'm actually really curious.

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    2. 9 here- I'm glad you asked.

      Basically, as a hetero-romantic asexual, I am a female, romantically, but not sexually attracted to men. I have a boyfriend and I enjoy our emotional connection, as well as making out, cuddling, etc. (every asexual person has a different boundary).

      I could not care less about having sex; I just have no desire. It would kind of be like if you loved chocolate ice cream, and I didn't like chocolate, so I wouldn't eat it. It can be hard for people to wrap their heads around.

      In a way though, sometimes I feel like I'm seeing black and white in a color world. I don't understand the appeal of sex and don't see it the way the majority of the world does. Meh. C'est la vie!

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    3. Its not asexual if you like making out with him. Its sexual, just that you are not comfortable with penetration

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    4. 9 here again. I should clarify that I enjoy it because I know that it makes my partner happy. However, as I mentioned, all asexual people have their own boundaries. I would suggest this website, which is really great at explaining asexual perspectives. http://www.asexuality.org/en/

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    5. Another asexual person! Yay!

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  9. Male here, definitely yes. Sex is just not a priority for me. I'd much rather have an amazing emotional connection with my SO and leave out the sex if needed.

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  10. Yes, of course! There's more to a relationship than sex.

    Female.

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  11. If it meant I would never have sex again, no. If it meant I'd have to wait to have sex later, for my current SO, yes.

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  12. Everyone who says yes is lying or had never had good sex

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  13. I been in a relationship for 31/2 years and we are waiting for marriage for that. Right now we have to make sure we give value to things that are deeper and longer lasting than psychical activities.

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    1. oh god, mind=blown. what a boring, pathetic life

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    2. That's just your opinion.

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    3. 15.5 years eh

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  14. sounds like it's the majorities opinion to me. a small percentage of people actually do this and they seriously need to wake up. you've only got one shot at life and you're going to take the most mundane route possible?

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  15. Depends on reason. One girl I was with wouldn't have sex for religious reasons. I had more fun with her, and felt more connected than any other girl I have dated. Wasn't because of not having sex, its just that it wasn't essential to keep the relationship alive.

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  16. Would I enter a relationship knowing that I would never be able to have sex with this person? Absolutely not. However, if they were somehow not able to have sex for just a couple weeks or months I would consider it if otherwise we had a good connection. But eventually if it took too long I would not be interested. Sexual intimacy plays a large role in relationships, to me at least.

    Female.

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  17. Similarly to 18, I wouldn't start a relationship with someone knowing that we would not be having sex. This includes because of disability and because of religion. I am also not willing to wait for marriage.

    However, if my boyfriend of 2 years hypothetically became unable to have sex, I would stay with him. I've found the right person and sex isn't everything, but it was crucial that we start our relationship by having sex.

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  18. No. Sex obviously isn't the most important factor in a relationship, but it is a factor.
    I would never get into a relationship with someone who was waiting for marriage for sex, it's your choice, but I'd really rather not be with someone who thinks sex is some kind of holy and sacred thing lol. It's a physical activity nothing more, having similar views on sex is pretty important in any romantic or sexual relationship.
    However, if they were just waiting, say, until we've been together a while, then yea that's cool, I understand wanting to take things slow. As well, if my SO became disabled or something partway through our relationship and couldn't have sex, then yea that's cool as well. It may be for me that it's the concept of having similar views on sex that's important, not the actual act itself.

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