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Updated on Wednesday, April 16

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QUESTION: I have a question for girls that use tinder. How many of you have actually gone through with it? I just started using it and it's just been a bombarding of guys and I'm a little nervous to go through with it.

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  1. Not a girl and don't use tinder but I just want to say that there's something about this whole thing that really disturbs me. I mean, I'm not a prude and I've both been with a few people and dated people whose number is well above mine. I don't care about that all that much because I assume that they're just living their lives like I am mine and hooking up when it feels right.

    Tinder is just "sup, like my pic?" "Wanna bump junk?" "Cool, coming over" (when people go through with it) and I really hate it. A dead stump can sound good in text messages and its just so inorganic. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned.

    Anyway, no judgements, but I've felt like posting about this for a while.

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    1. " I'm not a prude"

      Yes. You Are.

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    2. I understand that tinder and that new age lifestyle isn't for you. But if no judgements are passed, why did you feel like posting this?

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    3. Not sure actually 1c. I have these negative feelings and I can't put my finger on why. Its not like I don't hook up or look down on people who do. Every girl I've dated has had a count higher than mine (because I'm attracted to attractive people and those comfortable with themselves) and its never been an issue. Not sure why this particular facet of hookup culture doesn't sit well with me.

      Guess I was trying to sabotage the thread for my own purposes :P

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    4. Sounds judgemental to me.
      But don't worry 1, I judge people who use tinder too.

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    5. This was not a judgmental or prude post. OP was simply expressing his/her opinion... saying that he/she is not comfortable with it and has negative feelings towards it. If that was the case, good things about it would be judgmental too. Denouncing it would actually be judgmental.. which OP didn't do.

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    6. ^ OP of the original post. sorry.

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  2. i'm a girl, i've been on tinder since september. i never go through with anythig, in fact, i don't even respond to messages. i treat it more like a game, than anything with real-world implications. and i know all my female friends here use it the same way. it' just fun to click hot or not when you're bored waiting in line, or on the bus.

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    1. you are the reason my self esteem has lowered

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    2. Okay 2a, now that you know, your self esteem should get back to normal. In fact, it should get better because now you know that those girls *did* find you attractive rather than accidentally swiping right, or not having looked at all your photos or something else. You should thank 2 for letting you know

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  3. I use tinder and I have gone through with meeting up with a few guys. I do not continue to talk to ones who open with "let's hook up". However, anyone that commits effort has a chance. Ive met up with a few guys now. I don't find it weird anymore. I'm quite comfortable with it.

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  4. My friend uses tinder and she's gone on a few dates with guys so far. She knows what she's looking for and if she senses those guys only want to hook up she just blocks them. I don't think everyone on tinder is looking for a hook up, there are a small percentage who are looking for something else, like a relationship.

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