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Updated on Friday, April 11

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QUESTION: For those in a long term relationship, how often do you have sex if you're not long distance? Does one person have a higher sex drive than the other, and if so how do you deal with that?

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  1. I've been with my SO for 2 and half years and how often we have sex really depends. For the past two weeks we've had sex every day, then we went two weeks without sex prior to that. We both get horny very easily so if one of us wants sex, the other will give in.

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  2. We usually have it 2 times a week. Sometimes we go for long dry spells (2 weeks or more). But we have been together for 7 years (living together for 6.5). We struggle with it. We both want more sex, but life gets in the way. Late night cramming for an assignment or work, dog is sick, forgot it is garbage day, company is coming, opposite schedules, blah blah.
    We are really trying to make a larger effort to connect physically more often. I would also say I have a lower sex drive, and when we were younger he used to pester me for sex a lot. I had some sexual abuse in my history and we decided it would be better if he backed off a bit and I initiated the sex. Well...now he doesn't initiate at all. So it back fired in the long run. But whateves, we are happy still.

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  3. I swear this same question gets asked on a weekly basis

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  4. Me and Jill get it on everyday. Multiple times even

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  5. Been together ~2 years, when not separated by coop its daily, more or less.

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  6. Been together for four years. When we're both in the same city for months at a time, usually it's every time we see each other with time to ourselves. We don't live together so when we have time alone you can bet we're going to have sex. I'd say this happens about 5 times a week.

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  7. Been together for 3 years and once every three months approx. We don't live together so it's hard to find time alone. I have a really high sex drive and I masturbate several times a day.

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    1. One every three months? Jesus ...

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  8. Been together almost 3 years. We may have sex a lot one week, and barely do it the next. On average I'd say once every 1-2 days. We have similar drives so it always works out.

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  9. We've been together 3 1/2 years and I'd say it's about every week/other week. Even though I have a higher sex drive (female), sometimes I'm not in the mood, my roommates are home, or we don't have time. When we first started dating it was probably 5-6 times a week. Both of us are really happy with this schedule plus I know how to take care of myself.

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  10. Been together 3 1/2 years, long distance for almost 3 years, and we see each other once every 6-8 weeks on average. When we are together, sex usually once a day, sometimes more. And some days not at all, but never a time without intimacy.

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  11. Been together over two years now and live fairly close when we're both in Waterloo (I'm finishing my undergrad, he's completing his Master's)
    Most weekends we have sex, occasionally in the middle of the week if he's at my place and he doesn't feel like walking back

    Sex is great, though don't forget how awesome cuddles are

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