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Updated on Friday, April 11

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QUESTION: How many friends do most of you have (genuine friends)?

From first year to second year, I've always felt that I was missing on parties or large groups of friends at Waterloo. Granted, I have a least four really close friends (that I live with and wouldn't mind giving up a kidney for - they're the best), but sometimes I see other people hanging out in larger groups and I just think- man, where's mine? Lol. Maybe I'm just being too exclusive. I join clubs & volunteer, and meet a ton of great people- but never any lasting friendships where I could text them and proclaim a random 2am McDick's run like with my housemates or a decree that everyone gets matching pajamas.

How do you become best friends with random people? And how do you make it last?

22 comments

  1. Personally, as an introvert, i prefer to have a small number of very close friends. i have difficulty maintaining enough energy to socialize with acquaintances. When i was younger i used to worry that i didn't have enough friends, and feel left out that i didn't party the way i imagined people were supposed to at our age. but as i've gotten older (i'm 23) i've found that i get so much more fun and happiness out of a small close-knit group.

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  2. i maybe have 1 friend. i have no idea how to make new ones without just sleeping with them.

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  3. None. It's become increasingly difficult to trust people.

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    1. In my experience this kind of attitude comes from taking things too personally. Just because you trusted someone doesn't mean they'll prioritize you over themselves.

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  4. I'd say right now I'd have a couple pretty close friends. 2 or 3 really good ones and then maybe 5 not-quite-as-close friends. I'm just really open with people and goof off a lot. I don't know, I guess I just like to talk and am really hyper all the time.

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  5. 1 best friend.
    Probably 3-4 other friends I would go to if I needed help if my best friend is unavailable.
    Then a bunch of acquaintances.

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  6. If I had to define "close friends" as people I'd go to in need or for something very personal then probably 3 or 4 people. I don't do that though and if the definition is someone you could spend several days with on a trip or something (and they would reciprocate the feeling) then its up to 10 or so.

    Then there's my girlfriend :)

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  7. Close friends who I go to with real problems that I have? 2. One friend I've known since we were babies (she lives abroad and it's hard to keep in touch), and the other is my recent ex who I am trying desperately to stay friends with, otherwise I feel like I will have no one at all.

    On the surface, I'm sure it seems like I know EVERYONE, and I sort of do. I just don't let people get close to me, I only trust two people fully in the entire world and one of them is hanging on by a thread. Someone who knows me would probably think I'm the last person in the world to feel lonely, but you never know someone's story.

    At least I can spend most of my time going out to parties and meeting more acquaintances to try to forget the loneliness. C'est la vie.

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    1. You know you could always try to forge close relationships with other people. Why settle for feeling lonely. I know it might not be easy but I definitely think its doable

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    1. Same here. I also stayed in my previous relationship too long and have no idea how to speak to females. Basically, I figure people would be happier without hanging out with me. I know that it's negative, but I've seen nothing to counter it which sucks. :P

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  9. I've had a close-knit group of friends since about 9th grade. Over time people have left and new people have joined. I also have my friends who I am not as close with but still enjoy having class/drinking/hanging out with. And then there's the people from my residence floor, who I may not consistently talk to but take the time to catch up with whenever we meet.

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  10. There's a lot of people I consider real friends. (On the order of 10 or so maybe?)

    There's only one person I would consider to be a "close" friend. Over the course of my life, I've had a few, but permanence isn't really a thing. So I'm glad one can make a really close friend in 2-3 years... as opposed to having known them since you were 12 or something.

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  11. I have I think 2 or 3 friends that would be considered close on the outside, as I do talk with them most and hang out with them, but I don't feel emotionally close with them. It feels really isolating not having that connection with someone.

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  12. I'm really close with my roommates because we've lived together since first year (third year now) so we've all gotten to be like best friends. They're the people I can go to Mcd's at 3am with and just do random shit with. But apart from them, my other 2 best friends go to universities in different cities so yeah in Waterloo it's pretty much my 2 roommates and 1 other person who I consider my bestfriends.

    I am a very introverted girl and I just find that I like to be on my own sometimes. And my best friends understand that I like my space, so they know that when I'm really quiet, I'm just really spaced out and not ignoring them on purpose. But even as an introvert, I have my moments where I do like to meet new people.

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  13. Wow you need to be really appreciative of those 4 people you have in your life. I don't even have 1 friend in Waterloo. Your group of 5 seems fun. It should stay that way. You can have more "friends" just as acquintances

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  14. Zero.

    I'm not upset by it, I enjoy being alone a lot of the time. I have acquaintances and I trust and respect people and I like hanging out with people on occasion. I think one could be caught up in being so social they forget themselves.. Silence and being alone has always been my foundation and root to life, everything else is secondary.

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  15. 0. you only need people for things, and that is the base mentality whether you like to admit it or not. I need friends because I need someone to go out with for fun to fulfill my social need. You date someone because you NEED companionship, at the end of it we are all in it for ourselves, and aint nothing wrong with that

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    1. Yes and no. I think you're on the right track though. I think once you're able to see this, you can transform it into something meaningful.

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  16. kind of in your position, had more friends in hs but down to a couple closer ones at uw but not by choice, but i'd be so down for a 2am mcdicks run with you, you sound like my best friend already

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  17. I have four people I can call my besties and talk to about almost everything. I don't talk to all pf them on a daily basis, but I know they're always there for me and vice versa. 2 go to Waterloo, and other 2 go to different universities in Toronto. 5 other close friends at UW and about 5 other good friends from Waterloo/Toronto. Rest are acquaintances. I really value my friendship with others. Majority of my good friends I've known since elementary school or from childhood, but I also met some amazing people at Waterloo who I know that I want to make an effort to keep in my life. It's difficult to maintain good friendships with others especially when it's long distance, but as long as it's not one-sided, it is definitely doable.

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