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Updated on Tuesday, April 8

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QUESTION: I'm a recent Muslim convert and all of my old friends and family have abandoned me due to my new religion. Where do I make friends with my religious beliefs at UW? I'm so lonely now.

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  1. male or female op?

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    1. If female, I will eat my hat.

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    2. lol, Religion is stupid OP grow up

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    3. female. OP here

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    4. Welp, I guess there's no accounting for taste. Time to go find a hat to eat.

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  2. The MSA is a good place to start. Make sure you check out New Muslim Care as well: https://www.facebook.com/NewMuslimCareWaterloo. Chin up OP! I'd love to be friends with you :)

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      I'd totally be your friend too OP (seriously, will make a throw-away email address to post up on here if you want)
      I'm not a part of the MSA or any muslim group around the area (I'm a moderate muslim, so i go about my daily business while keeping religion a personal thing) but I'm always up for making new friends!!

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  3. y dont u make friends at muslim gatherings?

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  4. What made you convert? (just curious)

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    1. ^ if that is true, picking up any belief - religious or not - will make you weaker. Layering belief over belief just creates a war in your head.

      However, that is not nice of your family and friends to do. Like 5. said, there are many accepting people that are accepting, and those are the people you want to be around. Don't limit yourself to one group of people.

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    2. I've been researching it for years and I finally read the Quran and was so drawn to the religion. I couldn't see myself as anything except Mulsim. OP here

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    3. Have you read the Bible? Have you read the Torah? How do you know you don't identify more with teachings of Zeus? What makes you think the Hindu gods aren't really running the place?

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    4. @4.d Have you read any and all works on religion out there? If the only people allowed to have a belief are those that have learned about all of them, then we'd all be agnostic. It's like going up to someone about to get married and asking them if they've tried dating everyone else in the world first.

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  5. That's a shitty thing for your friends and family to do, to abandon you because of one choice you made and not taking into account any other trait of your personality. I am sorry to hear that.

    You don't have to find Muslim friends to be accepted. Yes, it will be nice if you do (and I am sure you will), but friendly people aren't limited to any one religion. I have friends all over the religious spectrum, and we are all very accepting of each other. So don't think that your options to make friends are limited in that regard. Good luck, I hope you find the peace you sought. :)

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    1. Why shouldn't they turn away from her. There's nothing more annoying than attention seeking family members. I'm guessing that OP is acting narcissistic, I have a few family members like this. I converted to non-belief a few years ago, I didn't go parading out to my family. They don't ask, and I don't talk to them about it. She probably walks around mumbling and pulling out her carpet in the middle of the house just to show everyone her new self. Btw why would her conversion affect the friends she already has, who doesn't have multi-faith friends? She was probably annoying them with it and always bringing it up. This post is another action in a line of narcissism probably just another excuse to let people know about her 'transformation'. So sick of attention seeking, self-absorbed people like this. The problem is YOU, stop being a burden to everyone around you.

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    2. ^ It's part of our development as humans with minds. Of course it's not OP that is doing this, but OP's mind.. Looking for salvation.. The ego will do that to strengthen it's belief - annoying people about it to prove its right and everyone else is wrong. But what you don't see, is the intense suffering the person has. OP will wake up, it might take time, but you can't escape reality forever.

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  6. Maybe his family didn't abandon him because he/she converted to Islam.

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  7. If your friends are abandoning you because of this then they were never your friends. And your family is full of a bunch of assholes.

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  8. To be fair, his friends and family might just be scared that OP will turn into a terrorist.

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    1. Turn into? I thought all muslims were terrorists by definition?

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  9. I always felt that people who read religious texts and say it spoke to them strongly seem to be ignoring a large chunk of the text. Surely you must know there's many "bad" things in most of these texts but most say why not just focus on the good? If you're just going to focus on the good, why bother with the religion at all since clearly you aren't treating it as a whole?

    Other than that, good luck on your search though I don't think religious beliefs need to be in common for friends, I think you just had a bad experience.

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  10. Why would you take up something that fucks up your relationship with all your friends and family?

    Honestly I feel like most people don't care what you believe in, its when you start talking about it that people don't want to be around you.

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  11. Maybe you talked about it so much that you were annoying them. Or maybe not. I'm just pointing out that correlation doesn't imply causation. They might not have abandoned you simply because you converted.

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  12. i would abandon my friends if they became stupid too

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  13. I'd abandon you too. Religion or the belief in a deity is pretty close to metal disability in my list of things, unless you were raised in a hardcore religious family. To convert to it though is a just.

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  14. Why not a different religion? I personally would rather eat shit than be a Muslim.

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    1. Because picking a religion is a personal thing and has nothing to do with how other people feel about it.

      Also, seriously man, that's pretty rude eh.

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  15. that is really rude, get a life.

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  16. Silly #14, you can't eat yourself.

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  17. I respect people of all religions, atheists and agnostics equally. Why is it sooo hard to find others online like this? Why does everyone have to have a stick up their ass with others who disagree with them on this topic?

    If there is one area in which we have imperfect information, its this. So if there is one topic, we should be accepting of all different opinions, this should be it. Yet everyone is so fucking adamant of their beliefs and ready to hate so many others.

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