It was a short relationship that only lasted half a year. After I broke it off, I felt regret and general shittiness for about a week, after which it turned into just general shittiness for a couple of months.
Relief and happiness A little smugness too when they tried to get me back when they realized what they lost and begged for friendship. Pure satisfaction when I see how their life has crashed and burned, and the Facebook drama that ensued with respect to the person they cheated on me for.
For most of them, nothing, since the relationships were short and I wasn't too interested to begin with. I only felt bad for one of them which lasted a bit longer and the guy was genuinely nice and not doing anything wrong, it's just my feelings faded over time and there was no way I can continue on being in a relationship. That one took me about a month to get over.
I feel terrible, been about a month since my break up with someone and it's not easy and you feel like shit after, still do. Especially because it was someone who I cared about and I know I've hurt them and it's tougher on them.
Sad to say but I also felt relief at the same time. Trying to keep up the relationship was feeling like a chore and now I have more time to myself and friends.
I always feel horrible. I have not hated any of my exes (after I dumped one, I started to hate him because of the way he acted tho) so it was always sad to hurt their feelings. They weren't right for me, and people don't take that as the logical statement it is, they find it offensive for some reason. I find that people who have never dumped anyone think that it's so easy, and you are so happy afterwards.
I realized that it was not a very healthy relationship, and I ended up with someone who is much more caring, and all around a better match for me. I am so much happier than I ever was with my ex.
Dumped my first long term boyfriend of 2 years...he cried and begged me to stay. Dumped my second long term boyfriend of 4 years...he cried and begged me to stay. For both I had wanted to do it for a while but I am really non-confrontational and I hate upsetting people for the reason that they get upset and cry and act like I ruined their life when really I'm just doing them a favour by leaving them before they expect me to marry them or something. To be fair they were both pretty out of the blue so both were really upset and confused which made it so much worse...so it sucked for me because I felt bad but I usually get back into the game pretty quickly and the attention of my next victims usually brings such joyous fun feelings that I forget all about how bad I felt for dumping them :). Heh.
doing what's best for me does not make me a cunt! staying in a relationship where I am no longer happy and my needs are not being fulfilled and leading someone on to think there is a future with me would make me a cunt!
Leaving a relationship that you aren't into anymore is normal, but having zero sympathy when breaking off a long-term relationship and referring to future boyfriends as potential victims is what makes you a cunt.
It's clear that this person is a leecher and just sucks lifeforces of males. There's no indication of her boyfriends being someone important or much of a companion... Watch out for women like this
There's something wrong with you if you suddenly don't feel happy and think you can do better. People these days don't appreciate companionship and don't know what love is anymore. Just imagine with your tiny brains how YOU, yourself, would feel if a person you cared for (genuinely care, not care for 6 months) spontaneously told you that they wanted to part ways with you. Just sit down for a few seconds and think about how you conduct yourself and how you can get rid of people in your life that fast. Maybe it's the media, maybe it's the society that we've grown up in. There is something very inhumane about this
I just want to also add that I left my girlfriend of 4 years, only to take the initiative to beg her to be with me again, after half a year. It's not that I had no other options, nor did she, as we are both easily 8+ (out of 10). But appearances aside, I sincerely hope that people look at each other for more than what you try to see in males.
11c amen! people always look at me strange/badly for ending relationships on a whim, but if im not happy i know they are not right for me and i know i can find someone who is! there is nothing wrong with the confidence of knowing you can do better and going to get it!
12c you imply someone owes you ANYTHING by calling someone who leaves their partner when they realize they are unhappy (which really actually is the mature thing to do) a cunt. Its her life and her choice, and she owes that person NOTHING if she decides it is better for her to leave.
12.e How is that playing the victim at all? Realizing you are unhappy is NOT playing the victim it is taking responsibility for your own life. It is good to be aware of your feelings and act on them accordingly. Its mind boggling how you could even think that being mature enough to put yourself in a situation that will bring you happiness is playing the victim.
I think you assume too much by assuming she is a cunt. I think you should also grow a bigger vocabulary, you won't get very far in life calling everyone a cunt.
Considering you have never seen her do any of these things, and are basing your judgment on one statement posted on an anonymous website, your point is pretty invalid. Have you been heartbroken and are still bitter about it?
12 here, and I am not a cunt, maybe you should read my reply to the post below (14d) before you throw judgment around about me and my life. Thanks. And we are not BFFs, I assure you.
There's something wrong with you if you suddenly don't feel happy and think you can do better. People these days don't appreciate companionship and don't know what love is anymore. Just imagine with your tiny brains how YOU, yourself, would feel if a person you cared for (genuinely care, not care for 6 months) spontaneously told you that they wanted to part ways with you. Just sit down for a few seconds and think about how you conduct yourself and how you can get rid of people in your life that fast. Maybe it's the media, maybe it's the society that we've grown up in. There is something very inhumane about this
I just want to also add that I left my girlfriend of 4 years, only to take the initiative to beg her to be with me again, after half a year. It's not that I had no other options, nor did she, as we are both easily 8+ (out of 10). But appearances aside, I sincerely hope that people look at each other for more than what you try to see in males.
11/12 I don't know what you guys were expecting with your commentary here, UW is full of emotionally inept nerds who live in a state of perpetual loneliness/heartbreak. I don't think they can understand the concept of "I am not happy anymore, I think it is best we go our separate ways".
Actually it is the best thing for both parties not to be lead on. But with 11/12 stating how they would break up "on a whim" or go after their "next victim" states that it's more about their own feelings rather than actually respecting both in said relationship.
It's also nice how you like to stereotype UW as emotionally inept nerds. Your intellect is quite astonishing for a university student. You must have money right?
I'm speaking from experience at this school, most of the males I have met are exactly what I described. There is always some truth to stereotypes, just as there is always an exception. I know there are plenty of normal guys, just apparently not in my faculty.
12a, 12 here. It's not like I intentionally lead them on, sometimes for the first year or so I feel like we have a good relationship, then sometimes things just change. Whether it be emotionally between us or life circumstances and I can quickly realize there is not a promising future between us. This is why I say on a whim because once I make this revelation I prefer to just end the relationship rather than drag it on and give him false hope. It's better for both of us that way. Pull the wax strip off quick, it hurts but you will like the result.
12g. "but if im not happy i know they are not right for me and i know i can find someone who is!" She recognizes she is not happy, she takes responsibility for her emotions and takes action to put herself into a situation where she is happy. Did YOU read 12s post?
I am unhappy in a relationship (2yr8mo) and I want to break up but I do not want to hurt my boyfriends feelings because I know he is very in love with me :( reading this thread just confirmed that I shouldn't considering the reaction to girls that do leave happy boyfriends. I guess I take my moms advice and suck it up to make my man happy.
If it helps, I'm in the same boat as you but the gender roles are reversed. I'm the guy who is unhappy with his current girl. Sooner or later, I will come down to a decision but at the end of the day, I need to do something in order to be happy.
17, there are plenty of other guys who would want to be with you. Just do whatever makes you happy and fuck the haters. It's your life, after all.
It's the Internet, people will get hate literally whatever they do. Even if it is a part of the Internet focused on a real community of which we're a part, people will still be dicks.
Tell your man why you are not happy, if he understand where you are coming from and is willing to work it out for you, then try to stay with him. If he doesn't, then leave. Speak with your partner before dropping Nagasaki on them
Honestly, you guys need to communicate more. Communication...... you know, like talk? Whether you are committed to breaking up or on the edge, it doesn't matter. Don't just talk to yourself or your best friend (only). Talk to everyone discreetly and figure your emotions and intentions out 100%. When you do that, things just work out??
What the fuck ever happened to working on a relationship? I've seen it countless times, honeymoon phase is over, girl gets bored and dips with no regard for the dude. Wtf ladies? Its okay to dump someone, just at least give the relationship a fair shake first. None are always peaches and rainbows.
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ReplyDeleteregret, but not for like a year afterwards til I was lonely again... probably not typical...
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ReplyDeleteIt was a short relationship that only lasted half a year. After I broke it off, I felt regret and general shittiness for about a week, after which it turned into just general shittiness for a couple of months.
ReplyDeleteRelief and happiness
ReplyDeleteA little smugness too when they tried to get me back when they realized what they lost and begged for friendship. Pure satisfaction when I see how their life has crashed and burned, and the Facebook drama that ensued with respect to the person they cheated on me for.
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DeleteI usually hesitate if someone asks me to take a dump on them. After doing so I usually feel relieved, but apprehensive.
ReplyDeleteas do i, as do i
DeleteFor most of them, nothing, since the relationships were short and I wasn't too interested to begin with. I only felt bad for one of them which lasted a bit longer and the guy was genuinely nice and not doing anything wrong, it's just my feelings faded over time and there was no way I can continue on being in a relationship. That one took me about a month to get over.
ReplyDeleteExact same situation. Feelings fade and there's nothing you can do, but it leaves you in a shitty situation...
DeleteI feel terrible, been about a month since my break up with someone and it's not easy and you feel like shit after, still do. Especially because it was someone who I cared about and I know I've hurt them and it's tougher on them.
ReplyDeleteSad to say but I also felt relief at the same time. Trying to keep up the relationship was feeling like a chore and now I have more time to myself and friends.
I always feel horrible. I have not hated any of my exes (after I dumped one, I started to hate him because of the way he acted tho) so it was always sad to hurt their feelings. They weren't right for me, and people don't take that as the logical statement it is, they find it offensive for some reason. I find that people who have never dumped anyone think that it's so easy, and you are so happy afterwards.
ReplyDeleteIt felt awful for months.
ReplyDeleteBut it was worth it.
what made it worth it?
DeleteI realized that it was not a very healthy relationship, and I ended up with someone who is much more caring, and all around a better match for me. I am so much happier than I ever was with my ex.
DeleteDumped my first long term boyfriend of 2 years...he cried and begged me to stay.
ReplyDeleteDumped my second long term boyfriend of 4 years...he cried and begged me to stay.
For both I had wanted to do it for a while but I am really non-confrontational and I hate upsetting people for the reason that they get upset and cry and act like I ruined their life when really I'm just doing them a favour by leaving them before they expect me to marry them or something. To be fair they were both pretty out of the blue so both were really upset and confused which made it so much worse...so it sucked for me because I felt bad but I usually get back into the game pretty quickly and the attention of my next victims usually brings such joyous fun feelings that I forget all about how bad I felt for dumping them :). Heh.
I second that
Deletedoing what's best for me does not make me a cunt! staying in a relationship where I am no longer happy and my needs are not being fulfilled and leading someone on to think there is a future with me would make me a cunt!
Deletethis sound likes my life lol
DeleteLeaving a relationship that you aren't into anymore is normal, but having zero sympathy when breaking off a long-term relationship and referring to future boyfriends as potential victims is what makes you a cunt.
DeleteAgreed 11.f
DeleteShould of given them the 'heads up' conversation before doing that to them,to try and work on the relationship.
DeleteIt's clear that this person is a leecher and just sucks lifeforces of males. There's no indication of her boyfriends being someone important or much of a companion... Watch out for women like this
DeleteThere's something wrong with you if you suddenly don't feel happy and think you can do better. People these days don't appreciate companionship and don't know what love is anymore. Just imagine with your tiny brains how YOU, yourself, would feel if a person you cared for (genuinely care, not care for 6 months) spontaneously told you that they wanted to part ways with you. Just sit down for a few seconds and think about how you conduct yourself and how you can get rid of people in your life that fast. Maybe it's the media, maybe it's the society that we've grown up in. There is something very inhumane about this
DeleteI just want to also add that I left my girlfriend of 4 years, only to take the initiative to beg her to be with me again, after half a year. It's not that I had no other options, nor did she, as we are both easily 8+ (out of 10). But appearances aside, I sincerely hope that people look at each other for more than what you try to see in males.
Delete11j, well said
Delete11c amen! people always look at me strange/badly for ending relationships on a whim, but if im not happy i know they are not right for me and i know i can find someone who is! there is nothing wrong with the confidence of knowing you can do better and going to get it!
ReplyDelete12c you imply someone owes you ANYTHING by calling someone who leaves their partner when they realize they are unhappy (which really actually is the mature thing to do) a cunt. Its her life and her choice, and she owes that person NOTHING if she decides it is better for her to leave.
Delete12.d playing the victim isn't going to work in this regard. stop being a cunt.
Delete12.e How is that playing the victim at all? Realizing you are unhappy is NOT playing the victim it is taking responsibility for your own life. It is good to be aware of your feelings and act on them accordingly. Its mind boggling how you could even think that being mature enough to put yourself in a situation that will bring you happiness is playing the victim.
Delete12.f did you even read what 12 wrote? Stop being an ignorant cunt.
DeleteI think you assume too much by assuming she is a cunt. I think you should also grow a bigger vocabulary, you won't get very far in life calling everyone a cunt.
DeleteConsidering you have never seen her do any of these things, and are basing your judgment on one statement posted on an anonymous website, your point is pretty invalid. Have you been heartbroken and are still bitter about it?
Delete12.l who is to say I haven't met this person? we could be BFFs. don't be a prick.
Delete12 here, and I am not a cunt, maybe you should read my reply to the post below (14d) before you throw judgment around about me and my life. Thanks. And we are not BFFs, I assure you.
Deletejust posting so i can be 12.o
Delete12.n the 'f' in BFF stands for forever. don't toss me to the curb like that.
Delete12.q i'm sorry to hear someone has referred you to such in the past. i assure you it stands for "best friends forever" in the common sense.
Deletei am sorry you could not tell i was joking by the oh burn oh snap
DeleteThere's something wrong with you if you suddenly don't feel happy and think you can do better. People these days don't appreciate companionship and don't know what love is anymore. Just imagine with your tiny brains how YOU, yourself, would feel if a person you cared for (genuinely care, not care for 6 months) spontaneously told you that they wanted to part ways with you. Just sit down for a few seconds and think about how you conduct yourself and how you can get rid of people in your life that fast. Maybe it's the media, maybe it's the society that we've grown up in. There is something very inhumane about this
DeleteI just want to also add that I left my girlfriend of 4 years, only to take the initiative to beg her to be with me again, after half a year. It's not that I had no other options, nor did she, as we are both easily 8+ (out of 10). But appearances aside, I sincerely hope that people look at each other for more than what you try to see in males.
DeleteITT: boatloads of butthurt
ReplyDelete11/12 I don't know what you guys were expecting with your commentary here, UW is full of emotionally inept nerds who live in a state of perpetual loneliness/heartbreak. I don't think they can understand the concept of "I am not happy anymore, I think it is best we go our separate ways".
ReplyDeleteActually it is the best thing for both parties not to be lead on. But with 11/12 stating how they would break up "on a whim" or go after their "next victim" states that it's more about their own feelings rather than actually respecting both in said relationship.
DeleteIt's also nice how you like to stereotype UW as emotionally inept nerds. Your intellect is quite astonishing for a university student. You must have money right?
I'm speaking from experience at this school, most of the males I have met are exactly what I described. There is always some truth to stereotypes, just as there is always an exception. I know there are plenty of normal guys, just apparently not in my faculty.
Delete14a Yes because someone with tons of money would totally pick UW as their school of choice, rofl
Delete12a, 12 here. It's not like I intentionally lead them on, sometimes for the first year or so I feel like we have a good relationship, then sometimes things just change. Whether it be emotionally between us or life circumstances and I can quickly realize there is not a promising future between us. This is why I say on a whim because once I make this revelation I prefer to just end the relationship rather than drag it on and give him false hope. It's better for both of us that way. Pull the wax strip off quick, it hurts but you will like the result.
Delete14.c One never knows really. There are a few reasons why someone would pick UW. More for sentimental reasons I would expect.
Deleteoops 14.d was a reply to 14a my bad, but could also apply to the cunt caller up on 12a regardless....
Delete12g. "but if im not happy i know they are not right for me and i know i can find someone who is!" She recognizes she is not happy, she takes responsibility for her emotions and takes action to put herself into a situation where she is happy. Did YOU read 12s post?
ReplyDelete11 here, I didn't literally mean victim LOL you guys have taken this a little too seriously.
ReplyDeleteI am unhappy in a relationship (2yr8mo) and I want to break up but I do not want to hurt my boyfriends feelings because I know he is very in love with me :( reading this thread just confirmed that I shouldn't considering the reaction to girls that do leave happy boyfriends. I guess I take my moms advice and suck it up to make my man happy.
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DeleteIf it helps, I'm in the same boat as you but the gender roles are reversed. I'm the guy who is unhappy with his current girl. Sooner or later, I will come down to a decision but at the end of the day, I need to do something in order to be happy.
Delete17, there are plenty of other guys who would want to be with you. Just do whatever makes you happy and fuck the haters. It's your life, after all.
It's the Internet, people will get hate literally whatever they do. Even if it is a part of the Internet focused on a real community of which we're a part, people will still be dicks.
DeleteTell your man why you are not happy, if he understand where you are coming from and is willing to work it out for you, then try to stay with him. If he doesn't, then leave. Speak with your partner before dropping Nagasaki on them
DeleteHonestly, you guys need to communicate more. Communication...... you know, like talk? Whether you are committed to breaking up or on the edge, it doesn't matter. Don't just talk to yourself or your best friend (only). Talk to everyone discreetly and figure your emotions and intentions out 100%. When you do that, things just work out??
DeleteWhat the fuck ever happened to working on a relationship? I've seen it countless times, honeymoon phase is over, girl gets bored and dips with no regard for the dude. Wtf ladies? Its okay to dump someone, just at least give the relationship a fair shake first. None are always peaches and rainbows.
ReplyDeleteITT: Entitled cunts who think everyone owes them something, but they don't owe anyone else anything. Good chance they are business students.
ReplyDeleteWhy u mad doe?
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