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QUESTION: How long did it take you to get over an ex?

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  1. anywhere from 1 day to still getting over them 3 years later.

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  2. One ex: next day
    Different ex: a week
    Different ex: a week

    Now I wonder if I wasn't connected enough to keep a relationship

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    1. Are you a girl?

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    2. I am a guy, I don't know why, just don't get attached to girls I start to date, no matter how hard I try.

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  3. Over a year, but he was in my class and in my circle of friends so he was basically in my face all the time. But I have absolutely zero feelings now, and couldn't be happier.

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  4. Never, I tried.

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    1. Nope. Self-pity is addicting though so keep fighting

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  5. Around 6 months.

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  6. It takes half as long as you were in a relationship to get over it.

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    1. I've heard it takes double.

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  7. One took me 6 years, the rest it took me within 6 months.

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    1. How old are you?

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    2. That grade 9 crush left its scars...

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  8. Its been a year and I'm still not completely over it.. first loves are the hardest

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  9. Define "over". I feel like I will never forget my first love.

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  10. it's been a year and a half and i'm just starting to really be okay again. i saw a great quote the other day:
    "first love never dies, but true love buries it alive"
    i found it to be really helpful, hopefully some of you will too

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    1. OP here. Lately, I have been thinking that he really wasn't my true love, although everything felt so right at some point. I guess it's a little comforting to know that there must be someone else out there. :/

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    2. I highly doubt he was your true love. The probability of that is very low

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  11. First love took me over a year to be okay again. It helped that he was completely locked out of my life after.

    Next ex: 6 months
    Another ex: a month and a half

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  12. OP here. You people are scaring me now. You mean a year from now I'm still going to be thinking about him? I hope not. He was my first boyfriend. It hurts because he wanted us to get back together and I did too. I was hopeful. He led me on, only for him to call me three weeks ago that he has a new girlfriend now; spend his birthday with her. Last year, he spent it with me and I spent mine with him. He just threw everything away; all the memories we shared. He moved on so fast and that hurts even more. Told me I was special and everything. He even talked to me about marriage and asked me what I wanted to name "our kids", wanted me to meet his mom. I miss him badly. I never gave him my virginity; I guess I'm relieved about that. I would be much more devastated had I done so and then we parted.

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    1. Wait you never slept with him? That's probably why he's gone.

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    2. I thought the exact same thing but didn't want to say it. 13, this is an extremely highly plausible scenario.

      She shouldn't sacrifice her morals for a boy though. 13, don't go sleeping around now thinking it will make boys like you. Don't do the opposite extreme of our current situation. There is a perfect middle ground.

      That being said, virginity means basically nothing to me.

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    3. If you haven't met the parents a year in I'd say there are issues there. Whether the issues are you or them, I think a year is way too long to be kept out of the whole family thing.

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  13. Getting over an ex takes as long as you let it.

    If you don't cut off contact (block on Facebook, never talk to in class, never see anywhere) it will take forever.

    The easiest way to move on is to cut off contact entirely.

    It's not immature it's highly rational and logical.

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    1. +1. Neither of us were FB people. I didn't have FB when I met him (and still don't), he didn't have one either. I've given away everything he gave me, except for a complete French-learning package (we were at Coles and he asked me to pick out what I wanted), which I really need and want to keep. I've not used it at all; still unopened. I want to keep it and start using it in the summer, but guess it won't be a good idea. Maybe I'll sell it.

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    2. ^Guh, don't sell things you need just because he touched it once. Seriously, you're giving him too much weight...importance. Its like people who set themselves incredibly strict rules for when to drink and when not too and what. You're taking it too far in the other direction and letting it control your life anyway.

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  14. @13a, nope, I never did. He knew I didn't believe in pre-marital sex from the get-go and he said he was fine with it. He did say it was the first time he was in a relationship in which there was no sex (he has been in about four before). He was pretty patient, I'll give him that. I did think about the whole sex thing as one of the possible reasons why he chose to find someone else. His new girl must be doing all the things I didn't want to do.

    @14, Yea, I might keep the package. Would be very useful to me =p. "Maybe I'll sell it" was just a thought.

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  15. Hey don't worry too much. Took me about 2-3 weeks and then by a month I was completely over him. Now, I honestly couldn't be happier we're not together any more.

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  16. Aw OP i know its tough.. but ya cut all contact. Delete old text conversations, skype, facebook, etc. It makes it much more difficult to move on if youre tempted to remenisce. If you do reminisce then reminisce about the bad memories of him. Just remember first loves are the toughest to move on from but you learn so much!

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  17. Ditto to #17. It's hard, but the second you cut contact it's 100000 time easier. Took me probably 6 months to get over my ex, and we kept talking about getting back together or maybe not getting back together. Cut contact and that all ends.

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  18. First ex took a long gruelling 6 months to get over, second ex took a bit less although I started dating another girl weeks after I was dumped (was really stupid of me). Third ex took a few months. At first I was really relieved, but it definitely took a while to get over it. Lots of things still bother me about the relationship. I cut contact with all of them, although I was able to become friends with the second afterwards and it's completely platonic. I'm not going to lie, when I get lonely I get flashbacks of all of them, good and bad. But that's probably because I haven't rebounded and focused on me instead.

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  19. Not long brah. I just humped another chick that night and twas all good.

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