OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Monday, March 24

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QUESTION: Is it strange that my boyfriend and I have been having sex for a couple months now, and I've never had an orgasm? We use condoms so I was thinking that might be the reason. Has anyone every experienced this?

31 comments

  1. It's not strange at all. It's actually quite normal because some girls have a harder time reaching orgasm with vaginal penetration (I know I do...I've been close!). For me...it's easier to have a clitoral orgasm. So..try that out!

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    1. Same! The only way I can orgasm is through oral. I luckily have a boyfriend who cares enough and goes down on me frequently.

      I'd first trying it out yourself and see what works. Talk to your partner about it, try new things until you get it right.

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  2. First step: More foreplay

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  3. Hey, I've been with my boyfriend for two years and I've never had an orgasm; it doesn't matter whether we use condoms or don't use them. C'est la vie, I suppose.

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  4. These words can break down any guy

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    1. I've made 19 of 20 girls (roughly) cum by penetration and made them cum about 3 or 4 times before I decided to give'r. There was just 1 girl that wouldn't no matter how hard I tried......... She said to one of her friends that she couldn't feel it most of the time. Sure, she must have been banging 12 inch, 8 inch-girth dildos/dicks 24/7, but this still haunts me. Women, penis size is a very, VERY soft spot for guys.

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    2. 4a. That was a load of shit..

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    3. Lol at this. Pure bullshit

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  5. These comments suck. Very few girls can orgasm from penetration alone. The actual percentage is less than 10% He needs to be stimulating your clit.

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  6. Tell your boyfriend to do some research. Probably has nothing to do with condoms.

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  7. I have never ever had an orgasm during sex.
    I can when masturbating though.
    It's all about the clit.

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  8. Try touching your clit during penetration, I actually prefer that more than just masturbating on my own. My orgasms are kind of random, sometimes I can come pretty quickly but other times it takes so long that I have no energy to continue.

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  9. No, it's not strange. But I feel bad about faking it, as much as I don't want to. My boyfriend understands that it takes me a while sometimes- but when I glance at the clock and see that we've been going at it for forty-five minutes and he's practically red in the face- I'd rather fake that moan and shudder to boost his ego.

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    1. Fuck you. There are no good reasons to fake an orgasm in a relationship. It really ruins any trust in the bedroom that could really exist, especially if the other person finds out.

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    2. @ 9a +1. Fuck you 9, don't fake it.

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    3. Agreed with the fuck you don't fake it

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    4. To those of you saying don't fake it, you probably havent experienced what 9 described. Sometimes I just can't orgasm even though my boyfriend is trying his best, and it's not his fault. I can tell he's tired and if I don't come he'll have an extremely disappointed face and blames himself for not doing something right. Then I feel bad for making him feel bad. It's honestly best for both of us if I just fake it. I do try to keep the faking to a minimum though.

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    5. @9 and 9D no.

      Its 1a here. As I said before, I only come via oral and it takes me a long time. I've been there, where he's been working hard but I just can't get off. What do I do? Tug him back up, tell him it's just not happening and move on with the sex.

      You lack communication if you think he'll feel bad for not doing it right. You don't think the first time it happened, by boyfriend wasn't upset and disappointed? I reassured him it was normal and that he was doing an awesome job. He's over it now.

      Actually, usually we'll have sex then he'll go down on me and try again and it sometimes works, so I still get mine while you continue faking it.

      There is ZERO reason for faking it.

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    6. I'm on your side 9. For me, I'm just happy to have that physical contact and it - really, in the end - doesn't matter to me whether I come or not. My boyfriend tends to get depressed if I don't have an orgasm and I don't want him to feel bad for no reason. So, I fake it.

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  10. OP here! Thanks everyone! It's good to know that I'm not alone on this! Hopefully we can all reach that orgasm just from penetration alone! :D

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    1. Why would you refuse to try clitoral stimulation? It can be his hand you know.. During sex..

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    2. Who says I refuse to try clitoral stimulation? I just thought maybe something was wrong with me because I can't orgasm due to penetration alone.

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    3. You totally missed the point of everyone's comments ... we don't need to orgasm through penetration. Some of us will never be able to and we're okay with it

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  11. I've never had an orgasm through any means. I think it's somewhat common for women to not be able to orgasm? or at least to have difficulty orgasming

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    1. It's common for women to be unable to orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, but most women can achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation.

      If you're curious, you should try experimenting by yourself to give you a sense of what you like. You probably know your body better than a guy does.

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    2. There are so many variables and factors that may lead to a woman's inability to orgasm. Lots have to do with diet and hormones... Which basically explains at least half of that "90% of women can't orgasm from penetration"

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    3. It's less common because their male partners are inexperienced and bad in bed.

      95% of girls who say they can't orgasm.. It's all the guys fault. I've never been with a girl who can orgasm from penetration alone.

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    4. @11c You're so wrong. Do some research. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the guy's experience. Some women just aren't hardwired to come by penetration.

      If you're a guy, welcome to a world where women can fake orgasms.

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  12. Sex is not supposed to be done like they do it in porn. You want to get reallllly close... its all about rubbing the clit like others have said. Find a rhythm that she enjoys and keep going at it.. she will cum.

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  13. You guys are looking at this all wrong. The vag and the clit are connected are are one entity. There should not be a clear distinction between vaginal orgasm or clitoral orgasm. Orgasm is an orgasm.

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  14. 3 words.

    Hitatchi

    Magic

    Wand

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