I think it's perfectly logical. If it bothers you now, even a little, something like that will only make it harder down the line when it becomes a bigger issue.
Case in point, I have a similar thing with a zero tolerance for smokers. I have friends who do but it's an immediate mood killer for me as an SO. It's a preference just like anything else. And it's better to say no up front than to accept and try to change the person later.
OP here: Not sure where the anger comes from, but I was interested in perspective. I really don't care what others think for my own benefit, but rather am interested in examining how society makes choices in relationships.
What else are you suppose to base your dating choices on? I think it's perfectly acceptable to base your personal dating choices on whatever you want.
For me, I won't date any smokers, I won't date anyone fat, I won't date anyone that's not white or Asian. I don't see what could be wrong, this is my personal preference.
I feel the same way as 4. I will not date someone less intelligent than I. I will not date someone who is fat. I will not date someone who is obnoxious. At this point in my life, I have only ever dated white guys because that's who I'm attracted to. Why is that an issue?
No, I don't think you are. My previous boyfriend sounds a lot like the girl you described. I decided not to judge him based on his one bad habit but it ended up pissing me off quite a bit in the relationship. Like when he would go home to get high and then come back to campus, or when he would leave his room to go downstairs and get high. I broke it off because of that amongst other reasons. Don't settle like I did, OP.
I would see how into pot she is. Some people do it for recreation, a thing to do over the weekend, just like drinking. It's not true that anyone who smokes pot is addicted to it. I would not judge her solely on the fact that she smokes pot.
But then again, if it bothers you, don't date her. I'm just saying look at how hooked she is to it, & whether it affects her lifestyle & choices.
Keep in mind also that everyone has habits you'll find annoying. It's up to you to decide whether or not each particular habit will be a deal-breaker, but it's unreasonable to write off all people who have annoying habits, unless you're content being single. At least to quit pot (if she were so inclined) is easier than to stop snoring!
I think it's perfectly logical. If it bothers you now, even a little, something like that will only make it harder down the line when it becomes a bigger issue.
ReplyDeleteCase in point, I have a similar thing with a zero tolerance for smokers. I have friends who do but it's an immediate mood killer for me as an SO. It's a preference just like anything else. And it's better to say no up front than to accept and try to change the person later.
doesn't your actions reflect upon your personality?
ReplyDeleteWho cares what anyone else thinks? You can date whomever you want for whatever reason. Stop asking for societies approval you faggot.
ReplyDeleteOP here: Not sure where the anger comes from, but I was interested in perspective. I really don't care what others think for my own benefit, but rather am interested in examining how society makes choices in relationships.
DeleteYou should really watch your mouth.
What else are you suppose to base your dating choices on? I think it's perfectly acceptable to base your personal dating choices on whatever you want.
ReplyDeleteFor me, I won't date any smokers, I won't date anyone fat, I won't date anyone that's not white or Asian. I don't see what could be wrong, this is my personal preference.
Lol so no people of colour? Get da fuck outta here
DeleteI feel the same way as 4. I will not date someone less intelligent than I. I will not date someone who is fat. I will not date someone who is obnoxious. At this point in my life, I have only ever dated white guys because that's who I'm attracted to. Why is that an issue?
DeleteIf you have a problem with it, don't date me.
No, I don't think you are. My previous boyfriend sounds a lot like the girl you described. I decided not to judge him based on his one bad habit but it ended up pissing me off quite a bit in the relationship. Like when he would go home to get high and then come back to campus, or when he would leave his room to go downstairs and get high. I broke it off because of that amongst other reasons. Don't settle like I did, OP.
ReplyDeleteI would see how into pot she is. Some people do it for recreation, a thing to do over the weekend, just like drinking. It's not true that anyone who smokes pot is addicted to it. I would not judge her solely on the fact that she smokes pot.
ReplyDeleteBut then again, if it bothers you, don't date her. I'm just saying look at how hooked she is to it, & whether it affects her lifestyle & choices.
Keep in mind also that everyone has habits you'll find annoying. It's up to you to decide whether or not each particular habit will be a deal-breaker, but it's unreasonable to write off all people who have annoying habits, unless you're content being single. At least to quit pot (if she were so inclined) is easier than to stop snoring!
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