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Updated on Friday, March 21

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QUESTION: Is a guy's excuse of being away for the summer a real excuse for not wanting to date? Or does he really mean he's not that into me? Have any guys here said the same to a girl they're attracted to?

He says he "likes me" but doesn't want to start anything now since school is ending and he's going away for the summer.

13 comments

  1. He's not that into you. I started dating a guy a month before graduating and moving home and he decided I was worth it.

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  2. I think its just complicated. I want to ask a friend out, but I know she won't be in the same city for 4 months, and a different country for 4 more, so I don't want to start anything in the hopes we might be able to when she is back.

    if he was super into you he might say yes, but he might just not want to ruin a good relationship. Just depends on the guy. It could mean he is just not into you, its a hard situation.

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  3. If you were really into a guy, is that what you would tell him?

    There's your answer.

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  4. Lol it means he's going away for the summer

    Don't read so much into it lol

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  5. It depends, but if it were me it would be a real excuse. I've had 2 serious relationships go through a summer where we were in different cities and the summer was tough and almost ruined both of them.

    If i was in his shoes I would say the exact same thing.I wouldn't want to start anything because it would most likely be a) short-lived b) a constant drain on the summer

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  6. If he liked you enough he would want to date you even if it meant doing long distance. Going away for the summer as a reason not to get into a relationship means he wants to keep his options open aka. Bang other girls which means he's not invested in you.

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  7. He wants to fuck other girls without having to think of you

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  8. Too early to make any commitments. If you guys haven't known each other for a very long time, or have only recently started hanging out one-on-one, then he probably doesn't want to commit too early yet.

    Distance is hard for relationships. But its even harder for new ones.

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  9. It honestly doesn't matter. Move on either way. Even if he's into you, he obviously doesn't want to be commited to a relationship that might not even go anywhere and be forced to do it long distance. And if he's not into you then forget him and move on.

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  10. Similar to what 9 is saying: don't take it personally, (act as if) it is a legitimate excuse. Which is not to say you should wait for him. Live the summer not worrying about him, then when he comes back if you're still single and interested and he's still single and interested you can see where things go. I doubt he's being duplicitous.

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  11. OP here. Thanks for the comments. Just an update... he decided to now go away for only 2 months of the summer (May and Aug), so he'll still be around in June/July. But has not brought up dating again. So I guess it really just means he's not that into me lol.

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