OMG UPDATE: Question? Answer.

Updated on Wednesday, March 19

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QUESTION: How does a female go about asking out guys around campus without coming off as a creep? I don't really have trouble finding guys to date but thinking of taking a new approach and going after the ones I like. Any suggestions? Tips, tricks?!

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  1. Honestly, any half decent guy will talk to you if you are just a nice normal person and don't overthink things. There are no tricks or tips, just go up, say hi, and you can be upfront and say "you look like someone I'd want to talk to, what do you like to do for fun" or just straight up ask them out!

    I think most guys would take it as a compliment to be asked out randomly, and worst case they say no (which may suck), but if they are nice they are polite about it, and if they are dicks about it then it's not someone you would want to date anyway!

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  2. I don't think many guys would think you were a creep if you asked them out. Most guys would consider it a welcomed change/pleasant surprise. And like 1 said, no tips or tricks really; you can straight up ask them out. :)

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    1. What if they are a grad student?

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    2. We're the same as other guys. Unless you are our student, in which case it is ill-advised.

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  3. It would be a nice change of scenery and relief. Less pressure for the guy, they'll appreciate that trust me!

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  4. Don't worry OP, its usually just girls who find guys creepy when they get asked out. Guys will probably be flattered, even if they're not really into you. Some might be douchier than others when they let you down, but I think it's worth trying.

    It's only creepy if you're ugly and really persistent.

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    1. It's only creepy if I repeatedly say no and you are really persistent.

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  5. You can only be creepy if you are a guy it seems. All you have to do is come up and say "Hi, hows it going?" any guy you would want to go out with will reply and keep up a conversation. If you feel like the conversation is about to start dying say you have to go and give them a piece of paper with your name and number on it and say "text me". I say text because some guys will be nervous and would rather text. Telling them to text you will make it 100 times easier for them. It also means you don't have to deal with rejection face to face. They text you within the next few days, you are one step closer, if not, then whatever, at least you tired and got practice. You need your name on there too.

    if you want to be more direct, and the guy is just sitting there studying or just hanging out, go ask if they want to get coffee lunch or dinner depending on time and preference. Suggest somewhere in the plaza, and they might suggest a different time or ask for somewhere quick on campus. If they say they are busy and don't offer a different time or place, then its a no, and move on. It happens.

    Its really the same as guys asking out girls, without the possibility of being creepy.

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