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Updated on Monday, March 17

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QUESTION: I was hanging out with my boyfriend, and he let me use his computer to play around with while I waited for him to get ready. When I clicked onto the search engine, I saw that his last Facebook searches were two of his ex-girlfriends. I felt a bit iffy for a moment and we've been together for over a year now.

Is it wrong for me to feel a little bit jealous or upset? Is it normal for people sometimes to look up their exes sometimes? This is my first relationship still, so I don't really know...

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  1. Yes people creep their exes all the time to make sure they're not as happy as them. It's different if they are talking to the exes!

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  2. Stop worrying. He's with you for a reason.

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  3. Yeah nothing to worry about

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  4. Nothing to worry about 99% of the time. As 1. said, as long as it's just creeping, it's nothing. I've done it, my GF has done it, all my friends have done it. Just hope that they aren't mentally masturbating to them or whatever lol #paranoia

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    1. I agree, 4. If it were, like, one of his exes and it was the same one each time you borrowed his phone or something then I would be worried lol

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  5. I search this one ex. I makes me happy seeing she is doing somewhat well even though she is crazy

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  6. You're not crazy, I can imagine why you'd feel this way. But you probably have nothing to worry about unless he is talking to them a lot and hiding it from you. I creep one of my exes occasionally because I actually hurt him a lot when I dumped him (it was out of the blue for him - I was a dumb teenager) so it makes me feel a bit better to see that he's happy now. Some people are also just nosy and I think I fall into that category too - I like knowing what everybody is up to for no reason. And like others have said, some people check to reinforce the idea that they are doing better than their exes because of bitter feelings or even just habit.

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  7. It's not wrong to feel the way you do, OP, but you really shouldn't worry. Nor should you try anything crazy like hacking in to his facebook account. If you continue to be irked by it and the feeling doesn't go away, you can approach your bf about it in a respectful manner.

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  8. BE honest with him, dont channel anything in. Just let it out. You will feel relieved and you will get answers.

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  9. just ask him straight up, be like "i noticed you were checking their fb". You should be able to do that in a relationship without seeming annoying or clingy. if it's bothering you, it's bothering you and he needs to know. You can make him stop checking their Facebook, but it gives him a chance to reassure you that he's with you because he loves you and that you have nothing to worry about !

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  10. I did this. It was fine? We're adults though so idk...

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