out of curiosity, is this because you don't see each other often? one of you/both of you have a lower sex drive? it sounds like you'd like more sex so is it your partner?
We actually live together for the time being. She has a lower sex drive than I do, though that's mostly because of her depression. I have been very accommodating over that issue, though I do wish we were a little more freaky, more often.
Female. LT committed (live together). 2-3 times a week.
Used to be about 2-3 times a month (or less), cuz I just had zero sex drive and was depressed. I went off birth control and we switched to condoms instead - it has been such a huge difference. I am actually the one initiating the sex now.
Why did you get off of the pills? Not covered by insurance or some other reason? My GF stays on the pills just because she loves the raw sensation (and that the condom hurts + doesn't feel good) and she loves being creampied.. -(#11)
I am covered. I have been on the pill for over 6 years (I am 25 btw). I had been having issues with pain during sex due to being dry. My doctor kept telling me I just need to use more lube and foreplay. We were using both all along. I got fed up with their lack of help so we decided to see what would happen if I went off the pill. Now we don't have to use lube because I am naturally wet enough to have sex pain free.
Best decision of my life.
I too liked the skin to skin contact, but when it came down to enjoying and wanting sex, or being in severe pain during and after sex to the point of never wanting it, enjoying sex won.
Thanks for the knowledge. I did notice that my GF used to be incredibly wet before she got on the pills and now there's just enough... When did the dry season come along (lol puns)? Did it start "recently" or did it happen when you got used to the pills?
It got progressively worse over the years. About 10 months ago it was the breaking point. I have been on the pill for over 6 years - so I guess the hormones just weren't cooperating with my body. I was on a really low dose pill as well.
In a committed relationship, 3.5 years. It depends on the time of year. During exams/near midterms its not very often, but during the rest of the time its a couple times a week.
Might as well be, but what does that make the GF?? I hear that couples go from sex every day to just 2 or 3 times a week, and I still don't fully understand. I guess love and the fact that we both maintain a nice body has kept the drive up.
Male, 1.5 year relationship. Currently about 2-3 times per week, but we live in different cities and is much higher when we are less than 2 hours from each other.
Omg, how/why do you people in relationships have sex so infrequently?? My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we have sex almost every day, and often more than once. It's the best.
It's simple: sex just isn't the top priority. It's definitely nice and we do agree we have sex often enough, but we just get too busy for it sometimes. He's in co-op and I'm a 3rd year Mathie, both with demanding extracurriculars. At the end of a long day, you kinda just want to hang out and sleep and cuddle more than have sex.
@16a: If its getting old you're not doing it right.Doesn't mean its a top priority or that you can't be happy in your relationship but its just not there.
Female. When my boyfriend and I were on stream, we would have sex everyday. This term, I see him every other weekend and we have sex about 4 times per weekend. We've been dating for about a year and a half, and we both have pretty high sex drives. If we're on stream during exams, hooking up about twice a day is a guarantee. And it gets better and better every time. ;)
Female, single... if the definition of "sex" requires penetration, it's been a year and a half at least, otherwise six months.
Honestly, sex makes me feel stupid. It's also a huge time sink and saps my motivation... feel like I can't do anything else all day after. I mean, it's fun, but I can't comprehend how people want to fuck multiple times a week, let alone per day...
I'm not sure how you can feel this way about sex, but sometimes I feel this way after masturbating. If your sex is just a little shameful (for you in general, not saying you do things that are shameful) then maybe that's the reason?
Very often we'll have sex twice in one "sitting" just because we love to just hang out and cuddle naked after. Give me 20min and I'm up again so we have round 2.
In other relationships its been less regular and a decline in sex always signaled the end. Not because I would break up with someone who didn't want it. Hell, my ex and I barely did anything for the last few MONTHS and it only bothered me after we broke up because it became so bloody obvious she hadn't cared for me that way anymore but stayed with me out of convenience. Fuck her (but not actually haha).
On average about every other day. I'm a girl, in a committed relationship for 2.5 years. We have pretty similar sex drives and this frequency works well for both of us.
female, in a committed relationship. started out as a casual fwb thing. i only see him a couple days a week, but usually we have sex 4 or 5 times per day when we're together. we also have other people that we occasionally have threesomes or foursomes with on the weekends. also when we have time, we like go to Oasis Aqua Lounge in Toronto for public sexytimes ;P
Male. In what I thought was an FWB but it's starting to feel like a relationship. Basically when she's in the mood or wants it..3-4 times a week.
ReplyDeleteMale. In a relationship and it's 2-3x a month. (Wish it was more but whatever.)
ReplyDeleteout of curiosity, is this because you don't see each other often? one of you/both of you have a lower sex drive? it sounds like you'd like more sex so is it your partner?
DeleteWe actually live together for the time being. She has a lower sex drive than I do, though that's mostly because of her depression. I have been very accommodating over that issue, though I do wish we were a little more freaky, more often.
ReplyDeleteSorry 2.a...I didn't hit the reply button. Dammit.
Delete2a here, that's fair
Deletegood luck! you seem like a great guy.
Thank you, 2.a! I really appreciate the compliment. :)
DeleteI live with my boyfriend and we only have sex like twice a month. I do have depression though. But when I get horny, I like to get freaky. ;)
Deletei wish i had a fwb
ReplyDeleteFemale. LT committed (live together).
ReplyDelete2-3 times a week.
Used to be about 2-3 times a month (or less), cuz I just had zero sex drive and was depressed. I went off birth control and we switched to condoms instead - it has been such a huge difference. I am actually the one initiating the sex now.
talk to 3!
DeleteWhy did you get off of the pills? Not covered by insurance or some other reason? My GF stays on the pills just because she loves the raw sensation (and that the condom hurts + doesn't feel good) and she loves being creampied.. -(#11)
DeleteI am covered. I have been on the pill for over 6 years (I am 25 btw).
DeleteI had been having issues with pain during sex due to being dry. My doctor kept telling me I just need to use more lube and foreplay. We were using both all along. I got fed up with their lack of help so we decided to see what would happen if I went off the pill. Now we don't have to use lube because I am naturally wet enough to have sex pain free.
Best decision of my life.
I too liked the skin to skin contact, but when it came down to enjoying and wanting sex, or being in severe pain during and after sex to the point of never wanting it, enjoying sex won.
Thanks for the knowledge. I did notice that my GF used to be incredibly wet before she got on the pills and now there's just enough... When did the dry season come along (lol puns)? Did it start "recently" or did it happen when you got used to the pills?
DeleteIt got progressively worse over the years. About 10 months ago it was the breaking point. I have been on the pill for over 6 years - so I guess the hormones just weren't cooperating with my body. I was on a really low dose pill as well.
DeleteMale. zero.
ReplyDeleteMale. Single. 3-4 times a month
ReplyDeleteF. Around 5 times a month. Committed relationship for 3 years.
ReplyDeleteDoes my pocket pussy count? If so 30+
ReplyDeletehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-i1XL7EwZZo
DeleteThad Castle! I wish they didn't end the show so early
DeleteIn a committed relationship, 3.5 years. It depends on the time of year. During exams/near midterms its not very often, but during the rest of the time its a couple times a week.
ReplyDeleteI have sex with my GF almost every day, often twice or three times. Have been with her for 2.5 years.
ReplyDeletewhat are you? a rabbit?
DeleteMight as well be, but what does that make the GF?? I hear that couples go from sex every day to just 2 or 3 times a week, and I still don't fully understand. I guess love and the fact that we both maintain a nice body has kept the drive up.
Delete*nice bodies
Delete0 male single
ReplyDeleteMale. Single. Once every year or two.
ReplyDeleteMale, 2-4 times a week. Happens more on the weekends, we're both really busy during the week. In a relationship.
ReplyDeleteMale, 1.5 year relationship. Currently about 2-3 times per week, but we live in different cities and is much higher when we are less than 2 hours from each other.
ReplyDeleteOmg, how/why do you people in relationships have sex so infrequently?? My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and we have sex almost every day, and often more than once. It's the best.
ReplyDeleteKinda gets old after a while lol
DeleteIt's simple: sex just isn't the top priority. It's definitely nice and we do agree we have sex often enough, but we just get too busy for it sometimes. He's in co-op and I'm a 3rd year Mathie, both with demanding extracurriculars. At the end of a long day, you kinda just want to hang out and sleep and cuddle more than have sex.
DeleteAlso, sex after a few days feels GREAT.
@16a: If its getting old you're not doing it right.Doesn't mean its a top priority or that you can't be happy in your relationship but its just not there.
DeleteFemale in a relationship approaching two years. It averages to about 4 to 5 times a week. Busy schedules do get in the way though.
ReplyDeleteFemale. When my boyfriend and I were on stream, we would have sex everyday. This term, I see him every other weekend and we have sex about 4 times per weekend. We've been dating for about a year and a half, and we both have pretty high sex drives. If we're on stream during exams, hooking up about twice a day is a guarantee. And it gets better and better every time. ;)
ReplyDeleteMale, single, 2 times a day give or take 1. Her name is Pamela Handerson
ReplyDeleteFemale, single... if the definition of "sex" requires penetration, it's been a year and a half at least, otherwise six months.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, sex makes me feel stupid. It's also a huge time sink and saps my motivation... feel like I can't do anything else all day after. I mean, it's fun, but I can't comprehend how people want to fuck multiple times a week, let alone per day...
Maybe your partner & experience wasn't the best one? Women (in my experience) tend to fall asleep for a few hours right after.
DeleteI'm not sure how you can feel this way about sex, but sometimes I feel this way after masturbating. If your sex is just a little shameful (for you in general, not saying you do things that are shameful) then maybe that's the reason?
DeleteMale, in a relationship, Once a day on average.
ReplyDeleteVery often we'll have sex twice in one "sitting" just because we love to just hang out and cuddle naked after. Give me 20min and I'm up again so we have round 2.
In other relationships its been less regular and a decline in sex always signaled the end. Not because I would break up with someone who didn't want it. Hell, my ex and I barely did anything for the last few MONTHS and it only bothered me after we broke up because it became so bloody obvious she hadn't cared for me that way anymore but stayed with me out of convenience. Fuck her (but not actually haha).
On average about every other day. I'm a girl, in a committed relationship for 2.5 years. We have pretty similar sex drives and this frequency works well for both of us.
ReplyDeletefemale, in a committed relationship. started out as a casual fwb thing. i only see him a couple days a week, but usually we have sex 4 or 5 times per day when we're together. we also have other people that we occasionally have threesomes or foursomes with on the weekends. also when we have time, we like go to Oasis Aqua Lounge in Toronto for public sexytimes ;P
ReplyDeleteJesus, 4-5 times a day? Are these like 5 minute spurts?
DeleteEVERYONE IN THIS THREAD IS NOT AS HOT AS YOU IMAGINE.
ReplyDeleteI bet you have the nastiest neck beard in the world
DeleteIf anything, that should give 24 hope ;)
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