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Updated on Monday, March 3

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QUESTION: Has anyone ever had a random person approach them on campus and strike up conversation?

I hear that this happens a lot, but it never happens to me. I've tried to make myself more approachable over the years (no more walking around with earphones in, keeping my head up when I walk, walking around with a neutral/positive facial expression). In terms of physical attractiveness, I'd say I'm at least a 5. I'm brown though, and I know a lot of people find that un-attractive. I'm guessing appearances matter a lot when it comes to approaching strangers? Dammit.

I'm not trying to find a boyfriend, I just want a friend.

18 comments

  1. I have from time to time when in line for food or something, but from my observations, most people are too busy with their own schedules to have time to talk to random people.

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  2. Yeah.
    I enjoy it, but I'm never sure if they're hitting on me or not.

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  3. Ya, happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I was just eating lunch by myself and a dude just walked up to me and asked if he could have lunch with me. We talked for a while and now we're friends. Wish I was brave enough to do the same, getting to meet random new people is great!

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  4. My resting face probably makes me unapproachable and having all of my classes back to back doesn't leave me with much time to talk with others.

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  5. People sometimes make passing comments, but I've only once had a guy actually strike up a conversation and continue it with me. It was in the summer and he said something like, "Nice weather we're having." It really took me off guard and then we had a random chat as we both walked to our classes. I was (and still am) already seeing someone so we didn't exchange numbers. I'm pretty shy and don't think I normally look very approachable when I walk places

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  6. ya, happens, never on my will.

    as an aside, brown girls are cute

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    1. you just made a brown girl's day
      :)

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  7. I don't think this happens a lot.

    If you want it to happen more often, there's an obvious solution to this.
    (Approach people yourself; being "open" is an excuse to justify your shyness.)

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  8. I don't think you have anything to worry about! Most people on campus are usually busy studying!

    I've had one guy come up to me at PAC and hit on me, but besides that nothing else really.

    I do tend to strike conversations with people when I'm waiting in line.

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    1. I forgot to mention, but also the majority of my friends that I have, I've made by going up to them or by starting a conversation with them before/after or even sometimes during class.

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  9. I've had this happen a couple of times this past fall semester.

    The first and second time was about the bus schedule or something about the weather. Just a random conversation

    Another time was waiting for the bus, but we talked about football, which was pretty cool.

    There was also a time where someone asked for directions to PAC, and I just walked with them to it, talking about random things.

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  10. This happens quite a lot to me actually, maybe 3-4 times a week? I think it's really just because I'm always on campus all the time. Sometimes people would just make a remark, like on the book I'm studying or my expression... who knows maybe I just look funny. .

    Most of it is just small talk, I think people intrinsically want to connect to other people, very rarely do people randomly walk up and just introduced themselves to me "hi, my name is..." style.

    Conversations rarely happen if I'm on the go, since I'm usually in a hurry. Maybe stay in one place?

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  11. I've only had it happen once, while I was eating in SLC. Some guy asked if he could sit with me. (The food court area was pretty empty at the time) I can't remember what we talked about. I don't really know what his deal was though because the next time I bumped into him, I said hi and he just looked at me funny.

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    1. ahaha prolly some guy looking for pussy

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  12. Why not try being the one who does the approaching?

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  13. I'd strike up a conversation with you if I knew what you looked like. TBH I've never really had anyone come up to me on campus. I get it all the time off campus though.It doesn't matter how attractive you are either. Most people are busy or anti-social here.

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  14. I'm a brown girl and I get approached at least once every two weeks when I study on campus a lot. Usually, it's just a guy who is interested and tries hitting on me, and I turn him down because I have a boyfriend. So I can't really say whether this would lead to a friendship or something more in other circumstances or not. But I think the best way to make friends is to meet friends of your friends! More likely to get along that way :)

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    1. w-what if you don't have friends to begin with? ;-;

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