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Updated on Sunday, March 2

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QUESTION: One of my really good friends wants to break up with her boyfriend because he's too submissive in bed. (never wants to get on top, never leads, or even initiates)

I personally really like him because he brings us food (like both of us) and I don't think the next one will. Their relationship is actually pretty great, always laughing, doing stuff, and she told me she thinks she loves him. But she feel like she's forcing sex on him, because he's so disinterested all the time. He turned down a blowjob to watch south park.

Valid reason for breakup?

21 comments

  1. "i personally really like him because he brings us food" lolllllllll but anyway maybe he's shy/inexperienced/immature and doesn't know how to initiate it? otherwise he's probably gay

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    1. Or maybe he's just not very sexual... It doesn't have to be some sort of problem.

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  2. lol @ u like him because he brings you food.

    that is all

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  3. If I were you're friend I'd address the situation. If he isn't aware of this, how is he to change?

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  4. "I personally really like him because he brings us food (like both of us)"

    LOOOOOOL, OP, you sound adorable.

    Well... they're both young and figuring out what they want out of a relationship, so I'd let them be and figure out things for themselves. She might feel like sex is important to a relationship / has a high sex drive, him not so much.

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  5. lol @ your first world problems.

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  6. I think at this stage, she needs to to talk to him about it directly. If there's not really any change and she feels it's a big enough issue, it could be cause to break up. Sexual compatibility is important.

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    1. So if my girl doesn't wana have sex with me I can end it with her? Talk about double standards.

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    2. @6a. Preach!

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    3. 6a if your girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you there is a big problem in your relationship, so yes end it.

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    4. I'm pretty sure OP is saying that there's a big difference in their libidos, not that he doesn't want to have sex with her at all. If that were the case then he would say no.

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    5. Agree with 6. She needs to talk to him. Randomly breaking up because she doesn't want to deal with it is hilarious.

      Agree with 6c. 6a you are a spineless sap. If your girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you, then yes you can end it. There are obviously some serious issues in the relationship. in no way am I saying a relationship is all about sex (even though you're going to give some shitty unoriginal retort about that, "love is all that matters blah blah"), but if you don't believe sex is important in a relationship then you are extremely emotionally/relationshipy immature and inexperienced

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    6. @6a.

      If your sexual needs are not being met, then it's a perfectly good reason to break up with a girl. Just like it being a perfectly good reason to break up with a guy if a girl's emotional needs are not met. viseversa for guys and girls

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    7. ^ with the addendum that this advice only applies if you have TALKED ABOUT IT with your partner.

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  7. That's a pretty stupid reason to break up. If you need more sex than your partner wants to give then why not just watch porn or something? It's not like you need a physical dick up your vagina every time you get horny. It's called masturbation.
    But hey, if your friend thinks she really needs someone more dominant in bed then tell her to pass her boyfriend off to me cause he sounds like a charmer and I'm a top. ;)

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  8. You guys should have a threesome. He'd like that and maybe he'll bring you more food next time.

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  9. You can watch south park and get a blow job at the same time.

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    1. I would watch south park and give a blow job at the same time.

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  10. I think the bf is hinting he's really interested in bringing food and you into the equation. Take the hint.

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  11. the fact that this man just rejected a blowjob is ridiculous. r u fkn kidding me

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    1. We are not all horny as shit 14 year olds anymore.

      I've rejected a blow job before..... Once. Lol.

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